How many here get enuff simple affection?

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  1. Wyldgusechaz

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    Not sexual affection, just simple affectionate acknowledgement or at least affirmation from others?

    It is in my nature (yes it is) to be very affectionate with people, in a chaste way, but damn, not much in return or even seen being given to others nowadays, at least in my world.

    Is your experience different? Or the same?
     
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    I get alot of comments alluding to it,and lots of jokes from my buddies, i like the attention and play it up a little
     
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    I know I draw strength and enthusiasm from getting a few compliments now and again. With that in mind I look for opportunities to give out occasional words of thanks and encouragement to friends, family and co-workers. They're returned infrequently, though.

    Its the worst at work, of course. Its almost nothing but gripes, bitches and complaints there. Still, I suspect its not because people are inordinately mean, rather, I think its really because people are so damn busy and over-stressed at work. I see that in myself at times.
     
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    Sometimes, it depends who I'm around that day.
     
  5. IntoxicatingToxin

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    I don't get near enough. The only affection I get is from my son, and that's few and far between because he's a 5 year old boy... 5 year old boys don't kiss or snuggle with their mothers. :tongue:
     
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    Wylde,

    Do you mean physically expressed affection or verbal expressions? I just think we have all be scared into sticking to ourselves. Online we do have some degree of freedom, but face to face can often prove problematic. I do experience affection and I appreciate it as well. I have had to push myself because I grew up pretty much a touch me not. But I am learning to be a bit more expressive. I am probably a lot more outgoing online than I am in real life. I was the child who stood speechless when classmates would say Hi in the mall! LOL!
     
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    NOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!! You mean as soon as I get used to having a baby crawling all over me all the time and wanting affection 24/7 they take it away?!?!

    Seriously, though, I was not an affectionate person until I got married and even moreso since I had my son. I've always been a little squirrely about being touched at all, even by close friends and family. Now I really enjoy it, and my husband and son are both very sweet.
     
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    I think I'm lucky in that I work with some great people. We've all known each other for a reasonably long time and we're all very friendly with each other. None of us take ourselves too seriously so there isn't any standoffishness.

    A particularly clever play on words usually earns a high five.
    A new fragrance will be openly sniffed and complimented.
    A blue day will be buffered by a hug.
    Boredom gives rise to horseplay.
    Quicky shoulder rubs aren't uncommon.

    I know it's very rare in the workplace. We're a very weird bunch.
    What the hell, I love the folks I work with!
     
  9. viking1

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    I don't get nearly enough affection of any kind.:mad:
     
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    Most of my sources of affection (church and a lover) have been removed from me. I am lucky to get a hug once a month. I miss it somewhat, although I grew up without much physical affection. I read somewhere that the spine actually shrinks when there is no human touching for extended periods of time. Maybe that's why I've been seeing a chiropractor.
     
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    Hmmm, maybe that's what's happened to my back. I just got two cortisone
    shots in my lower back today. Hope that will make it better.
     
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    VIking and Crescendo,

    I want to just give you both a big cyber hug. That makes me mad! YOu know I think we should each be mandated to get a massage once a week. Our bodies crave that touch and I think we die a bit when we dont get it. Look at seniors who get no attention. Everything about them atrophies. Though I cant reach you physically, I send you a hug and a kiss through the wires.:smile:
     
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    Thanks, I needed that. Maybe that will help my back.

    I sure wish you could reach me physically, though, I KNOW that would help!
     
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    Oh my! LOL! I have been told I do have talented... hands! :biggrin1:
     
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    Cyber hug and kiss received and returned, naughty. Thank you.
     
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    And another cyber hug to wildgusechez for starting this thread.
     
  17. whatireallywant

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    I'm with Viking and Crescendo too. I do get the occasional hug from people in a social activity (non-sexual) club I belong to. All my family and close friends are 1200 miles away, and even when they were closer, I didn't get a lot of affection. I am actually uncomfortable with it in some ways. I don't know why - maybe the shyness. It's not that I don't want it though, it's more that I don't know how to respond.

    Other than that, I go for months without touching another human being.
     
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    I am not a real "touchy" person,
    I dont like being touched, unless it is in a sexual way..
    hugs and stuff are OK, but you must be in the circle.
    if I dont know you, please dont touch me..
    if your hot..
    then please do.
     
  19. Blocko

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    Yes, I do get enough affection, I surround myself with affectionate people. My housemates are all affectionate, my family is affectionate and my friends are affectionate.

    It's all in how and who you choose to have in your life.
     
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    My family does not show affection, they care for each other but touching is unusual.

    I love to give and receive affection with my wife, we hold hands a lot and hug and kiss, even in public.

    I have a few friends that are huggers and that is alright, always somewhat unexpected but I will return a hug.

    I listen to a lot of people in my business and I have hugged customers now and then who are having a hard time and some who have lost a loved one. I try to gauge if it is appropriate or wanted.

    One customer is raising his grand-daughter, 5 years old, after about 2 years she now runs up to me for a hug and a hoist up for some serious 5 year old girl news. Since we don't have kids I get a real kick out of her excitement to see me. I do have to keep in mind that all affection with kids is carefully watched these days so I make sure others are present.
     
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