how important are looks to you?

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i've never considered anyone out of my league, because i'm beautiful and highly intelligent.

i've found myself attracted to guys who aren't especially good looking. attraction is a complex thing.
 

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i've never considered anyone out of my league, because i'm beautiful and highly intelligent.

i've found myself attracted to guys who aren't especially good looking. attraction is a complex thing.
But, they have been smart?
 

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Looks can be very important. Initially, often times it is the appearance of someone who catches your eye and often times without the looks, you don't trully get too interested. Not saying it doesn't happen, but this is sometimes. When you find that one person who is physically your type AND a great person who is caring and cracks you up, then you know things are great... until you find out he's straight...(sighs)

I have been interested in people I wasn't initially attracted to. Just being around them and seeing how they were, personality ends up winning out and then you look at them and you're attracted to them. You find something physically that gets you. I've had friends who don't understand why I would fall for a certain person because they find them unattractive and keep saying I can do better. Look wise, sure. But at that point it was their personality that made them stand out.
 

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Echoing what people have said, looks are important but not the only thing that should matter. You shouldn't feel ashamed by admitting that looks really are a big deal. After all, we are animals, and it is biological to desire the most attractive mate possible. The good physical appearance of a person is likely the first thing that draws one to another.

That being said, I think I someone once wrote in an old thread "when you're in love, a person who is a 7 on the hot scale goes up to an 11 in your head and heart," or something along those lines. As a young guy, it wasn't a while ago that I scoffed at that idea. But it happened to me, where I met someone who wasn't conventionally "hot" or attractive in the conventional standard. I wasn't in love, not by any stretch, but I liked the guy a lot. He went from being about a 6 or 7 on the looks scale to almost a 10 in my eyes. His glowing personality, kind heart, killer wit and sense of humor, among other things led to that.

To sum it up, yeah, looks matter. But if you really want to form a special bond with someone, you're gonna have to look beyond it. And you might just find yourself very pleasantly surprised.
 

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It has to be more then just looks. My gf was quite chubby when we met but her great humor and personality got my attention. Also her apperance and hygeine was the up most.
 

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Looks matter to me as I believe they are the visualisation of what's going on inside a persons mind.

So seeing a 200 pound woman tells me she lacks self criticism, poor stress management, socialy unaware, low self image, uneducated and a lack of self discipline.

So to me it's not about the excessive fat as some large women can look pretty but for me it is what it represents.
And I always hear the excuse of some disease or medication and that is exactly what they are, excuses.

Doesn't mean all of the above can't still be true for a slim DD bimbo but the odds are a lot slimmer.

Same goes for one of my neigbor girls who has a B cup but does everything to make em look like a D cup and puts excessive make up on.

Tells me she is dying for male attention regardless who it's from or if they are in it for the long run.

Wouldn't go for her either even though she is a pretty girl her desperation putts me off.

So looks do matter and at the same time they don't, just for me I look for clues in your appearance and what they tell about a persons psyche.
 

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I think looks are important to me. But looks are also highly subjective. When I met my husband he was visiting a friend at the hospital where I worked. It was evening and the 3-11 shift was there. We were all recent grads within 5 years.

I was taken with this man. But the so were 5 other 20 something's. I was the one who had to remind him visiting hours were over....4 times.
But in the long run it was much more than looks. There was a deep connection from the beginning. So, looks may initially bring 2 people together, but something else has to keep them together.
 

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Looks matter to me as I believe they are the visualisation of what's going on inside a persons mind.

So seeing a 200 pound woman tells me she lacks self criticism, poor stress management, socialy unaware, low self image, uneducated and a lack of self discipline.

Or a metabolic disorder?????

So to me it's not about the excessive fat as some large women can look pretty but for me it is what it represents.
And I always hear the excuse of some disease or medication and that is exactly what they are, excuses.

Doesn't mean all of the above can't still be true for a slim DD bimbo but the odds are a lot slimmer.

Same goes for one of my neigbor girls who has a B cup but does everything to make em look like a D cup and puts excessive make up on.

Tells me she is dying for male attention regardless who it's from or if they are in it for the long run.

Wouldn't go for her either even though she is a pretty girl her desperation putts me off.

So looks do matter and at the same time they don't, just for me I look for clues in your appearance and what they tell about a persons psyche.

I can't be arsed picking this apart as the complete and utter shit it is, so why not do everyone a favour and wear this on a tshirt so we all know EXACTLY what you are just by looking at you. Ugh.
 

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Or a metabolic disorder?????



