How important is kissing (read description first please)

Discussion in 'Women's Issues' started by D_Darius Danglers, May 7, 2011.

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The unrivaled kisser or the experienced lover

  1. The unrivaled kisser

    17 vote(s)
    65.4%
  2. The experienced lover

    9 vote(s)
    34.6%
  1. D_Darius Danglers

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    I know ladies often talk about the importance of the kiss, and that even pure kissing is a vital part of foreplay, but since the ladies I've encountered here are mature adults who aren't afraid to be honest about sexual matters I was hoping you could truthfully respond to this poll.

    I want to present a hypothetical situation in which you can only choose one of two extremes; the perfect kisser or the unrivaled lover. You have absolutely no romantic investment with either of them.

    Lets say you have 2 guys, both of whom are equally attractive in every respect.

    One of them is a phenomenal kisser, the kind who can make your toes with just his kisses and outside of anything overtly sexual has the both the delicate subtlety and the raw passion to literally 'make you feel, like you're the only girl in the world!'; but is a complete disaster in bed, hits all the wrong buttons all the time and, the few times he manages to keep it up for longer than half a minute, with whom you have to fake every orgasm with just so he'll start ravaging you with his mind-blowing kisses again.

    For the other the kiss is more of a (rather unnecessary) step towards getting to stuff you and he spends most of his time trying to feel you up rather than invest in the act. Insert overly aggressive tongue, arrogant brags about size (of which he grossly exaggerates) and sexual prowess, and anything else that would make you want to just punch him in the face. But when he somehow manages to get you into bed it turns out he can back up his brags. Formidable stamina, an unrivaled repertoire of positions and masterfully executed techniques, and an understanding of the female body that always leaves you in a quivering heap of ecstasy; so much so that you would put up with his distilled asshole nature just for another ride.

    I tried as much as I could to balance them out in terms of pros and cons, but it still basically boils down to the kisser or the fucker. Sorry if I was too harsh on either of them.
     
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    damn dude, thats a hard choice. when it boils down to it though, i would have to say the kisser. a kisser can learn, and he would be much more receptive to suggestions about improvements. but a fucker? thats a lost cause. id imagine that after a while, sex with the fucker would just piss me off. I would see how much time he had put into building his experience and think it is such a waste he could not be more well-rounded. the arrogance would annoy me, too, and there would be no accounting for that.
    it is always easier to learn better habits than to break the bad ones.
     
  3. Eris

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    The kisser.

    As good as sex with the alternative might be, it's the kiss for me that opens the door to intimacy. Kissing before sex helps make a passionate or even companionate bond that fuels lust, and establishes trust.

    I really don't think that in an important intimate relationship I would gravitate towards, or even share myself with someone who omits that step with arrogance.
     
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    I would go for the kisser.
    A good kisser has the basics right and can learn. He can bring my mind to that place where... sensations change? I don't really know how to explain but, so a touch isn't just a touch but goosebumps all over? And fantastic kisses just make my panties wet. If he would "press the wrong buttons" he would still be pressing buttons and I would just tell him where my buttons are. I would definitely not fake orgasm.

    The guy that basically skips over the kissing and keeps trying to feel me up is not going to get any. I'm not going to let him go any further. No matter how good he claims to be. It just pisses me off ^^ Pissed off and horned up are a looong ways apart.
     
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    you can't teach a person how to kiss.. is just innate.

    you can teach a person what you like and what works for you.

    i went with the smooch ninja.

    the other guy, i don't care how good he is, i couldn't bring myself to get naked with him.

    randomly: i have never met a smooch ninja who wasn't a sheet shaking master. for true. good kiss usually is the tease to even better smexy.


    my ex-girl and me current boy are text book cases of amazing snogging and fucktastic smexing.
     
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    Which one has the biggest dick
     
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    100% class.
     
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    so what happens if u happen to be an amazing kisser and have a big dick too? :)
     
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    mmmmmm

    good kisser and a big cock counts for nothing is the guy is a big dick.
     
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    How about if he's an amazing conversationalist, insightful, opens doors for you out of sheer cheesy chivalry, always shows up looking like he put at least the slightest effort into looking good for you, brings a bottle of your favorite wine and cooks you an amazing dinner?

    Let's throw that guy into the mix.
     
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    Mr. Perfect would be gay or married... or married and gay :frown:
     
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    Duz he have a big dick
     
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    I picked the Kisser. The Kisser can so be taught.
     
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    I had a lover who did not kiss. He was outstanding. We had some of the best sex I have ever had, and he became one of my closest friends, so the sex was really spectacular. We talked a few times about the possibility of making a family together. He woll be a fantastic husband and father some day. But in all the years we slept together, he never got to a point where his hugs felt like real hugs, and he may have actually kissed me twice. That second kiss is indelibly imprinted on my mind as one of the greatest kisses of all time. He said he gave it to me because he knew it was the only thing missing between us as far as I was concerned. He knew I wanted it, and he knew he could give me a kiss that would turn me on. But he told me not to get used to it; He simply did not enjoy kissing. It wasn't personal, and that fact wasn't going to change.

    My husband rarely fucks me, but he kisses me all the time. I can live with this set-up. I do not think I could tolerate the opposite. I need the kisses. I can bring myself to orgasm on my own. I cannot kiss or hug myself.
     
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    Kissing is very important for women....more emotion/physical closeness the better the sex is IMO
     
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    I completely disagree. I was taught how to kiss. What I did was just stand there a do nothing while she kissed me and figured out what she was doing in my head then I mimicked her. Apparently she was a good kisser because it is the same technique I use to this day and women still enjoy it
     
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    Hot passionate and nice tender kisser makes my legs go to jello, I melt in his arms and my body switch to orgasmic mode. Having a nice dick is a plus.
     
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    Bingo! (Just don't throw him into your Kitchenaid mixer... :eek:)



    Bingo!
     
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    inexperienced and ineptitude is no the same thing.

    i've been the first lassie for several ladies.. most start out awkward and hesitant. most will mimic how their menfolk touch them (there are straight women out there having horrible sex :frown:) or what they see in porn. i'm all "lay back, take notes." most get the idea of touching me how they want to touch and sussing out response. what feels good to them usually feels good to me.

    kissing more than mimicking, once you got the basics down ya own natural flavor of smooching developed.

    you can explain or demonstrate all you want, a rubbish kisser will always be a rubbish kisser.
     
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    That said, feel free to give me a Kitchenaid mixer. :biggrin1:
     
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