how many is too many?

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If we both are in love with each other and want to be together, it doesn't make any difference at all. The more important question would be how's the other person's health in terms of STDs? I'd be more interested in that.

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I know that most, if not all of you will look down on me but I have been active for 10 years started having sex at 21 I'm 31 now And I am in the 100's I will not tell you the number. I like sex and I'm happywith my number ( by the way I have not had STD and I do not have HIV). I one read that If a women is marred for 10 years and is a virgin on her wedding night but has sex just once a week for for those 10 years she will had sex 520 times. What is the diffrents if she had sex with one dick 520 times or 100 men once or twice each the pussy is still used. So get over what you think should be a good number and if you like the chick or the guy and they're a good person than forget about how many people they have fucked or just don't ask in the first place.
 
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So what's worse or more negative in an opinion regarding numbers of sexual partners....a woman who fucks 10 guys once each in her life (for a total of 10 fucks) or a woman who fucks one guy 10,000 times in her life (for a total of 10,000 fucks)?

You're right....numbers don't mean anything except that if you know beforehand, then you shouldn't be surprised or disappointed as you become more involved....and it does tell you something about a person's sexual appetite, openness, desires, needs, predisposition to please their partner, physical/sexual requirements, experience sexually, potential issues if their history is to "move on" after having brief or even prolonged sexual relationships, need to have several or simultaneous physical relationships, need to feel desired, etc., etc. OR just the fact they LOVE sex and either like a lot of orgasms or are still trying to find their first orgasm (which drives them to keep searching for that perfect partner).

Exactly. But people get so hung up on the number that they forget about the person. There was a guy that called into a radio station with this same question because he asked his woman how many men she slept with and she told him (something like 50 or so) and he got really upset and was talking about ending the relationship (they were engaged to be married). So WHO did you fall in love with? The woman you see everyday and who loves YOU, or the woman who slept with 50 men? You wanted to marry her for a reason. What WAS that reason? THAT'S the reason you need to think about when you're thinking about your future. Not how many men she fucked.

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Bjen, Petite still has you on ignore. She can't see your posts.



Sorry Miss Petite. I think we're talking across the gender divide on this one.

I've learned to trust (or distrust) what a woman does, not what she says.

Well, I sincerely hope no woman is stupid enough to start a relationship with you then.
 

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Too many is when you feel that the number is bothering you.
I didn t have so much partners as my girlfriend.
She finds that she did well (25-30; she lost count), I had only 5; and never had the feeling that I missed something. We 're now 11years together and sometimes she ask me if I want another experience, escape. And I allways answer her with my standard question : perhaps, but is it that you will have a free ride to do it also?

I wasn't going to respond to this thread, but your response grabbed my interest. I am in a similar situation with my husband, where I am the experienced one and he came to the relationship with not so much. We've been together 15 years and I asked him a few years ago if he wanted an experience with another woman. I didn't ask him because I want a free pass, I asked him because I love him and want him to experience a full life, sex included. He declined, but he always know that he can change his mind. We've talked about it enough over the years that we know where the lines are drawn, what can be done, what can't, etc. I can't say that your gf isn't looking for a free pass for sure, but it's quite possible that she just might want you to experience some variety.
 

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lol really? how did she see this thread then? :cool:

When a person is blocked, you can see their name and a space where they posted, but it states that the person is on your ignore list and gives you the option to see that particular post. She can still see the title of the threads in the forums as well, so she saw the question and answered. Very simple.
 

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It doesn't matter how many they have been with, what matters is their health. Even if someone tells me they haven't been with someone or have only been with one person, it's wrapped no matter what.
 

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lol really? how did she see this thread then? :cool:

When a person is blocked, you can see their name and a space where they posted, but it states that the person is on your ignore list and gives you the option to see that particular post. She can still see the title of the threads in the forums as well, so she saw the question and answered. Very simple.

What BBW said.
 

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Okay, I will go ahead and embrace my sluttiness on this topic- and I must say, I think it's total bullshit. Every guy would get laid as much as possible- either it be with the same person or a different one. If a hot guy or girl came up to you, dropped their pants and said "lets do this," you and your friends would call you fucking stupid for not jumping on that! And I find it very sexist and hypocritical to hold women to that standard. A dude's a playa if he fucks like 4 different girls or more in a month, but a girl is easy and slutty? I don't think so. Girls like to get their groove on, just like us. And I tell you what- a good number of you are dumb as hell for holding such a ridiculous standard close to your hearts. Because had you married these freaky and "slutty" girls, then you wouldn't have shacked up with the prude who will never give you the threesomes you've fantasized about. And some of you probably wouldn't have to sneak around your spouse's backs to jerk off to threads of other people who are getting the "sexy-sex" that you want.

