How is your relationship with your Mother, or female figure/role model while growing up? I ask because I’m starting to doubt my own relationship with my Mother. She is a part of my life and has an active role. We know what’s going on in each other’s lives, but not the point where I tell her every single one of my secrets. On the other hand, we have disagreed on every issue under the sun during the past few months--everything from my relationship with Mike_Hawk, to career/academic choices, to washing the dishes properly! I understand that we won't always see eye to eye; however, we’re reaching the stage where any topic we discuss becomes blown out of proportion and somehow she is right, I'm wrong, and I’m the bad person. I’m not a mother, so I don’t understand where my own Mother comes from when she accuses me of things I didn’t even say or do. She says one thing to me, then suddenly goes back on her word--even then she is still right and I'm still wrong. For example, it’s ok for my (older) sister to be a lazy-ass without a job and an education, but it’s not ok for me to just go to school fulltime without working fulltime as well. It’s like, WTF? (I’ve also always believed that my lazy-ass sister is her favorite, which is why she got away with everything.) Right now I've been going through a rough time with just getting my point across to her. I've tried speaking to her without raising my voice--hasn't worked. I've thought about writing her a letter to express my feelings in writing--completely pointless. I've even considered going to family counseling--except she'll only say it's a waste of her time and money. What am I supposed to do? I feel like I'm running out of options because she isn't listening to what I have to say, nor does she believe anything I even say. Help?