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Wow, I am really out there. It has been 10 years since intercourse but 2 years since oral. Diabetes affected my 2nd husband so we mutually took care of each others needs. Now , single not looking but missing the intimacy.
 

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So, I have not had sex in over 18 months. I've had plenty of opportunities but declined them all. I'm just not interested in casual sex and the drama that it can bring.

I seriously almost labelled this thread "I'm a horny toad" though because 18 months is way too long. Nevertheless, it's still not changing my resolve that I'm not going to just bang the next guy who offers, even if I'm horny constantly.

So, I guess this is part rant and part to see if any other women are in the same situation!

It's not really a moral issue, casual sex just isn't my thing (you can get that anywhere and it's just not satisfying to me) and I'm also not going to rush into the wrong kind of relationship to 'scratch my itch' so to speak.

Honestly, you will find a shit load more "drama" in a committed sexual relationship than you will in a casual one.
 
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I can't believe so many women are having so little sex. I know a good man is hard to find, but there must be SOMEBODY you want to have sex with. Especially since most of you are so attractive.

Hope it all works out for you

PS: I'm well taken care of :D
 

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being attractive makes us more likely to have guys we want to have sex with? :confused: that makes no sense to me at all.

I think he meant that attractive women have more suitors pursuing them, so surely it would be a lot easier for an attractive woman to find a suitable man to date or have sex with.

I'd say that while an attractive woman can be very heavily pursued by men, it doesn't make it any easier to tell which ones actually care about you and which ones only really care about your perky little ass.
 

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I think he meant that attractive women have more suitors pursuing them, so surely it would be a lot easier for an attractive woman to find a suitable man to date or have sex with.

I'd say that while an attractive woman can be very heavily pursued by men, it doesn't make it any easier to tell which ones actually care about you and which ones only really care about your perky little ass.


Correct Petite, thats what i meant.

Plus, speaking as a man, its just tragic that nobody is getting to pleasure some of these sexy women. :rolleyes:
 
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It was the beginning of January since I last had a real, flesh and blood cock inside my body in any way shape or form... though I got fucked by a cute butch boi in August with a strap-on.

A couple years ago I had a very slutty phase and had a lot of casual/NSA sex as well as having a few friends with benefits (all of which we parted amicably after we lost interested and/or they started seriously dating someone). That lost any appeal to me over time, though. I've had more than a few offers to have a fuck buddy again, but I'm not keen on the idea (and no I'm not trying to say I'm some super hot bitch, lol).

I still like orgasms but I'm more keen on either affectionate snuggles (trite, I know) or else painful kinky stuff with no sex/orgasms involved at all.
 

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I feel the same way. On one of the sites AFF -- AdultFriendFinder, 99.99% of the men are into casual relationships. Rarely, do you find a man who wants a long-term commitment.

Divorced men are the worse for not wanting to settle down again: most of them are afraid of commitment, they want their freedom, they do not want to be tied down, either. They wine like little babies, complaining.

I live in Albuquerque, NM, and I agree with Fleur: not all women want causal relationships.


In my profile, I want a long-term one; but the casuals keep popping up on my site, married men are the worse! Excuse me, isn't that adultery? Then, you hear from the married men, "but, I love my wife!" OK...why, then, are you having sex -- outside of your marriage? What happened to the vows: "for better, or for worse!"

Yes, any woman/man can get fucked -- even crackheads have sex...but in this day of AIDS (I remind men), you are better off in a one-on-one relationship.

Finally, it is the previous generation and this generation who spoiled the goddies for the men. Men used to dream and wonder what was under that skirt, but now you have the video whores and some of the Hollywood whores, shaking their butts; showing off their assets (no pun intended)...so, the men say to themselves, why buy the cow (woman) when she becomes free?

I feel sorry for the next generation. Something got to change in America: can not speak for other countries...absolutely, too much promuscuity. Do you agree?
 

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It's a shame America has come to this: toys to get off. Why do you think the male Anatomy was made/created for a woman's vagina? No toy operated batteries for me; however, to each his or her own, though.

Ladies, it's simply fear of commitment that's driving men from relationships; it's not the women who don't want to hit the altar: Heaven, knows, the churches are for marriage, even those Evangelical, foot-stomping ones; they're worse than the Catholic Church, regarding fornication and lust -- get married...is their spiritual hope.

Now, in some communities, a.k.a., Armish, Brethen Mennonites, and mid western communities where family values, morals are still in tow -- sure, marriage is taken seriously. However, those are the exceptions. Larger, urban, liberal inner cities, not all people want a one-on-one commitemtent -- at least not now.

When most men turn 40, 50, or 60; then, and only then, do they consider setting down? Why? They want companship; someone to take care of them. Well, sir, I'm looking for someone to take care of me. Women do not want a broken down man, who has fucked his way across the nation, worn out, can't get it up, and where Cialis is used more than Advil.

Solution: men/women -- choose your partners, wisely. We are lucky we don't live in a country wherein mates are chosen for you...and you dare not complain!
 

