How long does it take you to cum when having sex?

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What is the secret , my gf is so tight I can barely last 5 min. And believe me I get a attitude to go with it from her.


1-2 hours come on with or with out drugs?

How is this possible , you guys must be numb.

2 pump chump.

No drugs. Not numb. Just focused. Sometimes it happens, sometimes it doesn't.


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How long it takes is totally situational. My ex and I would often try a super quickie before going to work. We could both cum in just a few minutes. But sometimes I'm into "relaxation sex" where we just enjoy the fucking, and not concentrate on cumming (which does happen eventually). I would say when I was really young (23 and under), I almost always would cum very quickly. Now, I am in no rush. I realize that the orgasm isn't the only good part of sex. Incidentally, when bottoming I find my prostate is MUCH more sensitive after I ejaculate, so I will sometimes try to cum quickly so I can enjoy the ass pleasure more intensely. I can go into an almost "trancelike" state if being properly plowed after ejaculating. As it should be, every session is new and a little different.
 

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i vary greatly with my times

if i haven't had sex in 2+ days, my first session will probably be very short haha

with condom - 10 minutes
without condom - i'll be lucky to last a minute

but if i am consistently getting sex i tend to last a lot longer

with condom - lucky if i even cum at all
without condom - 45 minutes to an hour

it also depends on what substance i am under

if i am high its about the same for everything above but i will cum about 10 minutes faster
if i am drunk i rarely cum, i can probably count on one hand how many times i've even cum whilst in a drunken state
 

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It takes me fucking forever and I hate it. It's all very well when you're with a woman with unlimited appetite for cock but I seem to have spent about half of my sex life with women who want me to "hurry up" which pretty much makes it impossible to cum which they, in turn take as an insult. I've tried giving up masturbating to increase my chances but sex just isn't regular enough. In the case of my previous girlfriend she flat out told me that if I could cum in 5 minutes we could fuck every day, talk about a viscous circle...

Ironically when I have been with women who like to fuck for hours I have stopped masturbating and tend to cum easier. I still don't think i've finished in less than 20 minutes for many years though.
 

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While I make a concerted effort to have sex for an hour, not being able to cum because it takes me forever is NOT a problem I want to have. I feel for you dude.


However, I've been "edging" while having sex. I've had sex everyday since Saturday and haven't cum yet - with each session being about an hour. I'm doing this on purpose. She knew my desire was for her to cum as many times as she could but I was trying not to. So when she had enough, or I was too close to cumming to continue - we stopped.


But I'd seriously hate to be in your shoes. So my question is: do you masturbate after a no cum session in order to cum? Or do you wait until the next time you have sex (since you're trying to cut out masturbating)?


Simba


It takes me fucking forever and I hate it. It's all very well when you're with a woman with unlimited appetite for cock but I seem to have spent about half of my sex life with women who want me to "hurry up" which pretty much makes it impossible to cum which they, in turn take as an insult. I've tried giving up masturbating to increase my chances but sex just isn't regular enough. In the case of my previous girlfriend she flat out told me that if I could cum in 5 minutes we could fuck every day, talk about a viscous circle...

Ironically when I have been with women who like to fuck for hours I have stopped masturbating and tend to cum easier. I still don't think i've finished in less than 20 minutes for many years though.
 

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But I'd seriously hate to be in your shoes. So my question is: do you masturbate after a no cum session in order to cum? Or do you wait until the next time you have sex (since you're trying to cut out masturbating)?
Simba

These days I rarely wank straight afterwards though that can work with women who are into that. I always do at some point before next having sex though because sex is pretty infrequent at the moment.

The irritating thing is that i'd be happily give up masturbation if sex happened every few days. I'd just stop after ten minutes or so and hopefully, within the week i'd be shooting a load into her. I cum most days so it's not like i'm not producing the stuff.

Unfortunately ten minutes in is the point she's really getting into it and starts begging for me to cum inside her. At this point I find it pretty hard to say I don't want to try so we carry on until i'm past the point where it's probably my fitness levels holding me back. At this point she's "getting sore" and we stop.

I think she's rather too focused on me cumming, as was my last GF. The one time I just stopped saying "I'm unlikely to cum and I don't want to just keep going until you're sore" she seemed very hurt and talked about "trying again soon", which hasn't happened yet. It's been two whole weeks...

