how many guys cum during sex?

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  1. CALAMBO

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    hey guys...just wondering...i on plenty of occations do not ejaculate while having sex...partner thinks this is abnormal...sometimes all things are just not ready to let go....am i abnormal?...some buddys say rarely happens to them.....
     
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    I dont come a lot during sex, but I last for a long ass time, sometimes I can reach that point, sometimes I cant.
     
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    Same with me. Sometimes I don't cum. It is all about the moment.
     
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    any prescription medications?
     
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    I'm the same way...but if I am able to cum...it's ALWAYS a lot.
     
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    I think you need to be 'in the moment' and not off in your own sexual trance. I do come every single time and I certainly stay in the moment. Always physically and emotionally connected to my partner, and she is connected to me, until she closes her eyes and makes those quiet murmuring sounds of delight.

    Try to be part of your partner, try to be connected to your sensations in her, and try to be connected of her sensations of you. It sounds to me like you some of you are disconnected, and reducing something special and intimate down to an act of motion and duration. Most women don't like intercourse to last too long in any case.
     
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    You're normal.
     
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    Do you still have an orgasm, or just not ejaculate?
     
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    thx fella's...i keep telling her the race is more important than the winner's circle...yeah I am on a BP med...i kinda think sometimes like CBRMALE, says...the trance of my mind set does make a huge differnce in final moments..to get to the height of climax requires mental/body clarity...trying to satisfy her...and not letting go when i possibly should have...and then its gone...but next time the O is bigger and better....good to know I am not alone in my struggle....
     
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    I'm the same, but I am on presc. meds, so...
     
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    Good question....I feel like small mental O's...small bits of satisfaction ..I do not feel I missed the party...just the happy ending...can you relate?....I do not feel not un-satisfied....she feels more un-fulfilled as a lover...I am in a log term marriage..30 plus yrs..maybe that has something to do with it...dunno...
     
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    As of yet, I have never finished while having sex. I think this is due to not really liking the other person enough to be turned on in the first place, and if that feeling isn't there, no way I can reach climax. I used to think I was defective, but it's all a matter of being turned on--in the moment. If your mind is wandering, you're not in it, and finishing will be difficult. So far that's what I think I've learned.
     
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    yeah, and often too quickly lol.
     
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    I have to be in the right frame of mind and really concentrate to "get off". most times i can get to the top, but not over the edge. Dvcorvax, why have sex with someone who is not turning you on at all??? Most times, i'd rather just jack, anyway!
     
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    I've experienced on/off orgasmic conclusions all my life. Some guys come very easily; some keep going for seconds or more; some only want you to come; some are hurt if both don't come; some don't place much importance on cumming.

    The only real problem is preconceived expectations on either or both sides. If people are not flexible in different situations, then they may wind up disapointed.
     
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    Prescription meds can definitely interfere. I just started one last week that is having that effect. My GF gets exhausted trying everything to get me off! I enjoy the ride and know it will happen another time soon. If I get overheated, since my body doesn't sweat, I sometimes can't ejaculate and don't have an orgasm either. Just installed a new ceiling fan to help prevent those episodes. Like above, it just happens sometimes and all of the above-mentioned factors can play a role. Just be patient with yourself. Don't forget that "Junior" does have a mind of his own. You are not really in control.
     
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    alot of the SSRI prescription meds for depression affect the ability to ejaculate. this side effect usually goes away once you've become used to them, in the first three weeks whilst taking them your brain chemistry gets a little rewired and it's more difficult, for example this week i recently started on a regimen, and hurt my dick trying to jerk off to climax cause after an hour of staying hard and jerking, the poor little guy got a bit weak.
     
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    dang, crescendo, you said it all! it is comforting to hear that there are others out there like me who don't get off without some "handson" effort when they have sex.
     
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    It just depends on the day, the time, etc.

    Sometimes I'm super sensitive and find myself changing positions alot to "give myself a break" for a second or two. Sometimes I could just go at it all day and get nowhere.

    I have no idea what governs it either.

    -John
     
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    it's all in our mind, willing to get the partner pregnant and pass on the genes ... not ejaculating...don't have that unless i've been up for a fourth or fifth fuck in a row ;-)
     
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