How important is sex in your life?

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  1. Wyldgusechaz

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    If we are totally honest, how important is it?

    As compared to: Birth of a child? Passing the bar? Selling a painting for real money? Writing a hit song? Climbing Mount Everest?

    Over the past couple months I have some sexual experiences that would truly boggle the mind of most men. I am over 50 and I had a group sex experience with 5 women (plus their men) who were incredibly beautiful ( think Nicolette Sheridan, Terry Hatcher,et al )and age appropriate for me and completely slutty in a good way, nothing absolutely no halds barred sex non stop for hours. My sex partner has taken to group sex like a duck to water and she goes out and gets us hot couples, very hot couples to fuck as often as we want. Unreal. Plus I have a fuck buddy, a 23 year old model ( a 9 1/2 if there ever were one) who wants nothing but rough sex a couple times a month. No date just go to her apt. and fuck her hard and rough. Mind boggling again. I owe somebody something for this string of luck.

    And yet I got to say, I have had other non sexual experiences that I value and cherish even more than those recent wild times. Back in April I made a perfect flycast to one of the most difficult fish in the world to catch and it was a thing of beauty that I may never duplicate again, ever. Still gives me chills.

    I just can't figure out just exactly how important sex is to me relative to so many other things in life. Hell I am a consevative and I got chills when Pres. Obama was inaugurated.

    How important is it to you? How do you value it in your life?
     
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    Still a virgin, and I have no problem with it at all.

    It's not important in life. Just a way to show you care about someone.

    If you like having casual sex, I have no problem with it, but wouldn't do it myself.
    (If you're a porn star, that's an exception since you're making money with it)
     
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    Sex is very important to me. But so is my family, my career, and a couple of other interests. It's one of the things that makes life worth living.

    It's not the only thing ... but man, is it ever up there on the list.
     
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    I never had sex, so I guess it might not be that important to me now. You never know, however, how important it'll be once I start doing it.

    But what I'm looking for right now is to find the right person (okay, a man, just to stop lying to myself) and be connected to that person emotionally. I am a man, but I have the need to be loved by someone, for someone to think of me for once because I never had that in my life.

    Okay, no need to get off-topic here. Sorry for ranting.
     
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    Not had sex in over 5 years.......does it that bother me?......No there are more things in life that are equally pleasureable or better
     
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    I find the non-sexual things in life more rewarding than the sexual ones. The feeling lasts a lot longer! The act of sex, for me, is like enjoying a good meal or a good movie: sometimes it's very memorable, it's always pleasurable, and you feel good for a while. Also, you can't run up to your friends and talk about having great sex the same way you can share your recent promotion at work! And it's a shame.
     
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    Hm...
    Never had a child....damn, how could I forget to have a child?? :biggrin1:

    Maybe because I'm a single woman in my prime....or maybe just because I'm one of those rare women who think about sex every 60 seconds (yes, really), but sex is pretty important in my life. Maybe it wouldn't be so important if I had a regular loverman in my life to satisfy me. Maybe, Maybe.

    But I don't (have a regular lover), so it is (pretty damn important)

    Other things come close - like jumping out of a helicopter, jumping out of an airplane over the coast of Oahu, riding my motorcycle faster than I can freefall (over 120 mph but don't tell the police!), getting an amazing deep tissue massage.... but even though I've done those things over and over and over again, they still don't compare to the ultimate letting-go experience of an orgasm....especially when it is simultaneously experienced with one's lover...



     
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    It's extremely important to me. Especially when you're in a relationship.

    Go from sex at least once if not more than once a day for years, then nothing. Esp when the partner you're with is one you really wanted all along.

    But, when your partner refuses to acknowledge you exist in that way, you end up feeling much less a person.
    Nothing can make up for being ignored, rejected, snide comment and being laughed at. Nothing.

    Talking just emphasizes excuses that are meaningless.

    Try it for more than a decade and see how you'd feel.

    I'd say that there are other things when I'm NOT at home that mean more to me. But returning home just always brings everything back to square one.

    When there's no way out it's even worse.
     
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    ??? What's sex? :biggrin:
     
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    sex is the best feeling in the world, but it doesn't trump the other combined things of the world. In other words, I have a lot of other things combined that are more important to me.
     
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    And you once faulted ME ??!! :biggrin:
     
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    Sex isnt too important to me. I've now gone almost 3 years without it (had a few chances in between) but didnt take em. Not because I didnt want to, but the girls that I had a chance with didnt interest me at all.

    Call me picky, but I dont think a guy should be bragging about how he scored with this girl or that (espcially when their known to be pretty slutty) I like to work for a girl. Thats why when Im in a relationship with a girl, I make up for lost time/sex. With my last gf, we probably gave bunnies on extacy a run for their money lol
     
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    Maslows hierarchy of needs gave us (in order) food & water, clothing, shelter and sex. And that is pretty much where it fits in my life, particularly as I enjoy regular good sex and have done so for many long years.

    Once I had a major medical scare and it enlightened me. After, I appreciated that our time can be limited and our future is always uncertain. From that point on I decided not to wait or to tolerate something less, if I could have it now and have something good.

    Sex is one of many ways to keep a relationship fresh and alive. It is pleasurable, intimate and enjoyable. After, you both feel refreshed, and you both feel closer to each other. The converse, lack of sex in a relationship, breeds anxiety, hostility, depression and worse.

    So recreational sex is one of lifes little pleasures, and if you don't enjoy it now when you can, who knows what the future may bring?
     
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    sex dominates my life, to my demise.
     
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    Great point cougar! I have to admit that I do think about sex very frequently throughout the day [being in my prime] so it must be very important to me, but yet I wouldn't go so far as to say that it is 'the' most important thing to me.

    I would say that not much at all compares to letting go with one's lover for an incredible, intense orgasm for a really intimate moment and memorable experience.
     
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    what about freedom? Knowledge? Social Acceptance?

    If sex was right above shelter, wouldn't people not even try to achieve the above mentioned without sex?
     
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    sure sex is important to me when i find the right lady. last one didn't believe in casual sex so it was more about companionship for me. i feel paranoid like crazy for not having a sex life for the past three years. i moved to a new city and had to start over for my career. if anyone around me thinks i'm weird, they sure haven't helped me to meet someone.
     
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    I think you can't compare exceptional moments in one's life with sex - they're just not mutually exclusive. I am willing to give up everything to end my marriage so i can have sex - it's that important to me. But, there have been experiences in my life that are outstanding, exceptional, and fantastic but they are moments in time, not day to day happenings. Sex is (or should be) an ongoing part of life - If someone gave me the option to have sex or keep my kids, i'd think for a moment, then choose the kids (as long as they behaved themselves). AT this point i'd rather have sex than eat.

    I'm just thankful we can have those moments and other wonderous things in our life ALONG with sex!

    And CougarBlue - we're of the same cloth - sex seems to dominate my thinking these days and I'm right with you as an adrenaline junky!
     
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    :eek: OMG!!

    I cannot even imagine going 3 years without sex....especially at 21 !
    Wow.

    Just Wow.

    This is what is so wonderful about human beings - we are all connected, we are all one, yet ....we are all sooooooooooo different! To each his/her own. But ...wow.!




     
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    Never had sex, but, I think it's quite important. It is healthy, gives you a good feeling. Gives you a connection with the person you doing it with. It is an apart feeling, can be intimate or just nice satisfaction. It would be an important roll in a relationship.
    It is a way to release from stress, very important in these days.
     
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