How does this work??

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by Icarium, Feb 22, 2011.

  1. Icarium

    Icarium New Member

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    Looking for female imput here.

    My gf is sexy and very hot she's into most things sexually always willing to try new stuff but and here is the strange bit, when we are apart she reckons she has no sex drive!!

    She doesn't masturbate on her own but loves to when she's with me. She loves watching porn with me gets very horny but would never watch it on her own.

    Gets turned on when she thinks of me or when i sextext her or call her, we split up for nine months (no she wasn't preggers) last year and she went with no-one else, didn't do anything sexually (not even to herself) not even masturbate until we got back together.

    I wish i could say the same about me.........but that's a different story!!

    She's says she has no sex drive unless i'm around or she's thinking of us together sexually.

    Am i just a very lucky guy or..................
     
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    Ummmm....she's lying! I'm sorry, but she's gettin it on the side SOMEwhere
     
  3. Icarium

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    Ha Ha i've often thought that but she isn't, she is totally honest, totally upfront and wouldn't lie to anyone for anyone, not even me. I'm highly sexed and i masturbate on a regular basis, she's highly sexed only with me but she doesn't even get the urge to masturbate herself when on her own.

    She doesn't even have any toys, i've got toys that we use, i even offered to get her one for home but she refuses.........wahey
     
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    It sounds reasonable enough to me. I am way more horny when I'm around someone I'm having sex with, so I find it entirely believable that someone could experience the same thing but on a more extreme level.
     
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    I have that..

    I am very sexual..but working my dildo by myself or self masturbation does not appeal to me anymore.. Its boring..I need real flesh..or the warmth and strength of another guy's fingers

    I need a guy to do it or be present when i'm doing it...
    I get wet instantly..just by the thought he is approaching my house..

    But otherwise..i'm good.

    I do watch porn though..because my head does need to reminisce or something..I sometimes need that little twinge you get..when you are horny.

    Before I always felt I had to act on those feelings and call some guy..but now I can't be bothered.

    But when i'm close to someone who's hot..i do feel it..
    I'm waiting untill it builds up enough to let go..and grab some poor guy to have my way with :biggrin1:
     
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    For what it's worth, I've observed that with women as well. I'm not sure why that is. We're wired differently from them, that's for sure. I saw a quote once that may scratch the surface...

    "The desire of the man is for the woman. The desire of the woman is for the desire of the man."
    Anne Louise Germaine de Stael

    To me this means, I see a woman I'm attracted to, I just want to fuck her. If a woman sees a guy she's attracted to, she wants him to want her and then she wants to fuck him.

    Am I close?
     
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    It's not unbelievable, for some personalities are very loyal in their affections. If you believe in astrology get your horoscopes done, both of you, and see if her Venus and Mars and Moon and yours have some sort of relationships and positioning which might give you insight.

    When I was still happy in my marriage, I sometimes had to masturbate when we were parted, but it would make me cry too, since it was a poor substitute for my beloved.

    In the meantime, she would definitely like to be exclusive with you, so break it to her gently that you are not able to stay the same with her. Her loyalty could be a great asset in a long term relationship, but if it bothers her that you cannot bring her along everywhere you go and therefore are going to spread yourself around to others, it may be best to let her adjust to sharing you.

    Also, whatever you do, make sure you do not bring her a disease!
     
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    Personally, she strikes me as having to be in love to have sex with that person. I'd consider yourself lucky.
     
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    Sometimes people arent into sex when you're not around them. It's the feeling of being with someone that gets you excited. Example: I was dating a wonderful guy that I was really into; when he went on a business trip a hot guy by any standard tried to put the moves on me, but there was no part of me sexually excited by him.
     
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    go with lucky you! other scenarios are just exercises in mental masturbation and will make you crazy paranoid.
     
  11. need2bsexy2

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    The fact of her abstinence is not unbelievable. As Helaga said, not only are people different but men and women are different. Do not compare your sexual activity to her lack during the 9 months. Accept her at what she says.
     
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