How hard is it for guys to say 'no'?

rob_just_rob

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headbang8 said:
In my confused younger days--to my shame--I twice allowed myself to be bullied into a relationship with such women. These ended badly, as they must.

Unfortunately, I have had the same experience.

And I still remember the argument she gave me when I decided to break up... that we BOTH had to agree to break up. :eek:

Needless to say, I was forced to disabuse her of that idea, as novel as it was.
 

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Girls Does Not Like Rejection...They Take It Emotional That Something Is Wrong with Them.....:cool: ....Sometime us guys have Blue Balls and don't want to be bother for now...maybe later.
 

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I had a hell of a time saying no once a few months ago. There was this girl that I'd more or less flat out adorred for a long time. Beautiful, charming, funny, really intelligent, NOT SINGLE. She flat out propped me one night and I shot her down; not because I gave a crap about her boyfriend, but because I didn't want to lose respect for myself.

Was she mad?

She said "hi" once to me in the last six months. I think that's an answer.

The funny part is that, if a coin were tossed, that'd probably the odds of me saying yes or no if something like this ever came my way again.
 

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I've been proped by a couple of older women in the past. Keep in mind that I'm only out to a few select people. The first one was the older sister of a friend. She was like 60 and I was like 37. She was drunk and I wasn't drunk enough nor did I have any desire to have straight sex. The other one was just a couple of months age. This one thinks she is so sexy that no man could ever turn her down. I had know her late husband before she met him and that's how I know this woman. After Frick, not a real name, passed away I listened to her problems and she turned to me for advice on a few matters. Turns out that she was afraid to stay alone at night and asked me to move in so she wouldn't be afraid. I told her I'd think about it but if I did it would be as friends and nothing more. She agreed. I decided not to move in and she seemed ok with my decision. She tried on numerous occasions to get me to spend the night, so I wouldn't have to drive home so late. Of course I declined and thought everything was fine. I thought this woman was a friend, very, very wrong answer. This fucking bitch has been going around telling people (read mutual friends) that I wanted more out of the relationship than just to be friends and that I had been begging her to let me move in with her. She also told them that I was head over heels in love with her. Well some of these mutual friends know the truth and just about feel out in the floor laughing when she told them the lies. So I'd say she didn't take rejection very well. I don't have anything to do with her any more. I did , however, have lunch with her youngest daughter last week and she told me that she and her siblings had wondered how long it would take for me to figure out that she was a compulsive liar and a user (user of people). Now I might not be the sharpest knife in the drawer but this woman was a few bricks shy of a full load.

As for how hard it is for me to say, not a problem. If I don't want to do something, I'll tell you "NO" in a New York minute.
 

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NYC8" said:
Fellas--have you ever had a would-be partner court you very persistently and/or aggressively, assuming that since you were a guy and had a dick there was no way you wouldn't want to fuck, and then get offended or even angry if you refused?

To be blunt, yes.

I've had married women grope me and proposition me and I just don't go there. I've had controlling, manipulative women do the same and I avoid them because I'm not someone's plaything.
 

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To echo some of the other postings, I've had this happen most at parties now that I'm in college. I'm polite to all of them, excluding the drunks who have to be shouted at in order to get them to leave, and if they get pissed off afterwards I don't see it as my issue.