How long is a long-term relationship?

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Societal pressure wouldn't make work ethic seem like a good trait for a lover, but poverty might. If you're broke and have trouble paying the bills, you might be interested in a guy who is able to hold down a job. If you want to start a family a guy with a strong work ethic might be more appealing to you as a provider and role model for your children.
I have known some people who have fabulous and right on work ethics, professionalism, and politics, and are right cunts in their personal lives.

That kind of cynicism just doesn't do it for me : / I could never let finances be a factor in whether I was in love with someone or not, and wanted to be in a relationship with them. I'm more likely to be put off by someone being considerably more wealthy than me because it would affect the power balance. I'm not for sale.

I am broke, but I'm quite happy at the moment. I have a rubbish job, but I'm meeting quite a few new people.
 

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I have known some people who have fabulous and right on work ethics, professionalism, and politics, and are right cunts in their personal lives.

That kind of cynicism just doesn't do it for me : / I could never let finances be a factor in whether I was in love with someone or not, and wanted to be in a relationship with them. I'm more likely to be put off by someone being considerably more wealthy than me because it would affect the power balance. I'm not for sale.

I am broke, but I'm quite happy at the moment. I have a rubbish job, but I'm meeting quite a few new people.

You might not, but there are a lot of people who do. I've known quite a few women who have gotten into romantic relationships because they wanted some help.

I'm just saying that there are a lot of reasons that people get into relationships.
 
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I don't have a relationship with my sweetie exclusively because we have a similar work ethic. There was no "societal pressure" to any of it. You're reading way more into it and making way more assumptions about it than there is to it. I say work ethic in a way that it ties in with being a self-sufficient adult. And yet again, it was a single bullet point out of a list of other things, including love.

I knew them as a friend for years before we began our relationship. He was my best friend before our relationship started and still is since it began. You're projecting your assumptions/reading of way more into things onto me.

This thread wasn't to expound on the many wonderful things about your sweetie, it was "What has made it work for you?" and the list that I made are indeed the things that I considered -contributing- factors that I thought up at the time. Not the be all, end all, every single minute detail of my relationship with my partner.
So sorry if I have offended you. it was not my intention. I have not projected any assumptions onto you because as I have already said I had read a post by the OP, and not by you, though I will now look for your post and read it if you like.

Good for you, and I'm sure you are right, and currently being in a relationship, I'm sure that qualifies you as way more of an authority on the subject than I am. I have recently ended a relationship, so basically anything I have got to say on the subject of relationships is all about me. All about me :). Even so, I'd still be entitled to have my own opinions even if they differed from yours.

I genuinely don't understand why you are being over defensive, and feeling got at in some way. If I've missed something, please be kind enough to explain it. Otherwise I can only assume that there are some crossed wires or a misunderstanding here.
 
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There are lots of comments on LPSG regarding hook-ups, dating, and casual sex. A long-term relationship for some amounts to three dates during spring break or six weeks living together last summer.

First, how long is a long-term relationship for you?

It would be interested to hear from couples (straight and gay) that have been together for several years. What has made it work for you?

Was it:
--Common interest
--Temperament
--Family/friends support
--Mutual respect
--Undefined love
--Work ethic
--Shared responsibility
--Shared cultural views
--Honesty
--You just liked the way you are/were treated
--Oops, almost forgot --- dick size.
Maybe 5 years qualifies? That's 35 in gay years.
For me, the most important things are honesty and a sweet temperament. It's best not to live together so the sex stays hot.
 
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I have listened to the Youtube selection several times. It is interesting, but the articulation is difficult to understand in places. Without digging any deeper into the artist, what is he trying saying?

1. He is being satirical about relationships and what they really are.
2. He is so totally into himself that he can’t feel anything beyond me, myself and I.
3. He is trying to reconcile himself with a relation ship that has gone bad.
4. He doesn’t have a clue about relationships and how to make them work.
 
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I have listened to the Youtube selection several times. It is interesting, but the articulation is difficult to understand in places. Without digging any deeper into the artist, what is he trying saying?

1. He is being satirical about relationships and what they really are.
2. He is so totally into himself that he can’t feel anything beyond me, myself and I.
3. He is trying to reconcile himself with a relation ship that has gone bad.
4. He doesn’t have a clue about relationships and how to make them work.
Here is a different version of the same song, with the lyrics provided in the comments section if that helps. Probably all of the above, and what Hunghorse said. Ultimately I did not write the song or participate in the relationship that the song is about, so I can't be certain. For this intent and purpose I think it's just about staying in a relationship when your heart is not really in it.
 
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Here is a different version of the same song, with the lyrics provided in the comments section if that helps. Probably all of the above, and what Hunghorse said. Ultimately I did not write the song or participate in the relationship that the song is about, so I can't be certain. For this intent and purpose I think it's just about staying in a relationship when your heart is not really in it.
Thanks. Sometimes I need to just plead ignorance and ask.
 
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There are lots of comments on LPSG regarding hook-ups, dating, and casual sex. A long-term relationship for some amounts to three dates during spring break or six weeks living together last summer.

First, how long is a long-term relationship for you?

It would be interested to hear from couples (straight and gay) that have been together for several years. What has made it work for you?

Was it:
--Common interest
--Temperament
--Family/friends support
--Mutual respect
--Undefined love
--Work ethic
--Shared responsibility
--Shared cultural views
--Honesty
--You just liked the way you are/were treated
--Oops, almost forgot --- dick size.


A year or longer....
Longest for me was three years.
But the one I miss most was of six months
 

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When we met, we both were recently out of a relationship and not looking for love. We became good friends who had great sex together, and found we had fallen in love. 38 years later we still have great sex. oh yea, the relationship is still great too!
 
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Three dates is not long term..... That's just the new car smell. Most of my long trem is over 20 years
 
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Some of my two-week relationships seemed like they lasted forever (4 days of good, 10 days of bad). In my mind they were seriously long-term but not by the calendar.

Like hunghorse30 said, 5 years is generally long enough to get to know each other

A failure in the four areas listed below will normally be quick to end a relationship, along with any number negative habits (perhaps smoking, drinking too much, drugs, eating with mouth open, bad hygiene, and a variety of personality disorders)

So if you and yours have made it for over 5 years what has been the “glue” that makes it work for you.

1. Honesty
2. Respect
3. Temperament
4. Undefined love: That little spark along with an attraction to the other person. The more time you spend with the other person the more you wanted to spend and you the other person feels the same.
5. Your glue-------

***When you started seeing someone, did you go in with a one-night-stand approach or were you looking for more?