How Is The First Time

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Hurt isn’t right. It can hurt if done too quickly or some such. If taken time, it’s fantastic and nothing like it. First time is a little uncomfortable at first, but give in to it and you’ll love it!
 

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first time can hurt but you need someone that will take it slow and use lots of lube . if the guy just slams it in it will not be a good experiance for you slow and steady allow your butt to get used to him inside then it will feel great
 

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So there are different first times.

First time sucking another guys cock, exhilarating, combination of fear and anticipation, you are in control of his satisfaction, but you are being submissive.

First time having another guy suck you’re cock. Equally exhilarating. Different though, you are dominant

First time getting fucked by another man. Completely submissive action. You have surrendered your masculinity to another man. You are his bitch, he has complete control over you. And.... it can hurt.

First time fucking another guy, you are the man, he is your bitch, you are dominating him. Fuck him hard.
 

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Before you bottom with a guy, practice! Get an enema kit or bottle and clean your butt out. Get a bottle of water soluble lube. Get a set of butt plugs--small, medium and large--and start with the smallest first. Lube your clean butthole and the plug and slowly insert it. When you're comfortable with the small one take it out, lube the medium plug and gradually insert it.

Butt plugs are sturdy so you can sit on them and use gravity to assist insertion. When you're comfortable with the medium one use the large with lots of lube always. It may take several sessions over many days to get used to being penetrated by progressively larger plugs. You are training yourself to relax and stretch your hole in ways it has never experienced before.

How to relax your anal sphincter: push like you're defecating. Simple. This relaxes the muscles which normally keep your anus closed. The same push which allows poop out allows butt plug, dildo or a real cock in.

Take your time! If it hurts too much back off. Gradually increase the time it remains inserted. It took me two weeks of practice every other day before I was ready. Then I brought home a younger guy from the gym who fucked my brains out.

Remember: sex is about pleasure not pain. Good luck. :)
 

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So there are different first times.

First time sucking another guys cock, exhilarating, combination of fear and anticipation, you are in control of his satisfaction, but you are being submissive.

First time having another guy suck you’re cock. Equally exhilarating. Different though, you are dominant

First time getting fucked by another man. Completely submissive action. You have surrendered your masculinity to another man. You are his bitch, he has complete control over you. And.... it can hurt.

First time fucking another guy, you are the man, he is your bitch, you are dominating him. Fuck him hard.
I see a nice looking rod there!!
 

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What I remember most vividly was that my mouth was dry. I was stroking him and put my hand to my mouth for some salivia to help things along til i mustered the courage to take his cock in my mouth. Once i got him in my mouth, there was plenty. He was about 40 and shot 3-4 ropes up to his chest, something I remembered from days gone by. Wish i had taken his load but being my first time I wasn’t ready for that yet. Now i dribble at age 67
 

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TAke a 9 inch dildo, somewhat thick. Use some lube and allow yourself to work it in nice and slow. Do this sometime before you let a guy fuck you in the ass. If you enjoy it, you might be okay. But imagine a man with the same size, shoving his cock in your ass and doesn't give a fuck whether it hurts or not. It's his instinct, at some point, to drive his cock deep and hard at a fast pace. That's how he gets off and release his load of cum deep. I suggest you know how big his cock is a nd start small, work your way up.
 

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My first time was not a bottom, just getting a blow job from another guy. After he made me cum (and it took forever) I felt vile to say the least. Could not even finish the beer he provided and dumped it out. (queer beer) I'm still not into anal either way.

Little time later, I had the urge again. That's when I learned i was only into mutual J/O. I'm comfortable with that now and will just settle for what i like.
 

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First time getting fucked by another man. Completely submissive action. You have surrendered your masculinity to another man. You are his bitch, he has complete control over you. And.... it can hurt.

Definitely hurt for me, but it was worth it. Felt amazing. Totally new experience.
The first time a hole gets opened up - whether it's a man or woman, ass or pussy - there's gonna be something between moderate discomfort and hurts-like-hell. At that moment I don't think any sane and sober person can truly relax. But . . . that's part of the overall experience. There's a very complicated mix of physical as well as mental, and perhaps emotional, sensations. New and unique experience. Both satisfying and disturbing. Actually going through the muscle ring wasn't too bad, full insertion made me cry, but I didn't want it to stop and it actually started feeling good before it ended. Yeah, overall it was definitely worth it.
 
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My advice is to try with toys first.

at first, I was so foreign to all of this and then started with a tiny little prostate massager, and then slow small vibrators.

once you learn how fucking amazing a prostate orgasm is, the better your experience will be with actual cock.

cock prostate orgasms are life changing. Period
 

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My first experience as the bottom was with a hung friend who was patient, he lubed-me-up and put plenty of lube on his dick, both before and during the insertion. When his big head popped-in my ass I thought I would faint and I couldn't ever take his dick - he reminded me to relax and push out which really helped the feeling of burning & discomfort. After that he slowly began hunching me and inserted his huge cock to his balls. I was so excited about being able to take his full length that I began to hunch back on his cock as we were fucking doggie style.
My advice is to please take it slow and don't forget to relax & push out when the head is going in so the dick fucking your ass won't hurt so badly.