How long do you wait for sex?

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I shouldn't even validate this with a response...

In the dutch language we have a saying: "A sparrow is a bird, but a bird is not a sparrow."
Meaning: A slut has sex on the first date, but having sex on the first date doesn't mean you are a slut

The question is: What are the criteria for being a slut?
A sparrow must have wings, or it is not a sparrow. Just like a slut has sex on the first date, or it would not be a slut.
But not everything with wings is a slut. :wink:

lol, you dutch people seem to be complex.. I dont get it a sparrow , what ?? STFU lol..

Like I said brother from the other side of the pond, Im assuming your the gentlemen type, you know the average frustrated chump type, who thinks catering to women and being nice to them will get you somewhere with them..guessing by the way you agree "100%" with whatever they say lol..GL with that approach.

Doesnt matter what you call them, sluts, hoes, etc... This is how we speak, amongst "MY" circle of friends, and yes we bang alot of sluts.. lol ..
Thats all that matters to me..

So to the OP, if shes makes you wait the odds are shes a keeper.. But nowadays, GL finding those kinda females..
Except for BlackGirl, shes seems cool ;)
 
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well ok, why hold to an imaginary timeline at all?

say you went on a first date, had a great time with awesome convo and fun, were highly attracted, and could head back for sex to one of your places for sex. i don't see how that makes me a slut for engaging in something we BOTH mutually want... at the least that would make you a manwhore :p

maybe there are concerns about making the relationship too sexual, or spooking someone, but sex is probably going to happen some time, so I don't see what the big deal is about it happening sooner than later.

too soon and you're a slut, too late and you're a prude :|

just meaningless stigmas
 
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well ok, why hold to an imaginary timeline at all?

say you went on a first date, had a great time with awesome convo and fun, were highly attracted, and could head back for sex to one of your places for sex. i don't see how that makes me a slut for engaging in something we BOTH mutually want... at the least that would make you a manwhore :p

maybe there are concerns about making the relationship too sexual, or spooking someone, but sex is probably going to happen some time, so I don't see what the big deal is about it happening sooner than later.

too soon and you're a slut, too late and you're a prude :|

TY ,yes thats my mentallity.. manwhore doesnt offend me, I mean thats what I would be called if I did that and you would be a slut.. I suppose , if it offends you then I wouldnt want to talk to you anyways, not into sensitive girls ;)

But yea if me and you ended up in the back seat of my G37, I would tell my boys shes a slut.. But I would end up calling you again next weekend ;) Nothing wrong with that word "slut" lol
 

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i just never got the double standard where guys can fuck about without label, but a girl can't satisfy her same desires in the same way without it being a bad thing. birth control has opened a ton of sexual options for girls, but doesn't seem to have ended the stereotypes. so really, what IS the difference between guys fucking on the first date compared to women? i don't seen how the onus applies...
 

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lol, you dutch people seem to be complex.. I dont get it a sparrow , what ?? STFU lol..

Like I said brother from the other side of the pond, Im assuming your the gentlemen type, you know the average frustrated chump type, who thinks catering to women and being nice to them will get you somewhere with them..guessing by the way you agree "100%" with whatever they say lol..GL with that approach.

Doesnt matter what you call them, sluts, hoes, etc... This is how we speak, amongst "MY" circle of friends, and yes we bang alot of sluts.. lol ..
Thats all that matters to me..

So to the OP, if shes makes you wait the odds are shes a keeper.. But nowadays, GL finding those kinda females..
Except for BlackGirl, shes seems cool ;)

I didn't make this comment for you, because I would expect you wouldn't understand the sparrow analogy. But I can assure you that I am (often) the gentleman type, but not frustrated. With this 'catering to women' I assume you mean I put women on a pedestal, which I don't. I just don't assume a woman is worth less than a man ex-ante, but she can be ex post, where it looks like you do the opposite.
I have plenty of sex, and yes, also with sluts. I just don't agree with your opinion of what a slut is.
I happened to agree with those women on what they said there.

And I also don't agree with your last comment to OP. I've had a keeper I slept with on the first date...

Since you are trying to figure me out and putting a label on me, I'll try to do the same with you.
It looks to me that the way you see women, you don't really like them. You like having sex with them, but that is it. You are fast to describe a woman as a slut, and woman you can not get will be called a stuck up bitch. It sounds to me that you are easily frustrated. Often you will meet women that are smarter than you, and, let's be honest, better than you. You cannot handle this, so you try to put them down by calling them sluts very fast. When your friends ask you "how that date went with that chick". You will answer almost always that "you nailed that hoe", whether it is true or not. You define yourself by the number of women you slept with, eeerrr, I mean, you define yourself by the number of women you tell your friends you've slept with. Which is why you are one of the reasons why - according to polls - an average male has had a lot more partners than an average female. Which of course is impossible...
Also, it would not surprise me if you already date raped some poor girls.

Btw, I'm not Dutch, I'm Belgian. We speak Dutch in Belgium...
 

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The way I feel is we are put on this earth to enjoy life... it's the only one we have. So, that being said, most people go with their gut instinct. If that means going back to whoevers place on the first date and having some hot sex and enjoying their selves... have at it.
 

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I didn't make this comment for you, because I would expect you wouldn't understand the sparrow analogy. But I can assure you that I am (often) the gentleman type, but not frustrated. With this 'catering to women' I assume you mean I put women on a pedestal, which I don't. I just don't assume a woman is worth less than a man ex-ante, but she can be ex post, where it looks like you do the opposite.
I have plenty of sex, and yes, also with sluts. I just don't agree with your opinion of what a slut is.
I happened to agree with those women on what they said there.

And I also don't agree with your last comment to OP. I've had a keeper I slept with on the first date...

