How fast do you get hard?

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Guys, I need some advice. It seems that over the last year or so I've developed some performance anxiety issues. Primarily, I think I suffer from low testosterone and that's hat fueled my anxiety. You see for the last several years (I'm 37) I haven't gotten night time or morning erections. I could always get it up for sex or masturbation, but it took a little physical stimulation.

I had my testosterone checked but couldn't find a doc who would do anything about it - once it was 235 (below the normal range) and another time it was 434 (within the normal range, but low in my opinion). I had been using Viagra for sex but after a couple months, it seemed to be losing its quick acting efficacy ... I was really concerned then.

I started taking supplements - L-Arginine, Acetyl L-Carnitine, Propyonil L-Carnitine, Zinc and low and behold, my night time erections started returning. Then, I discovered I no longer needed Viagra and could perform fine (multiple times even) without it. I was thrilled and for 6 months I was really happy with this. Usually I'd be getting a chubby from kissing and hugging, then a little bit of oral and I was up and raring to go.

Lately though, the old worry started to creep in again as I had a couple experiences where I was not getting hard immediately from oral. When that happens, my mind starts racing, I start panicking and then you know it makes it that much harder to get hard.

Let me clarify - I've never not been able to get it up (knock on wood), but increasingly, I'm obsessing about "is it hard yet? ... oh God, it's not hard yet! ..." This takes the fun out of it. Once I'm hard, I'm good. But when we're done, I'm already thinking about will I get hard for round 2. It's a slippery mental slope.

Bearing in mind I'm 37 and not 17 ... could you guys share with me if you ever find it takes you longer to get hard. I know my problem is mental (and possibly some testosterone issues as well), but I expect it to be hard fast and when it's not, I can't help but panic. This is a self-fulfilling prophecy I know, but hearing your experiences might help.

Thanks,
Eisenhower
 

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usually i can get erection in 1-2 minutes of touching my dick.. sometimes wen im not in a mood i cant get a hard on for 30 minutes. most of the time i get hard on when i dont it!
 

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Thanks to the Internet I am aware of the great variation in mens' experience with erections. Some of us were glad for the passing of the time when as pre-teens we seemed to be in a constant state of erection. Finally having an outlet for all that sexual energy was the shift to erections triggered by opportunity for release with someone else involved.

As a more mature adult those incidents which were viscerally exciting and brought on erection, I have developed another expectation. Even though I am what they call "along in years" in my mind I am still very sexually alert. IN other words: I can still be stirred by the sight of a sexually attractive person, often a total stranger, and my brain seems to send messages to my flacid penis to get prepared. The result is a flow of wonderful lubrication which my foreskin usually is able to contain until I can get to a bathroom to sop it up before it stains my trousers.

As a sedate married man, I do get "excited" and the head of my penis will be bathed in lubrication when I know that my partner and I are in the mood for intercourse and before we can get naked I am fully erect. I take no prescription or other drugs. My doctor simply tells me to keep doing what I have been doing as I am obviously doing something right.

But, I realize that is no help for the OP.
 

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Well depends on how tired or excited I am and what's being done to it. From fully soft to fully hard takes a couple of minutes on average. Used to be much faster when I was younger!
 
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I once met a guy (in his 20s) who would probably put us all to shame.

He was fascinating. He could go from zero to rock in 4 seconds flat.

After fooling around we fell asleep, but I woke up before he did and I had to test-drive it for research purposes.

I only touched the tip of his dick for seconds (5? 10?) and even in his sleep he could get rock hard in an instant. By then, his dick had become a toy and I played with it like I was 4 years old.
 
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I'm like that guy i can get hard in like 5 seconds, only problem is , it happens very often lol

Awww!

To me that awesome power beats being big.

Of course if you can go from zero-to-bitch in 4 seconds, have length and girth and also shoot very far...it's even better.
 

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I think most men get hard pretty quickly, but I have known some who do take some time. The most extreme was one who took about ten minutes to get completely hard, but from then on it was hard all the time.
 

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30 seconds to 1 minute. Check the video link below. It is 1 minute on the money.

Performance anxiety is a self-fulfilling prophecy. The more you worry about it, the worse it becomes.
 

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normally it takes maxmum 30 seconds. I've tried getting hard without using hands or porn and it took me only 1 minute! My record of cumming as fast as possible from soft to cumming was 52 seconds
 

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Awww!

To me that awesome power beats being big.

Of course if you can go from zero-to-bitch in 4 seconds, have length and girth and also shoot very far...it's even better.

Im also that guy, Im 35 and have amazing control. Happens in seconds and I can do it by thought. Its almost like god felt bad for giving me a below avg penis and made up for it by giving me control and huge loads.

But in regards to your comment, I would trade all that in for 3 more inches + some thickness.