The basic drive to have sex is to create the next generation. You can give a woman all the orgasms she can tolerate, but generally she will be unsatisfied unless she is penetrated, and she will be unsatisfied if her partner doesn't come. It's a deep biological drive that we have: men to penetrate a woman and to come inside her, and women to be penetrated and to have a man come inside.
Taking about this with my wife who is very orgasmic, she would quite happily trade those many orgasms for intercourse on it's own, and for her to be 'part' of my orgasm, as she described it. She doesn't want intercourse to last thirty minutes, she doesn't want 7 orgasms in a row. But she really wants my cock inside her, and to be stimulated by everything that goes with that.
I certainly have never had any trouble coming from my earliest days to today, but we didn't over-analyse sex the way younger people do. I knew more about sex than most at that time, and from what I knew I developed my script of my partner comes first, and then moving to intercourse which lasts about 10 minutes or so. We still do that most, but not all, times. I knew that vaginal orgasms, while delightful, are rare, and they ought not to get in the way of the total delightful experience. Which is why, from my early days, my partners came first, and my wife still does. And I come inside her, which is a lovely way to finish. After, we cuddle in a delicious state of culmination.