To be honest I think the problem is, she just doesn't like cock as much as some women, or she used to. I prefer the type who are so into fucking they couldn't care less if you cum or not.

It's possible my current situation complicates things further. I was with a highly sexed woman for 12 years, ten of them married, we went from having a fantastic to pretty good sex life (still a couple of times a week at the end) and got divorced eight years ago. Since then i've fucked a lot of women and been in several relationships, some total fuckfests and some we're i've been almost celibate.

Now, weirdly my 'girlfriend' is my ex wife. Things are awkward, the kids are eight years older, we live in much smaller houses (her fault, she made us sell the big house 8 years ago...) and sex just doesn't happen very often, we don't live together all week and she won't do it if the kids are in and awake. She goes to bed earlier than the kids... When it does it's pretty good other than the not cumming thing but there are complications from the other relationships we've both been in. I did get a massive ego boost when she said she'd forgotten how big I was and described me as twice the size of her ex when we first got back together though :)
 

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Too long anymore. When I was in my teens 10 minutes was my average, and it was a happy duration. Partners wouldn't become too sore, and on those occasions where I had a bit more endurance or a bit less, things were still copasetic under the sheets.

Now I am in my mid 20's and it usually takes me a minimum of 20 minutes or more to get off. It really isn't an ideal scenario and I get a bit self conscious of it because I've had women think I either wasn't into them, or have to end sex because of discomfort. The result is that I try and mix the sex up a lot to keep things from getting stale or uncomfortable, while still getting us both off.
 

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So it seems 10 minutes is about her limit, right? Have you considered masturbating before sex - sort of like a pre-foreplay? Getting yourself worked up before hand. That way, when you get to her, you're pretty close already. Get her off a couple I times and then you can cum? Just thinking.


Simba


These days I rarely wank straight afterwards though that can work with women who are into that. I always do at some point before next having sex though because sex is pretty infrequent at the moment.

The irritating thing is that i'd be happily give up masturbation if sex happened every few days. I'd just stop after ten minutes or so and hopefully, within the week i'd be shooting a load into her. I cum most days so it's not like i'm not producing the stuff.

Unfortunately ten minutes in is the point she's really getting into it and starts begging for me to cum inside her. At this point I find it pretty hard to say I don't want to try so we carry on until i'm past the point where it's probably my fitness levels holding me back. At this point she's "getting sore" and we stop.

I think she's rather too focused on me cumming, as was my last GF. The one time I just stopped saying "I'm unlikely to cum and I don't want to just keep going until you're sore" she seemed very hurt and talked about "trying again soon", which hasn't happened yet. It's been two whole weeks...

To be honest I think the problem is, she just doesn't like cock as much as some women, or she used to. I prefer the type who are so into fucking they couldn't care less if you cum or not.

It's possible my current situation complicates things further. I was with a highly sexed woman for 12 years, ten of them married, we went from having a fantastic to pretty good sex life (still a couple of times a week at the end) and got divorced eight years ago. Since then i've fucked a lot of women and been in several relationships, some total fuckfests and some we're i've been almost celibate.

Now, weirdly my 'girlfriend' is my ex wife. Things are awkward, the kids are eight years older, we live in much smaller houses (her fault, she made us sell the big house 8 years ago...) and sex just doesn't happen very often, we don't live together all week and she won't do it if the kids are in and awake. She goes to bed earlier than the kids... When it does it's pretty good other than the not cumming thing but there are complications from the other relationships we've both been in. I did get a massive ego boost when she said she'd forgotten how big I was and described me as twice the size of her ex when we first got back together though :)
 

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I can go anywhere from 5 min if I know its gonna be a quickie and I have to cum to once in a while hour and a half before I cum...generally its all about stimulation and whats goin thru my head and how turned on I am.
 

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between 30-45 seconds i've been trying to get where i cum in less than 10 seconds


Jesus man...y would you even want to ever take less than 10 seconds to nut? Are you trying to never have sex again? I bet you have a lot of unsatisfied women
 

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Depends on the situation and how long you want it to last, sometimes you have to get it done in a hurry and other times you have lots of time.
 

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Takes me 30-45 minutes as well, sometimes even sober i can fuck like a bull for hours. Anybody have any suggestions to fix this?