JUST SAYIN'!
 

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Love is like a cold....no matter how many times you catch it, you're never immune from catching it again.....while sex is like an addiction....the more you get it the more you want it........or at least that's what I tend to think/feel.
 

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I am not interested in the number. In my younger days if I was interested, I would ask them out.
 

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Okay, I will go ahead and embrace my sluttiness on this topic- and I must say, I think it's total bullshit. Every guy would get laid as much as possible- either it be with the same person or a different one. If a hot guy or girl came up to you, dropped their pants and said "lets do this," you and your friends would call you fucking stupid for not jumping on that! And I find it very sexist and hypocritical to hold women to that standard. A dude's a playa if he fucks like 4 different girls or more in a month, but a girl is easy and slutty? I don't think so. Girls like to get their groove on, just like us. And I tell you what- a good number of you are dumb as hell for holding such a ridiculous standard close to your hearts. Because had you married these freaky and "slutty" girls, then you wouldn't have shacked up with the prude who will never give you the threesomes you've fantasized about. And some of you probably wouldn't have to sneak around your spouse's backs to jerk off to threads of other people who are getting the "sexy-sex" that you want.

JUST SAYIN'!


while i agree that the double standard is a bit unfair, i do understand where it comes from, because it is a lot easier for a average hetero girl to get dick than it is for an average hetero guy to get pussy ... thats probably where the term "easy" comes from b/c guys tend to be more willing to have sex with a girl he has no idea about if she just went up to him and asked "wanna fuck"? whereas an average looking girl is more likely to have more options
 

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I think many partners is a good thing. Think of all that skill and experience. I like the idea of competing with all those other guys. I like being compared good or bad. It turns me on.
 

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Okay, I will go ahead and embrace my sluttiness on this topic- and I must say, I think it's total bullshit. Every guy would get laid as much as possible- either it be with the same person or a different one. If a hot guy or girl came up to you, dropped their pants and said "lets do this," you and your friends would call you fucking stupid for not jumping on that! And I find it very sexist and hypocritical to hold women to that standard. A dude's a playa if he fucks like 4 different girls or more in a month, but a girl is easy and slutty? I don't think so. Girls like to get their groove on, just like us. And I tell you what- a good number of you are dumb as hell for holding such a ridiculous standard close to your hearts. Because had you married these freaky and "slutty" girls, then you wouldn't have shacked up with the prude who will never give you the threesomes you've fantasized about. And some of you probably wouldn't have to sneak around your spouse's backs to jerk off to threads of other people who are getting the "sexy-sex" that you want.

JUST SAYIN'!

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while i agree that the double standard is a bit unfair, i do understand where it comes from, because it is a lot easier for a average hetero girl to get dick than it is for an average hetero guy to get pussy ... thats probably where the term "easy" comes from b/c guys tend to be more willing to have sex with a girl he has no idea about if she just went up to him and asked "wanna fuck"? whereas an average looking girl is more likely to have more options

How is it logical to call a sexual woman a slut because men have less options? Is it a woman's fault if a man has no game, personality, job, etc? Remember, women wouldn't have all these options if there weren't a wealth of guys so willing to stick it in anything with two tits, a hole and a heartbeat. Sounds like a classic case of projection if you ask me.


To DrDante and Supersized - :07:
 
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This always falls into the "questions I never ask and don't really see the point in asking" category. I mean other than direct observation, how would you even be able to confirm the number given? When it comes to men and women, there's a lot of pressure for people to either exaggerate and inflate numbers (men usually) or downgrade and undercount (women usually) in order to keep in line with social norms and expectations, regardless of the reality of the situation.
 

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How is it logical to call a sexual woman a slut because men have less options? Is it a woman's fault if a man has no game, personality, job, etc? Remember, women wouldn't have all these options if there weren't a wealth of guys so willing to stick it in anything with two tits, a hole and a heartbeat. Sounds like a classic case of projection if you ask me.


To DrDante and Supersized - :07:

I agree with you completely! I <3 any woman who can quote Courtney Love! I will also go ahead and add the following:

while i agree that the double standard is a bit unfair, i do understand where it comes from, because it is a lot easier for a average hetero girl to get dick than it is for an average hetero guy to get pussy ... thats probably where the term "easy" comes from b/c guys tend to be more willing to have sex with a girl he has no idea about if she just went up to him and asked "wanna fuck"? whereas an average looking girl is more likely to have more options

If anyone was to take a look at the animal kingdom and the mating rituals associated, most of the time, the decisions of mating are up to the female sex; whether the male gets the sex or not. The other moments fall into those rare matings- like that desert chameleon that pretty much rapes the female because the chances of him passing another female, or she a male, are slim. KEEP IN MIND that that situation is for mating purposes, not just sexual gratification (some of the people on this site are fucking crazy- had to emphasize that part). But there are also those instances where the decision for sex or mating are up to the guy as well!

