How long does your guy last??

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  1. Collette

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    I 'm 19 and have had only 2 sex partners.

    My first boyfriend had a thin cock (7.5 x 4.5), but he would pump me for an hour or more, being in full control of ejaculation. So this being my first partner, I got the idea that this was a normal length of time for intercourse. It certainly satisfied me!!

    My new boyfriend has a shorter but thicker cock (6.5 x 5.5), which is OK for me, but the trouble is, he can only last for about 3 or 4 minutes at best - and its not enough for me.
    I like him a lot, but the sex is frustrating compared to what I was used to before - an hour or so of glorious pumping.

    So girls, how long does your man perform??
     
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    I hope you don't mind a man's opinion. Perhaps the thinner cock of your first BF was not getting nearly as much stimulation as the thicker, second one, due to the skin-on-skin pressure because of the tighter "fit".

    Maybe you should let your BF give you an orgasm orally before he penetrates you. That way, you will not be as tight on him.

    As for duration, my girth is 5.5 and I last anywhere from 3 to4 minutes to over an hour, depending on how I'm feeling, the excitement level, etc.
     
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    I agree. It's not size problem. I've heard about 5inches that can give climax.
    Personnaly. I prefer to get quickly on my wife breast (she likes that ^^ !) and go on a second round after she sucks me. That gives her a real pleasure to know that if I'm really hard for the second round, it's the result of her good job.
    Generally, it's longer to get in the second round. Try it !!!
     
  4. Collette

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    Thanks for the info guys, but I would really like to hear from some girls.
    It's just that when I started sex with an hour-long guy, I thought that was the norm, but now i am in a situation of getting a few minutes before its all over!! Bit hard to take.

    My first sex partner was just that - a sex partner. He was an acquaintance who found out in general conversation that I was still a virgin at 18 1/2, so he convinced me to get started. He is 24, and was open about sleeping with others at the same time - no problem for me. But he did introduce me to sex and I found I liked it a lot. A lot. He taught me how to move with the cock to get best pleasure, and I got quite good at it.

    My new bf is a love relationship, and while I love him, I am missing the hour-long pumping sessions and the orgasms, and I can't move as I would like to as it brings him off even quicker.

    So I am curious about what happens with others.
     
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    My fella only lasts about 5-10 minutes after penetration, i don't mind though cos he teases and licks me for hours beforehand.

    For me good foreplay is way more satisfying. ;)
     
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    I last w/e I have to last!.
     
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    Collette, get your b/f to talk to his doctor about antidepressants/selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors. In small doses, they shouldn't cause too much mood trouble, but they'll certainly improve his staying power. Think Prozac...I suspect all the porn stars use this stuff these days, since they seem to last much longer than they did when I was a lad.

    Good luck! (and good fuck!)
     
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    How long have you been with the new boyfriend? And how sexually experienced is he? Just my curious mind wanting to know.

    I have been married for about 19 years and I don't remember my husband ever having a problem with this. Unless it was when we first got together or something. Can't remember.

    But I have heard of this......and it sounds like your boyfriend is getting way too excited and coming before he should be. There are exercises and techniques that he can do to help him build up and last longer.

    Seems like I remember that when he is thrusting in you and he feels like he is about to cum.....he is supposed to pull out and you grab his balls and it supposed to help keep him from cuming. Maybe that is the stop and start and grab the balls technique. I can't remember the other suggestions other than trying to think about non sexy things to keep him from cuming too soon.

    Also it might help if your boyfriend practiced his cumming control with daily masterbation sessions. I am just guessing with that one..... Hopefully, the longer you two are together.....the less over excited he will be during your lovemaking for your sake.
     
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    p.s. Actually, your first guy may have been on SSRIs when you were with him, Collette. Just a thought...
     
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    I read that most of men didn't last more than 5 minutes, so your partner might not be as bad as you think...

    for my case, though, I "suffer" from delayed ejaculation; because of lack of sensitivity, I can last easily 1 hour before cumming; it's not about control, it's about a medical condition, but my partner seems to enjoy. It's not that I'm thin, though, I'm 6'' of girth.
     
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    I don't know if I would reccomend any antidepressants / anxiety pills.....they have different affects on different people. For a very short time my hubby had some anxiety problems (related to his job and which direction to go) and the dr. put him on some anxiety / antidepressant medicine. He was able to last forever......but he wasn't able to cum while taking this medicine. I didn't like that at all. (My favorite is for both of us to cum at the same time......) Anyways medicine doesn't always affect everyone the same way. I don't know if I recommend opening that Pandora's box......but I guess if someone is desperate.....it is a solution.
     