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It's a shame America has come to this: toys to get off. Why do you think the male Anatomy was made/created for a woman's vagina? No toy operated batteries for me; however, to each his or her own, though.

Ladies, it's simply fear of commitment that's driving men from relationships; it's not the women who don't want to hit the altar: Heaven, knows, the churches are for marriage, even those Evangelical, foot-stomping ones; they're worse than the Catholic Church, regarding fornication and lust -- get married...is their spiritual hope.

Now, in some communities, a.k.a., Armish, Brethen Mennonites, and mid western communities where family values, morals are still in tow -- sure, marriage is taken seriously. However, those are the exceptions. Larger, urban, liberal inner cities, not all people want a one-on-one commitemtent -- at least not now.

When most men turn 40, 50, or 60; then, and only then, do they consider setting down? Why? They want companship; someone to take care of them. Well, sir, I'm looking for someone to take care of me. Women do not want a broken down man, who has fucked his way across the nation, worn out, can't get it up, and where Cialis is used more than Advil.

Solution: men/women -- choose your partners, wisely. We are lucky we don't live in a country wherein mates are chosen for you...and you dare not complain!

First, there's nothing wrong with toys to get off. It's called sexual expression and it's perfectly healthy. And believe me, you'd be hard pressed to find a woman who says a toy is better than any man. It's not for me and never will be. But it's a 'safe' substitute when you're single.

I live in Manhattan and plenty of people here are liberal AND want a one-on-one commitment. It's about finding the right match, simple as that.

Your solution so to speak is more than reasonable if not questionable for your way of getting there. However, no one here is complaining. I am not having sex right now by choice not out of complaint.

Anyway, this isn't a thread to post your political or beliefs on relationships these days...
 

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Honestly, you will find a shit load more "drama" in a committed sexual relationship than you will in a casual one.

Totally disagree. In an unhealthy committed relationship MAYBE. But you're seeing the negative 'commitment phobe' end of things.
 

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i think he meant that attractive women have more suitors pursuing them, so surely it would be a lot easier for an attractive woman to find a suitable man to date or have sex with.

I'd say that while an attractive woman can be very heavily pursued by men, it doesn't make it any easier to tell which ones actually care about you and which ones only really care about your perky little ass.

Ding! Ding! Ding! :)
 

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Relationship forum is over there -------->

I feel the same way. On one of the sites AFF -- AdultFriendFinder, 99.99% of the men are into casual relationships. Rarely, do you find a man who wants a long-term commitment.

Divorced men are the worse for not wanting to settle down again: most of them are afraid of commitment, they want their freedom, they do not want to be tied down, either. They wine like little babies, complaining.

I live in Albuquerque, NM, and I agree with Fleur: not all women want causal relationships.


In my profile, I want a long-term one; but the casuals keep popping up on my site, married men are the worse! Excuse me, isn't that adultery? Then, you hear from the married men, "but, I love my wife!" OK...why, then, are you having sex -- outside of your marriage? What happened to the vows: "for better, or for worse!"

Yes, any woman/man can get fucked -- even crackheads have sex...but in this day of AIDS (I remind men), you are better off in a one-on-one relationship.

Finally, it is the previous generation and this generation who spoiled the goddies for the men. Men used to dream and wonder what was under that skirt, but now you have the video whores and some of the Hollywood whores, shaking their butts; showing off their assets (no pun intended)...so, the men say to themselves, why buy the cow (woman) when she becomes free?

I feel sorry for the next generation. Something got to change in America: can not speak for other countries...absolutely, too much promuscuity. Do you agree?
 

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Move to Manhattan, I'd go on a date with you. :)


After looking at your gallery pics, mabye I should...

It's a shame America has come to this: toys to get off. Why do you think the male Anatomy was made/created for a woman's vagina? No toy operated batteries for me; however, to each his or her own, though.

Ladies, it's simply fear of commitment that's driving men from relationships; it's not the women who don't want to hit the altar: Heaven, knows, the churches are for marriage, even those Evangelical, foot-stomping ones; they're worse than the Catholic Church, regarding fornication and lust -- get married...is their spiritual hope.

Now, in some communities, a.k.a., Armish, Brethen Mennonites, and mid western communities where family values, morals are still in tow -- sure, marriage is taken seriously. However, those are the exceptions. Larger, urban, liberal inner cities, not all people want a one-on-one commitemtent -- at least not now.

When most men turn 40, 50, or 60; then, and only then, do they consider setting down? Why? They want companship; someone to take care of them. Well, sir, I'm looking for someone to take care of me. Women do not want a broken down man, who has fucked his way across the nation, worn out, can't get it up, and where Cialis is used more than Advil.

Solution: men/women -- choose your partners, wisely. We are lucky we don't live in a country wherein mates are chosen for you...and you dare not complain!

Wasn't the whole "no masturbation/have one partner all your life" thing tried before? It was called Catholicism, right?