I have been going out with a girl for the past 7 months. I love her very much and I know she loves me as well. About 3 months into our relationship though, she cheated on me with another guy. Technically, I guess it wouldnt be considered cheating becuas she broke up with me then less than a week later fucked the guy.
My first mistake was taking her back so soon. This is my first real love and I was so scared of losing her at the time. I felt like if I didnt talk to her about it or try and get her back she would continue having sex with this guy and ultimately our relationship would come to an end, which is something I did not want at all.
Mind you, this was my ex girlfriend from 2 years back and we just recently got back together. She never cheated on me back in the day so it came as such a shock that she would do this to me. She says that after I broke up with her 2 years ago, she was heartbroken and went through a phase in her life where she just went crazy and did things shes not exactly proud of.
I put all that aside.l I figured when we got back together 7 months ago it would be a fresh start for us, and for her as well. 3 months in though, it seemed like that ugly part of her came up again and she fucked this guy.
I took her back, and shes been good since, I believe. I feel like she genuinely regrets doing what she did with him but at times this belief is questioned. For instance, we will get into an argument and I would say something silly like "Oh you just want to go there so you can see him again dont you?" I knw its silly. and she will say "God, why do you keep bringing that up. THATS THE PAST! I know you're hurt but is that all you can use against me?"
Its stuff like that that really hits me hard. Yeah, its the past. But its only been 3 months since it happened and you expect me to be all fine and everything? She wont know until it happens to her. Sometimes I feel like showing her....
Anyways, I guess what Im trying to get at here is...for those of you that have been cheated on and decided to stick with the girl, how long did it take you to get over it completely? Its been 3 months and to this day, I find myself angry...thinking about it constantly, every day.
I see a picture of my girlfriend and I think, "wow shes pretty, thats my girl" then immediately after that in my head I go "dont let that face fool you, dont forget what she did". I want to trust her, but I cant. Theres so much more I can say right now about how I feel but this post is running long so I'll save it.
Thanks for those of you that read
My first mistake was taking her back so soon. This is my first real love and I was so scared of losing her at the time. I felt like if I didnt talk to her about it or try and get her back she would continue having sex with this guy and ultimately our relationship would come to an end, which is something I did not want at all.
Mind you, this was my ex girlfriend from 2 years back and we just recently got back together. She never cheated on me back in the day so it came as such a shock that she would do this to me. She says that after I broke up with her 2 years ago, she was heartbroken and went through a phase in her life where she just went crazy and did things shes not exactly proud of.
I put all that aside.l I figured when we got back together 7 months ago it would be a fresh start for us, and for her as well. 3 months in though, it seemed like that ugly part of her came up again and she fucked this guy.
I took her back, and shes been good since, I believe. I feel like she genuinely regrets doing what she did with him but at times this belief is questioned. For instance, we will get into an argument and I would say something silly like "Oh you just want to go there so you can see him again dont you?" I knw its silly. and she will say "God, why do you keep bringing that up. THATS THE PAST! I know you're hurt but is that all you can use against me?"
Its stuff like that that really hits me hard. Yeah, its the past. But its only been 3 months since it happened and you expect me to be all fine and everything? She wont know until it happens to her. Sometimes I feel like showing her....
Anyways, I guess what Im trying to get at here is...for those of you that have been cheated on and decided to stick with the girl, how long did it take you to get over it completely? Its been 3 months and to this day, I find myself angry...thinking about it constantly, every day.
I see a picture of my girlfriend and I think, "wow shes pretty, thats my girl" then immediately after that in my head I go "dont let that face fool you, dont forget what she did". I want to trust her, but I cant. Theres so much more I can say right now about how I feel but this post is running long so I'll save it.
Thanks for those of you that read