Extremely important.
'Course you gotta trust your partner, and your partner has got to trust you as well. No other way to get to trusting each other than being honest with each other. Or I could be wrong. Haha.
Nevertheless, dishonesty in a relationship is a common cause of problems among people in a relationship whether as friends or as lovers.
What's on your mind, temptotalk?
I think it's extremely important too and was just wondering if there were some sort of trend going now where most people don't see it as important anymore. Completely agree with you though.
I blame chauvinism, patriarchy, and the capitalistic society for that. A lot of us men are taught to become homophobes, or at least repress homosexual tendencies. If you deviate from that norm, you are thought less of a man.
Hence, this effed up culture precisely teaches that men could be dishonest all they want, since they're men. Women, on the other hand, if they'd had past relationships whether with men or women are perceived not as liberally as one would an dishonest man.
Can you do me a favor and get out of my head.[/QUOTE
Which head are we talking about?
Think religion and entertainment has a lot to do with it as well
Add education to that. Nothing works faster than (mis)education at perpetuating crappy ideologies.
you say pretty much all of what i was thinking so now i don't have anything left to type.
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Kevin Bacon! There i said something?
So you're thinking of Kevin Bacon?
This is a wonderful sentiment - thank you, Phil.More important than Honesty in any relationship is KINDNESS. Because if I am KIND, then the only things I will be dishonest about are the things that would only harm my love. And I won't DO anything harmful that I would need to conceal.
* I have a strong feeling that the coming flames will make me regret responding to this thread. *
Well, I've been honest about my promiscuity. I've been honest about my failed relationships, and what went wrong, and how much of it was my doing. I've been honest about my foibles. I've even been honest about my fears. I expect the same in return.Well since you asked. Was going back and forth on the topic of sexuality then remembered i saw a topic on huffington post not too long ago about well...
Is This Man Acting Unethically If He Doesn't Tell His Girlfriend He Dated Men?
then was about to ask the men of the site how they felt. Stopped then considered that i got into enough drama, figuring i'd just ask of all people. I think it's extremely important too and was just wondering if there were some sort of trend going now where most people don't see it as important anymore. Completely agree with you though.
Well, I've been honest about my promiscuity. I've been honest about my failed relationships, and what went wrong, and how much of it was my doing. I've been honest about my foibles. I've even been honest about my fears. I expect the same in return.
I've already been married to a guy who I am pretty sure is in the closet. I just couldn't deal with that situation again. Do you know what it is like to be devoted to someone who does love you, but is only pretending to be attracted to you? To break off the relationship and discover he's mourning his lost opportunity to make a family more than the loss of your partnership? I can't come out okay on the other side of that twice. I can't do this again and still be myself. If my current dude had a sexual history that included same-sex experimentation, curiosity, even fantasy, I would not have committed to him. If I found out he lied to me about such a thing I would be very disappointed, and then he would be very sorry. It isn't irrelevant. Not to me.
Now, to address your generalized OP, honesty is important. I give of myself to the people I choose to have around me. I want their real selves in return.