Since you are trying to figure me out and putting a label on me, I'll try to do the same with you.
It looks to me that the way you see women, you don't really like them. You like having sex with them, but that is it. You are fast to describe a woman as a slut, and woman you can not get will be called a stuck up bitch. It sounds to me that you are easily frustrated. Often you will meet women that are smarter than you, and, let's be honest, better than you. You cannot handle this, so you try to put them down by calling them sluts very fast. When your friends ask you "how that date went with that chick". You will answer almost always that "you nailed that hoe", whether it is true or not. You define yourself by the number of women you slept with, eeerrr, I mean, you define yourself by the number of women you tell your friends you've slept with. Which is why you are one of the reasons why - according to polls - an average male has had a lot more partners than an average female. Which of course is impossible...
Also, it would not surprise me if you already date raped some poor girls.

Btw, I'm not Dutch, I'm Belgian. We speak Dutch in Belgium...

You honestly thought I didnt understand your elementary book analogy, lol..

Typical AFC comment, cant pull females, so you assume every other guy is just like you.. I bet you even buy women drinks to talk to them haha..



@ baabydoll, the double standard is only in your head.. I talk to plenty of women who sleep around, it doesnt matter nowadays.. Slut is just a word.
 

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so why use it for first date fucks if you think its just women doing what women do?

Like I said, I save the number but im not gonna spend more time or money with you anymore because she just put herself in the FB zone..

I like the chase, if shes interesting and only gives me a kiss at the end of the day.. this is the girl im gonna spend my resources on lol.. IF you sucking me off during the movie, im gonna class you as a slut and most likely wont call for anything other than a drink and some fun, thats it.

But I dont see "slut" as negative thing, its just they have a purpose , and its not gf purposes.. Which is cool..and necessary for balance.
 
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I rarely have sex on the first date, but if it all clicks and you both want to why not.

I do "date", for me dating is not about having sex - it's about getting to know someone, finding out what we have in common, is there a chance of a future together. If not, no second date and no sex. I would say that sex for me usually happens by the third date, sometimes the second date sometimes not until the 5th date.

I love sex, but to me sex is special and I don't want to sleep around. Besides I usually find that sex isn't that good with someone anyway until the second time - I honestly don't understand people that have nothing but one night stands, if I have no emotional connection with them then I might as well masturbate.

And for me a slut isn't defined by how quickly you have sex, but if you have a lot of meaningless sex and that goes for both men and women.
 

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Like I said, I save the number but im not gonna spend more time or money with you anymore because she just put herself in the FB zone..

I like the chase, if shes interesting and only gives me a kiss at the end of the day.. this is the girl im gonna spend my resources on lol.. IF you sucking me off during the movie, im gonna class you as a slut and most likely wont call for anything other than a drink and some fun, thats it.

But I dont see "slut" as negative thing, its just they have a purpose , and its not gf purposes.. Which is cool..and necessary for balance.


k but, you're kindof proving my point that the double standard is real... girl you get sexual with early on is labelled as slut, refuse to spend any more time or money* on. No early sex - no slut tag - devote resources.

youre appraising her based on an action, and putting at label to it
 

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k but, you're kindof proving my point that the double standard is real... girl you get sexual with early on is labelled as slut, refuse to spend any more time or money* on. No early sex - no slut tag - devote resources.

youre appraising her based on an action, and putting at label to it

Spend more time with , Yes I will but will only spend minimal resources on.. due to the fact, I no longer have to work for anything.. the fuck is there and will happen with no effort.

No early sex , means she is rare and is a hot commodity in this society where sleeping around is a common thing.. So the white tiger, will be chased, hunted..

Like ive been saying slut is just a term, you are adding to much meaning to it.. Call me a manwhore, I wouldnt give a shit.. why does it bug women so much? you are no longer being oppresed , your free as sparrows ;)

Dont give the word any meaning, if your sleeping around what does it matter what someone calls you, get yours.
 
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Lol, whats your bf have to do with this?:tongue:

:eek:

The 3 date rule is fluff to me, so its gonna depend on the guy. We could bail on our date within the first hour to have sex for all I care, so long as it feels right. Also might never have sex if the relationship turns to friendship.

Sounds about right..
 

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You honestly thought I didnt understand your elementary book analogy, lol..

Typical AFC comment, cant pull females, so you assume every other guy is just like you.. I bet you even buy women drinks to talk to them haha..

So is this how it's going to be? You say a thing about me, I say your assumptions are wrong. And then you say "this is definitely something somebody would say that is so and so." What is an AFC comment btw?

Look dude, you sound like somebody from jersey shore. It's like having a discussion with a chimp. I write stuff, you fling poo...

I still stand by what I said about you. You act like the big player here, you throw around some stuff you probably read in books like "picking up women for dummies". I'm not going to try to compete with a fictional internet persona like yours. You like to be called manwhore? You want to come off as a big time player, that's for sure. A manwhore is kind of the opposite...
Besides, everybody knows that a real player tries to play down his conquests.

First you say one thing, and when all the women disagree with you it's "but I didn't mean it in a bad way, slut isn't a bad word." Now you are just doing what you accused me of doing "catering to women, trying to please them..."
To put it simple, you are trying to flirt (with babydoll and blackgirl) on an online forum (which I wouldn't expect from a big time player) in the way you assumed I do it (the way frustrated guys are supposed to do it).

Look dude, what you say is all bullshit. Slut is a word that is meant to hurt somebody, simple. And the way op used it, I'm sure she meant it as a bad word. If you don't understand that, I'm not surprised you didn't get the analogy (yes I truly believe you didn't get it). Come on dude, you could at least have kept your pride and stuck to what you said. Get that tail from between your legs.