How Important Is A Guy's Looks?

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Not directly a penis question...but how much importance do women put on a guy's looks when deciding whether to go out with him, fuck him, or eventually marry him?

I've always been a bit self-conscious about my appearance. If I had to guess I'd say I'm right around average...slightly less on some days, slightly more on others to even out exactly. I don't ever recall anyone ever telling me to my face that I was ugly, but I've always construed a lack of interest from women as essentially implying that.
 

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First impression attractiveness doesn’t matter as much as how the man ends up being attractive after conversation and getting to know him a bit better. I’ve met guys who upon first impression, were very good-looking, but after 10 minutes of conversation, they became less attractive. I’ve also met “average” looking guys who got extremely attractive after a few minutes of conversation. Funny, smart, self-deprecating can turn average into hot!

So as long as a guy is doing the best with what he’s got (clean, good haircut, dresses well), the first impression can be misleading. I’m old enough to know the really great guys usually take a bit of time to find.
 

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To be blunt, I have fucked some straight up ugly men, because their minds and ability to respect others turned me all the way on.

I have turned down sex with some very physically attractive men because they were assholes with attitudes that turned my pussy into the Sahara desert.

Hygiene matters too.
 

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Be heartened that women have varying tastes. Some like muscle, some like slender, some like teddy bear types.
From bald to dreadlocks, clean shaven to backwoods beards, you’ll have the quirk that clicks for some.
 

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Did you enjoy it? Did you orgasm? Afterwards did you think "Damn, I wish I hadn't done that?"

Very much. Most of the time, I don't have a very hard time getting there.

There are very few people who I wish I hadn't fucked, but it never had anything to do with their looks.
 

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Very much. Most of the time, I don't have a very hard time getting there.

There are very few people who I wish I hadn't fucked, but it never had anything to do with their looks.

Sounds like you've fucked uglier dudes than me...???
 
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I look at appearance like a present... I'd rather have newspaper or brown craft paper with a fantastically sweet gift on the inside than gilded wrapping paper with a dog turd on the inside.

I dated a guy for a while who was not traditionally handsome... balding, overweight, plain... but was a great guy. Some of my friends didn't get it at first and accused me of dating "down". Once they got to know him on the inside, several friends gave me snaps for placing priority on what's important... character, intelligence, kindness, etc. We had a few disconnects about important matters, but he's still the best boyfriend I've had .
 

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It is a personal preferences , someone they like tall , muscles , tattoo , others prefer fat , beards , long hair ....
we cannot ignore that physical appearance isn't important but definitely it is not the only element , the character , respect , education , kindness are important and many girls prefer smart guys and it is the main key to reach their pussies.
for me i can not tolerate few things like bad smell , smoking and if he doesn't look decent and respectable
 
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It is a personal preferences , someone they like tall , muscles , tattoo , others prefer fat , beards , long hair ....
we cannot ignore that physical appearance isn't important but definitely it is not the only element , the character , respect , education , kindness are important and many girls prefer smart guys and it is the main key to reach their pussies.
for me i can not tolerate few things like bad smell , smoking and if he doesn't look decent and respectable
FYI, there are no “girls” here. LPSG has women.
 

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Yeah I'm not that shallow, looks are a very small part of attraction. When you say you're average looking I guess you're judging yourself against the stereotype handsome man! You have to remember that most people have their own perspective of what is attractive hunni, based on looks alone the stereotype good looking guys don't do it for me. For instance without going into detail, I find big hairy biker type dudes attractive, I like a wrestler/strongman bod on a guy who also carries some meat on his bones.
Sure I've slept with guys in the past when I've been single and just looking for fun because of pretty much their appearance alone but I'm pretty sure that also stands for guys doing that too;)
When it comes to a relationship tho, apart from what I find attractive, which as I said is a small factor, I need to feel comfortable with his personality, his voice is a thing for me, his attitude to life etc. I also very much need a guy who gets me, we have to click, enjoy each other's sense of humor. I'm a fun loving woman who likes to see the lighter side of everything (even if a little twisted) I have an evil bitch temper when I'm pissed off and find it hard to let go of something once it's in my head, I need a guy who can deal with that. I'm also a smoker and a drinker so I need a like minded guy in that respect, there's so so many different things that make someone attractive hunni there's too much to list Lol.
Don't worry too much and don't let your confidence slide, there's bound to be many women who find you attractive. X
 

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A person doesn't have to be a conventionally attractive. I prefer interesting face with character. I like crooked smiles, overbites, bumpy noses, and the like. If there was one commonality to the folks I find attractive it's that all of them are lit from within. They are very present and self-aware, both show up in expression and baring.

Co-signing the "wash ya ass" statements. Present yaself like ya give a damn. Like ya on a first name basis with Hygiene. Well worn clothing, if clean, is forgiven cuz I know the love of a Velveteen Hoodie.
 

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Eh...fuck it, I'll write a quick lil advice column blog post/ramble here since I've been thinking about this quite a bit lately

Answer: It depends. Ultimately, your personality - intelligence, passion, your actions, compassion, lifestyle etc - matter more than anything, especially in long term relationships. Picture someone who's hateful, socially and culturally weird, or thinks of you as less than human and try to imagine having enough emotional rapport w/ them to make even a one night stand worth it. It's not.

That's not to say looks never matter - they often do. To some extent at least. You'll rarely hear most sexually and romantically active woman admit it because it leaves us vulnerable to misogynistic emotional abuse, but, to put it one way, there's a reason why the most famous pop stars and actors tend to have sex appeal, and why dating apps are popular and happen to have a swipe left feature. I'll leave it at that. Maybe it sounds kinda shallow, but yes, sexy looks can definitely help with getting your foot in the door.

That said, any dude who tries making it about sex/gender would do well to put their historical perspective glasses on and notice how much more socially acceptable it is and has been for men to have bodytype preferences instead of women. At the end of the day we have just as much right to ogle over hotties as anyone else.

Looks aside, anyone who you'd want to date tends to base most of their attraction on, as Bruce Lee might say, the emotional content of a person: emotional connection is and should be more important than anything as far as relationships AND hookups are concerned. As someone ITT already pointed out, it's the difference between a shitty gift with nice wrapping paper and an amazing one that's aesthetically uninteresting on the outside. So regardless of your appearance, if on the inside you're gross, ugly, fragile or insecure, it tends to be unattractive to us for the most part. Oh, and due to a phenomenon called the uncanny valley effect, sometimes looking super attractive can even amplify a response of disgust to unattractive behavior. At the end of the day, it's not always easy street for conventionally sexy men (or women) since you're still forced to put as much work into your personality as your appearance. So while it might be true that you feel judged for your looks more often than you'd like, please also keep in mind how the content of your actions and emotions can enhance looks that aren't generally considered attractive.

Lastly, while it might seem less common, there are absolutely girls who chase a variety of body types - including short and/or fat men! So it's highly possible dudes who are insecure about their appearance could easily miss out on a partner who's specifically attracted to the looks they're afraid of being judged harshly for. At that point, if you strike out, it's 100% on you, I'm afraid. So keep at it and do what ya gotta do to be who you want to be and who the person you're attracted to wants you to be! Good luck :)