It's pretty fucked up to make the comparison between men and women that way. It's not the fault of women that men think about sex multiple times a day, and men just have to shove their dicks in something. If a man is willing to put forward the slightest bit of effort to fuck a girl, and she just so happens to give him what he wants- for him to call her a slut, just because she likes to put out, says a lot about his character; like that he's an asshole who will do and say whatever he has to in order to get what he wants.

We as men compete and we use what we got in order to do so whether it's to get into a great university, get a job, or captivate the same, or the opposite sex. It's simply in our species to do so. And you can't deny that- because I watched you in that chat room yesterday, compete for the attention of at least two women, and the compliments of men, by showing and emphasizing the size of your dick. And you can't say "oh, that was just on the internet." Because if the same women you were trying to impress knocked at your door with hunger in their eyes, you pants would be at your ankles before the door even closed. In all fairness, I did enjoy the show, by the way.

All I'm saying is be fair. Because even sluts can, and know when to say no.


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Having sex 10,000 times with one person tells us two things. She likes sex and she likes being in a relationship (you can't do it 10,000 times in a ONS). That's good for a man interested in sex and a relationship.

Having sex once with ten different people raises the issue of whether she's really interested in you for a relationship or just a short term fling. Plus, ten times isn't that many. Maybe she doesn't really like sex either.

Whoa, it's not that simple! If she's only had sex with one guy 10,000 times then that could mean that she's recently left a LTR and she wants to experience the freedom of being a single woman for a while and so she's only interested in flings (I know so many women who have done this!), and a person who has had sex with 10 different people might be looking for a relationship because she's reached a point in her life where she's ready to settle down. Or maybe she's very picky, like me, and she has very high standards, so she doesn't want to marry until she's met the right guy, no matter how long that takes. You can't tell by just looking at the numbers because there are a lot of things that could be going on there.

Aren't things like whether she's interested in a relationship or a short fling better determined by talking to her than by analyzing how many people she's had sex with?

The answer is, "Yes."

pretty much my feeling ... a girl who has had sex with 1 guy on numerous occasions just shows that she is willing to have a healthy sex life in a relationship ... but a girl getting laid by a bunch of different guys with numerous ONS is a red flag when entering a relationship

while i agree with you that you need to figure out what she wants by asking her before hopping in a relationship, words dont hardly mean anything ... going by a someones past actions coupled with what comes out of their mouth is usually the best way to determine whether or not they are a worthy partner

Sorry Miss Petite. I think we're talking across the gender divide on this one.

I've learned to trust (or distrust) what a woman does, not what she says.


Hitting back on previous posts:

Just because someone fucks 10,000 different people, and someone else fucks one person 10,000 times, doesn't make the latter a better choice at all. And it's ridiculous and just fucking stupid to go by the numbers. I will say that I LOVE SEX- men and women are beautiful creatures (I prefer men, but you know what I mean). And like a car, I'm going to test drive before I take that motherfucker home! I'll be damned if I'm going to be stuck with making payments, servicing, and having it detailed without being pleased with the ride. No one wants to be stuck with something, or someone, they're not satisfied with.

I'd rather be with someone who possesses their fair share of life, sexual, and relationship experiences. Because with great hope, they've learned a lot of positive things that they can bring to the table. It's these people who are typically more comfortable with themselves. With these people, you generally don't spend 2 years with them, say I do, and then find out they're lying, cheating, crazy, manipulative bitches(I mean this for males as well). And it's these ideals "high numbers" that spread, which only encourage lying anyway. Like homosexuality and bisexuality aren't cool!!! And that's why so many of you straight men are fucking, sucking, and jerking each other off in secret. The same can be said for the number of people someone sleeps with. If someone's going to be blacklisted for the number of people they've slept with, do you really think that person will want to be honest with you? We all just want to be accepted. Personally, I'd say fuck you, and move on to the next dick- because there's always another dick.

And to the person who has trust issues. Get over it. We all get hurt, and experience disappointment in life. It's sad and it's tragic, but no pain- no gain. It's that experience that makes you a stronger and better person. And if you keep that fear, and that distrust, you'll never be in a relationship where you're truly happy, because you're always wondering and feeling insecure. Suck it up, either shit is going to happen or it's not.
 
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