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    when i first started datin the gf i could last probably hour or so or just go for long ass periods of time. now ive calmed down and learn to enjoy but i sure as hell dont last as long. I can say she will pretty much cum everytime. last from 5 mins-30 mins but more than that and i can say it can get boring if not in the right mood. im average but hell the gf loves it and thats all that matters. maybe he feels alot of you, if its tighter the sensation can be unberable at times
     
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    Communication is the key, Do you talk to him about this issue? He may not know there is a problem.

    Medicines are not good, there are other things to try like - The Squeeze Technique - How To Control Ejaculation

    also exercise - Pubococcygeus muscle - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

    I hope you can resolve your issues Collette hun.xx

    one other sugestion is.....

    Plan to spend a day with him and suggest seeing how many times you can make love in a day - that way he may take longer each time, if so, once he's managed it for a reasonable amount of time be sure to get extra excited and then tell him that was the longest fuck you'd ever had and that he took u to heights you didnt know existed - tell him that fucking you for longer than usual made you multiple etc etc - really sing his praises....
     
  14. Collette

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    Wow, thanks for all the info - I'll take up these approaches.
    New n curious made agood point about what happens when we do it a lot.
    When on holiday we spent most of the time in bed, and he came off 27 times over 4 days, and many of those sessions he lasted around 30 to 40 minutes. Fucking good holiday!!
     
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    New and Curious,

    I am so glad you found and pasted that information. Looks like I was wrong on what a person is supposed to squeeze. It's the shaft, not the balls. LOL.
     
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    so he cums? Tell him to suck it up and keep going. I cum multiple times over an all nighter and I dont miss a beat.

    It's in his head, just tell him to take a minute as as soon as it doesnt hurt to fuck just go right back at it. He'll naturally get softer but most of the time if he gets to fucking you hard enough he will get his second wind just fine. At least if he is like me? I bet he is.
     
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    Has he tried thrusting slower to drag out the stimulation as well as switching up positions to buy some time between them? That should give you at least a little more fuck-time.

    I can generally last as long as I want to, and it's quite rare that I feel the need to blow before she wants me to. I do like to get off after about 30-45 minutes either way though. Otherwise you get all cramped and it's not really enjoyable anymore. The other thing too is that I have a tendency to get a charliehorse in my leg after going for too long. I've yet to figure out exactly why that is. Probably just a certain position.
     
  18. midlifebear

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    It all depends. When the squeeze comes home from work, tired, hungry, and in need of affection more than sex I scrub him down in the shower, give him a back rub, and if he isn't into offering me his ass I roll him over and give him a good blow job (usually he blows in 7-9 minutes). After which I hold him until long after he's fallen asleep in my arms. Then there are those days he sends me a text message to make certain I'll be around for an afternoon siesta. These tend to be long, hot, sweaty sessions of love-making that last about two hours with both of us cumming a couple of times. Then he showers on his own and rushes back to work. Saturday and Sunday mornings we'll lock lips and make love off and on all morning into the early afternoon. During vacation we've been known to stay in bed for two days, constantly maintaining sexual body contact.

    Someday, I'm going to be too old to keep up with him.
     
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    I think I'm opposite of most guys.

    I have always lasted forever with girls I just dated or random chicks. There were even a few that would make me stop after an hour, without me getting off, because they couldn't take anymore.

    However, with my girlfriend now that I've been in a serious relationship for 2.5 years, 15 min is average, at best. There are just as many that last only 5, that last 20.

    Its so much more passionate, and meaningful, and that's a huge difference than just hate fucking a bitch, or pounding the shit out of a girl that you know will run and tell all her friends, and boost your ego.

    SO don't take it out on this guy. Perhaps he really has a connection with you, and you have an unrealistic view of intercourse length.
     
  20. transformer_99

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    3-5 minutes, an hour, it's all subject to interpretation. Maybe the hour long f*ck session, the guy is into the duration of it, he just likes to f*ck for hours on end ? The 3-5 minute man, he might simply be so into the pleasure that you take him 0-100-0 in that brief a time. If both got the job done, the equipment works obviously, but it's just a matter of what the guy's personal agenda/goal is.

    Other explanations, the hour long guy may be more considerate, staying harder for longer for you to get off. That's a double edged sword, it can also last too long for some women. Then he might just be scared, that if he doesn't give you an hour of pleasure, you may go elsewhere for the other 55-57 minutes of f*cking ?

    The 3-5 minute man, his interpretation might be that you want results quickly because your definition of satisfaction is knowing you can get him off in an instant ? Maybe he figures the foreplay should've been enough & that it's time to climax in that regard

    Hard to say without simply just asking either guy ? Sorry to be so vague with this response.
     
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