How long do you go for?

[CommandoInTheBuff]

I've never had sex before, for personal reasons, but now I'm over them (more of less). Even though it would be my first time, I still want to start off great.

I've been wondering about how long sex lasts for. Do women get tired if you're on them for too long?
I've been timing my last couple of masturbations, and they were usually between 2 and 3 minuets , I don't think this is good, but last night I went almost 5 minuets (the pictures ran out), and I didn't even cum (just a little precum) But this was partly due to the 30 seconds I paused for.

I'm trying to go for 8 minuets, if I go 1 pump per second then I can almost go 5 minuets, but when I try to keep up with the guys in pornos I barley make it to 3 minuets.

How long do you guys go on average and how many pumps per second?

 

[tgirlsrgreat]

first and foremost, stop putting all the pressure on yourself, you will just make your performance anxiety worse, and it already seems to be rather high. make sure it is someone you like and likes you and you have some trust. be open and honest about your experience and if you pop quickly or can't get it up (which can happen as well) then just relax and try again after a while or a later date.

or you could just pay a pro and get your "first" time out of the way

maybe a little humor would help, since you like to use minuet for minute

mabel and ethel, two elderly retired school teachers were sitting on the front porch of the nursing home rocking away and listening to music on the radio

mabel turns to ethel and asks "ethel do you remember the minuet?"

ethel turns to mabel and responds "remember the minuet, hell i barely remember the men i fucked, much less the men i ate!":biglaugh::dance::biglaugh::arms::arms:

 

[tray22nc]

For most guys, not all, but most, the first time usually doesn't last very long, and that is to be expected, simply because it's a completely new sensation. Don't fret if you aren't able to hold out very long. If I want, I can go from soft to nut in about 1 minute if I'm jerking off. Now, I don't really care to do this, just because I like to enjoy the journey and not just the destination. A lot of endurance issues are mental and if you put too much pressure on yourself, you won't last very long, nor will you enjoy the activity. So my advice is relax, have a lot of hot, steamy foreplay, please your partner first (VERY IMPORTANT!) and she won't be disappointed if you don't last very long and just have a good time! After a while, you'll be in the groove and be a pro!

 

[D_Ivana_Bhig-Dicke]

My first time lasted about 30 seconds (I was 14 at the time).

Nowadays I can last as long as I want as long as I'm in control of the fucking. If she is riding or blowing me the time I last all depends on how good she is.

 

[Fiasco21]

Very good tips have been listed so far, so definitely take those into account! the more you think about it, the faster you will want to cum, so just relax! Also, if you feel you are getting really close there is nothing wrong with pulling out and pleasing her in other ways for a little while (as long as she is not dangerously close as well, then keep going!)

 

[lafever]

I've never had sex before, for personal reasons, but now I'm over them (more of less). Even though it would be my first time, I still want to start off great.

I've been wondering about how long sex lasts for. Do women get tired if you're on them for too long?
I've been timing my last couple of masturbations, and they were usually between 2 and 3 minuets , I don't think this is good, but last night I went almost 5 minuets (the pictures ran out), and I didn't even cum (just a little precum) But this was partly due to the 30 seconds I paused for.

I'm trying to go for 8 minuets, if I go 1 pump per second then I can almost go 5 minuets, but when I try to keep up with the guys in pornos I barley make it to 3 minuets.

How long do you guys go on average and how many pumps per second?

It's not over till the lady sings, what I'm trying to say is your not done until you make her cum.

 

[tgirlsrgreat]

It's not over till the lady sings, what I'm trying to say is your not done until you make her cum.

that's why i exercise my fingers and my oral skills are outstanding!!!

 

[hsarge]

Spend 80% foreplay with fingers and tongue and caresses, and only 20% pounding away and you will find you have a very happy women. Remember most women bring themselves to climax with their own finger and don't get pounded at all.

 

[MercyfulFate]

Now I can totally control when I want to cum, although my girlfriend's multiple orgasms make it hard to hold back.

 

[FuzzyKen]

I've never had sex before, for personal reasons, but now I'm over them (more of less). Even though it would be my first time, I still want to start off great.

I've been wondering about how long sex lasts for. Do women get tired if you're on them for too long?
I've been timing my last couple of masturbations, and they were usually between 2 and 3 minuets , I don't think this is good, but last night I went almost 5 minuets (the pictures ran out), and I didn't even cum (just a little precum) But this was partly due to the 30 seconds I paused for.

I'm trying to go for 8 minuets, if I go 1 pump per second then I can almost go 5 minuets, but when I try to keep up with the guys in pornos I barley make it to 3 minuets.

How long do you guys go on average and how many pumps per second?

For those who are fans of "The Big Bang Theory" I kind of envision Dr. Beverly Hofstedter trying to plan and or describe a sex act.

In heterosexual relations the main thing to do is always be conscious of your partner and if you are quick on the trigger which most
newbies are, concentrate on learning about foreplay first. If you can make love to your partner in such a way that she has a great time and is able to reach orgasm at your hands by multiple means you can make your inexperience into an asset. Remember that the greatest portion of men are not multi-orgasmic where the greatest percentage of women are. Unless you have chemical help, with you it is over after the load flies. So what you want to do is to learn to bring her off several times using other methods. This is the general game plan. There are other things which can help you, but I don't have enough to go on here to elaborate a great deal more.

Good Luck

 

[lotsofquestions]

to the OP: I was in your same boat. 20 some odd years old and still a virgin.

we both have been jerking off every day for the last 7 years or so. (I assume). neither of our cocks have ever felt a pussy. we can only cum via our hand. our cock becomes used to it. I can barely cum or stay hard when I am fucking a pussy. maybe its because I have a small girth and she gets so wet she feels "loose" on my dick. or maybe its because im used to my firm grip of my hand. thats my experience. I can fuck the girl for quite a while a not cum.. I actually start going soft while fucking her!!

