I am back in the singles scene after a long absence (12 years to be exact). I know the answer to this question is "it really depends," but I am hoping for somethig a little more direct. Basically, I wondered how long after you start dating someone does it take before you think sex is OK? When to most guys make the first move and is it too early? How has this timeframe changed as you got older - shorter or longer? When I was a young man, I used to sing what I called the "third date song," which was a parody on Simple Red - "If You Won't Blow Me By Now" (you will never, never blow me). I figured if we weren't getting horizontal by the third date, it wasn't going to happen.