I can't be arsed picking this apart as the complete and utter shit it is, so why not do everyone a favour and wear this on a tshirt so we all know EXACTLY what you are just by looking at you. Ugh.

You can't be arsed to pick it apart because it's true and you have no real argument to defend your opinion, so you follow up by attacking my personality.

Pretty weak minded and uneducated it seems to reaffirm my preconceptions doesn't it.
 

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There's a girl at my gym who was severely overweight, you can blame it on genes or some disorder but she can be found at the gym nearly everday pushing hard to achieve her goals.

She is still far too overweight but she lost about a 100 pounds in the last 6 months and I respect and like her a lot despite being overweight because I know she will achieve her goals despite all the odds she has to face she is a fighter.

Unfortunately in most cases she is the exception.
 

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my ex mother in law is fat.

she's also the main wage earner, incredibly sociable and out going, confident, has an active social life, is educated, takes pride in her appearance and always looks well presented, has no major issues or flaws that i've ever noticed in all the years i have known her... and is perfectly content being a large lady married to a man who likes his ladies large, surrounded by a circle of friends who appreciate her.

i might find a lot of flesh extremely unattractive (actually, i'll go as far as to say i find it physically repulsive) but i don't feel the need to justify that by assuming and labelling with a myriad of personal failings.

i've met plenty of skinny losers.
 

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There's a girl at my gym who was severely overweight, you can blame it on genes or some disorder but she can be found at the gym nearly everday pushing hard to achieve her goals.

She is still far too overweight but she lost about a 100 pounds in the last 6 months and I respect and like her a lot despite being overweight because I know she will achieve her goals despite all the odds she has to face she is a fighter.

Unfortunately in most cases she is the exception.


this is true

of all the fat asses ive ever seen, 99.999% of them are fat because they eat too many cheeto's and empty calories while sitting on a couch all day

you can lose weight and be in shape if you eat right and exercise regularly, all the BS about disorders and stuff are very, VERY rare

when it comes to how in shape someone is, everyone has a choice, they can either be fit, or not

so when a girl makes the choice that she doesnt want to be fit, that is just as gross to me as a girl who likes to smoke cigs, or who is a heroin addict ... it means she doesn't care which intern makes her unattractive (not to mention the jelly rolls lol)
 

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my ex mother in law is fat.

she's also the main wage earner, incredibly sociable and out going, confident, has an active social life, is educated, takes pride in her appearance and always looks well presented, has no major issues or flaws that i've ever noticed in all the years i have known her... and is perfectly content being a large lady married to a man who likes his ladies large, surrounded by a circle of friends who appreciate her.

i might find a lot of flesh extremely unattractive (actually, i'll go as far as to say i find it physically repulsive) but i don't feel the need to justify that by assuming and labelling with a myriad of personal failings.

i've met plenty of skinny losers.


i don't think people are calling out of shape people (yes skinny people can also be out of shape .. everyone knows people who are skinny fat) losers, both my parents are on the heavy side and they both are VERY successful people, i have friends who are fat and are goin places in life, i know many girls who are cool, ambitious, smart, funny ... but they are fat ... nobody is calling them a loser or judging them, its just unattractive (to me at least)
 

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i don't think people are calling out of shape people (yes skinny people can also be out of shape .. everyone knows people who are skinny fat) losers, both my parents are on the heavy side and they both are VERY successful people, i have friends who are fat and are goin places in life, i know many girls who are cool, ambitious, smart, funny ... but they are fat ... nobody is calling them a loser or judging them, its just unattractive (to me at least)

You say this but just before that...

this is true

of all the fat asses ive ever seen, 99.999% of them are fat because they eat too many cheeto's and empty calories while sitting on a couch all day

You call nearly all fat people lazy.
 

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You say this but just before that...



You call nearly all fat people lazy.


when it comes to taking care of their body, yes, they are lazy .. if they cared about their body they wouldn't let themselves go ... but that doesn't mean they are lazy in every other aspect in life (business, school, being a nice person etc.)
 

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I'm not into "fat" guys but I do prefer some meat on their bones. I am not into A&F models, six packs, skinny guys though there are exceptions, I guess. Just a normal guy, leading a normal life is what attracts me more than anything. If he's a nut about going to the gym and/or missing a day at the gym, you can have him. Give me your average Joe any day.
 

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Very. I've been called shallow and selfish for believing so, but it's true. That's the first and main thing you see when you are talking to someone IRL... Hence the phrase "face-to-face".
 
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