 

[pcghabsy]

to the OP: I was in your same boat. 20 some odd years old and still a virgin.

we both have been jerking off every day for the last 7 years or so. (I assume). neither of our cocks have ever felt a pussy. we can only cum via our hand. our cock becomes used to it. I can barely cum or stay hard when I am fucking a pussy. maybe its because I have a small girth and she gets so wet she feels "loose" on my dick. or maybe its because im used to my firm grip of my hand. thats my experience. I can fuck the girl for quite a while a not cum.. I actually start going soft while fucking her!!

Absolutely. The first few times I had sex, I had a difficult time cumming. After my girlfriend got tired (I still didn't cum), I took it out, took off the condom and jerked myself off. Hey, presto, within 30 seconds I came! Even now, it is much easier to cum through my hand, but I can definitely cum through vaginal intercourse. It also helps that the women I have been with have been very tight, I guess. Still, it's "slippery". There's just more friction with the hand.

So, to the OP - 2-3 minutes of hard masturbation is a long time. Don't sweat it. Just stay calm and cool. Change positions, take frequent breaks, and you will last a long time. The important thing is to be calm. Also, it is largely psychological. If you take your mind off it, you could last a long, long time, you will be exhausted before you can cum. However, I really don't recommend that. In fact, the sooner you cum, the more you are turned on, isn't it? So don't bother about. Go through extensive foreplay, and have your girl pleasured even before intercourse.

And why the hell are you going by pornos? Don't you realize they have been edited? I could edit together a 2 hour non-stop video of myself, although I can take 6 hours to actually shoot it and cum 4 times in that time. But in the final edited video it will seem like non-stop hard fucking for 2 hours with one cumshot at the end. Don't go by porn.

 

[B_subgirrl]

There's another important thing that no one has mentioned yet . . . sex isn't over just because the guy has cum. Or at least, it doesn't have to be (although in practice, it often is).

If you cum quickly, no biggie. All that means is that the sex has suddenly become all about her. It's a great time to explore what gives her pleasure outside of penis-in-vagina sex.

Or if you're the kind of guy who can tolerate further stimulation right after cumming (I've known some that can't), she could keep pleasuring you.

Once more, just to make sure you get it - it's not over just because the guy has had an orgasm! And just hope women don't suddenly decide to turn the tables and end sex as soon as THEY have cum. For some that would mean their partner would have to keep going for hours. For others it would mean sex would be over in under a minute.

 

[tgirlsrgreat]

actually lafever mentioned it

hsarge is right though, (as are others, but i would say lotsof?s isn't helping lol) anywho, lots of foreplay my friend! and there is no rule that says you can't stop during intercourse and go back to a little oral sex or whatever.

 

[B_subgirrl]

actually lafever mentioned it

lafever said it's not over until she cums. A different thing entirely as far as I'm concerned. I cum within the first minute. That doesn't mean that it's okay if he stops.

 

[poptarts]

subgirrl is pretty much spot on.

 

[pomaz59]

There's another important thing that no one has mentioned yet . . . sex isn't over just because the guy has cum. Or at least, it doesn't have to be (although in practice, it often is).

If you cum quickly, no biggie. All that means is that the sex has suddenly become all about her. It's a great time to explore what gives her pleasure outside of penis-in-vagina sex.

Or if you're the kind of guy who can tolerate further stimulation right after cumming (I've known some that can't), she could keep pleasuring you.

Once more, just to make sure you get it - it's not over just because the guy has had an orgasm! And just hope women don't suddenly decide to turn the tables and end sex as soon as THEY have cum. For some that would mean their partner would have to keep going for hours. For others it would mean sex would be over in under a minute.

thank you subgirrl, its nice to read some good and useful advices like this one!

 

[B_subgirrl]

subgirrl is pretty much spot on.

Thanks! :biggrin1:

thank you subgirrl, its nice to read some good and useful advices like this one!

You're welcome, and thank you :smile:.

 

[syagash]

lafever said it's not over until she cums. A different thing entirely as far as I'm concerned. I cum within the first minute. That doesn't mean that it's okay if he stops.

Wow, I would like to know how many times I could make you cum:wink:. I try to hold of as long as possible by concentrating on my partner and her enjoyment. Unfortunately once I get there it's all over even if I am still keen after a few minutes to recover.:frown1: Depending on how I feel emotionally and physically (had a hard day at work?) makes a big difference to how long I last also.

 

[OhWiseOne]

I've never had sex before, for personal reasons, but now I'm over them (more of less). Even though it would be my first time, I still want to start off great.

I've been wondering about how long sex lasts for. Do women get tired if you're on them for too long?
I've been timing my last couple of masturbations, and they were usually between 2 and 3 minuets , I don't think this is good, but last night I went almost 5 minuets (the pictures ran out), and I didn't even cum (just a little precum) But this was partly due to the 30 seconds I paused for.

I'm trying to go for 8 minuets, if I go 1 pump per second then I can almost go 5 minuets, but when I try to keep up with the guys in pornos I barley make it to 3 minuets.

How long do you guys go on average and how many pumps per second?

I would first suggest you change your mind set of " you're on them for to long". The actual act of intercourse is a small fraction of the whole experience. Relax, learn how to explore her body and find those spots that bring excitement and pleasure. If you go about it in that manner you will have a very happy partner in the end. Just a side note, I have had experiences when intercourse never occurred and both parties were completely satisfied. Think beyond your dick is basically what I'm saying.
Have fun and prosper young man.