How is anyone romantic anymore?

[HiddenLacey]

I understand the laughter and making jokes about everything. I do that too. I like to laugh and make people smile. And if a moment is ever uncomfortable you can bet I'm going to blurt out something silly and inappropriate to help loose the tension. Hmm I've had some nice things done for me. I can only tell you the most romantic memorable experience of my life, happened with someone I dated for a short period of time. He was more like my best friend than anything else. One night he took me too the beach and made alittle fire, he had music playing from inside his truck. Of course we played in the water and talked, but then this old country song came on and he just pulled me close and started dancing... at first it was funny and silly but then it just changed. There was nothing there but us and the moonlight it started sprinkling and we didn't run for cover we just kept dancing which we were both horrible at but, it was kind of magical. I will always remember that for the rest of my life. THAT is the kind of moment we really like. You don't have to make big plans or a fancy dinner etc. Sometimes that special moment just happens (this is when you crack and tiny joke and she laughs at you and never looks away) You can do it! I've had the dinner's and the candle's and flowers, but nothing compared to this. My second favorite would be horseback riding in the mountains with my ex, it was nice but once again not a "moment" like the night at the beach. Sometimes just being with each other and you just pulling her close for something other than sex will be really special to her.

 

[L_egit]

I can only tell you the most romantic memorable experience of my life, happened with someone I dated for a short period of time. He was more like my best friend than anything else.

And that's why people don't bother being romantic.

 

[HiddenLacey]

And that's why people don't bother being romantic.

What do you mean? Wait if you mean the remark about him being my bestfriend it's because he was. I didn't mean I didn't have feelings for him. Heck I'd be married and having his babies right now if some things hadn't kept us apart. I have never ever felt like that with anyone else. I didn't mean my best friend and buddy/ pal. I meant my bestfriend my everything someone I could have spent the rest of my life with.

 

[Enid]

Manly Banisters said it well. It -- finding whatever your own personal definition of romance is, the one suits you and fits you best -- will happen naturally whenever you're ready for it. Just enjoy the other stuff as much as possible for now.

I disagree a bit with the person who said it's all about her. It's not. It's about YOU being relaxed (guard down) in your own skin expressing something romantic. That'll either happen or it won't, all depends on your comfort level and personality.

 

[THEDUDEofDestiny]

Romance comes from the heart, not the brain and certainly not from your boner.
Whatever you find lame might be heart warming and loving to another.It could be just instinctively holding her hand while crossing the street, or writing little I love you notes and leaving it in her purse. Which is what romance really is, it's the little ways one person shows love to the other.

what do you know about romance? you're a virgin.

 

[galaxus]

what do you know about romance? you're a virgin.

A virgin can be romantic. They just don't have sex.

 

[THEDUDEofDestiny]

my personality is real charming, guys

 

[THEDUDEofDestiny]

A virgin can be romantic. They just don't have sex.

no virgins live fantasy lives about how things should be. i do this too, the difference is i am confronted with the way things are in reality while virgins think that dating is like some meg ryan movie. "just meet her on the empire state building at new year's!"

 

[HiddenLacey]

my personality is real charming, guys

I think your funny. You always post comic relief:tongue:

 

[galaxus]

no virgins live fantasy lives about how things should be. i do this too, the difference is i am confronted with the way things are in reality while virgins think that dating is like some meg ryan movie. "just meet her on the empire state building at new year's!"

So you're telling me two virgins can't be romantic to each other? People who place importance on their virginity can have very romantic relationships.

 

[B_hijack]

no virgins live fantasy lives about how things should be. i do this too, the difference is i am confronted with the way things are in reality while virgins think that dating is like some meg ryan movie. "just meet her on the empire state building at new year's!"

Too many younger folk think that sex should be like it is in porn: everyone is well-groomed; there is no bad breath or B.O.; hair and makeup are perfect; the girl will take it in all holes all the time; the guy can always cum all the time.

Porn has ruined first-time sex because that's the only kind of sex that virgins have seen, and it's not realistic.

 

[curiousvirgin]

no virgins live fantasy lives about how things should be. i do this too, the difference is i am confronted with the way things are in reality while virgins think that dating is like some meg ryan movie. "just meet her on the empire state building at new year's!"

Perhaps I was in error, but I thought this post was about romance not sex... Do i not qualify to post just because i haven't had sex?...Virgins also live in the real world, have romances and go out for dates.This post wasn't about virginity or our perfect imaginary worlds anyway.
If you had titled your Thread " How does anyone HAVE SEX anymore" I would have refrained from posting a reply.

 

[helgaleena]

Dude, you are contradicting yourself a bit. Not only do you hate your own attempts to be romantic, when the others describe what they think is romantic, you call it lame! Obviously someone has been trying to force you to be so-called romantic against your will and against your natural inclination. Dump whoever it is and cheer the heck up.

 

[D_Geffarde Phartsmeller]

Anything involving candles, beaches or Sandra Bullock movies is generally romantic.

This includes Demolition Man, the most underrated romantic comedy to ever be produced.

 

[AlteredEgo]

Too many younger folk think that sex should be like it is in porn: everyone is well-groomed; there is no bad breath or B.O.; hair and makeup are perfect; the girl will take it in all holes all the time; the guy can always cum all the time.

Porn has ruined first-time sex because that's the only kind of sex that virgins have seen, and it's not realistic.

It didn't ruin it for me. My mother had taught me to expect that my first time would be gentle, and loving, possibly painful, not as pleasurable as future encounters, but fun, relaxed, sweet, and special. It was all of those things but not painful. Perhaps if more people take responsibility for the development of their children into well-rounded, three-dimensional adults without sticking their heads in the sand to pretend their "babies" will never have sex, perhaps more first times will be as wonderful as mine. Not that my first time was particularly romantic. It might have been if we'd expected to have sex that day. He was good at romantic overtures, and so am I.

 

[B_BoysAreToys]

Anything can be romantic. Even a post it note telling me you love me underneath my computer mouse to find later will give me warm fuzzies all day.

 

[D_Barbi_Dahl]

"There is a place you can touch a woman that will drive her crazy. Her heart."
— Melanie Griffith

yes. This is a cheesy quote. But many times being romantic is what you say or write. Making a girl feel all girly like a high school crush is easily achieved thru a simple, but sincere sentiment. Guys should take it a step further and take some action too. It's just not about all talk.

Even something simple like a walk on the beach whole holding hands & them stopping to make out every so often is super romantic. And free.

 

[THEDUDEofDestiny]

Perhaps I was in error, but I thought this post was about romance not sex... Do i not qualify to post just because i haven't had sex?...Virgins also live in the real world, have romances and go out for dates.This post wasn't about virginity or our perfect imaginary worlds anyway.
If you had titled your Thread " How does anyone HAVE SEX anymore" I would have refrained from posting a reply.

i just dont believe anyone who regularly goes on dates is a virgin. how do you know the girl likes you if she doesn't get deep dicked at the end of the date?

 

[THEDUDEofDestiny]

Dude, you are contradicting yourself a bit. Not only do you hate your own attempts to be romantic, when the others describe what they think is romantic, you call it lame! Obviously someone has been trying to force you to be so-called romantic against your will and against your natural inclination. Dump whoever it is and cheer the heck up.

Do I contradict myself? Very well, I contradict myself. I am vast I contain multitudes. -TheDudeofDestiny 5/18/2010

 

[THEDUDEofDestiny]

Anything can be romantic. Even a post it note telling me you love me underneath my computer mouse to find later will give me warm fuzzies all day.

your username is pretty much the antithesis of romantic you female chauvinist