If we both are in love with each other and want to be together, it doesn't make any difference at all. The more important question would be how's the other person's health in terms of STDs? I'd be more interested in that.
Amen, brother
If we both are in love with each other and want to be together, it doesn't make any difference at all. The more important question would be how's the other person's health in terms of STDs? I'd be more interested in that.
So what's worse or more negative in an opinion regarding numbers of sexual partners....a woman who fucks 10 guys once each in her life (for a total of 10 fucks) or a woman who fucks one guy 10,000 times in her life (for a total of 10,000 fucks)?
You're right....numbers don't mean anything except that if you know beforehand, then you shouldn't be surprised or disappointed as you become more involved....and it does tell you something about a person's sexual appetite, openness, desires, needs, predisposition to please their partner, physical/sexual requirements, experience sexually, potential issues if their history is to "move on" after having brief or even prolonged sexual relationships, need to have several or simultaneous physical relationships, need to feel desired, etc., etc. OR just the fact they LOVE sex and either like a lot of orgasms or are still trying to find their first orgasm (which drives them to keep searching for that perfect partner).
Sorry Miss Petite. I think we're talking across the gender divide on this one.
I've learned to trust (or distrust) what a woman does, not what she says.
Too many is when you feel that the number is bothering you.
I didn t have so much partners as my girlfriend.
She finds that she did well (25-30; she lost count), I had only 5; and never had the feeling that I missed something. We 're now 11years together and sometimes she ask me if I want another experience, escape. And I allways answer her with my standard question : perhaps, but is it that you will have a free ride to do it also?
Bjen, Petite still has you on ignore. She can't see your posts.
lol really? how did she see this thread then?![]()
lol really? how did she see this thread then?![]()
When a person is blocked, you can see their name and a space where they posted, but it states that the person is on your ignore list and gives you the option to see that particular post. She can still see the title of the threads in the forums as well, so she saw the question and answered. Very simple.
Okay, I will go ahead and embrace my sluttiness on this topic- and I must say, I think it's total bullshit. Every guy would get laid as much as possible- either it be with the same person or a different one. If a hot guy or girl came up to you, dropped their pants and said "lets do this," you and your friends would call you fucking stupid for not jumping on that! And I find it very sexist and hypocritical to hold women to that standard. A dude's a playa if he fucks like 4 different girls or more in a month, but a girl is easy and slutty? I don't think so. Girls like to get their groove on, just like us. And I tell you what- a good number of you are dumb as hell for holding such a ridiculous standard close to your hearts. Because had you married these freaky and "slutty" girls, then you wouldn't have shacked up with the prude who will never give you the threesomes you've fantasized about. And some of you probably wouldn't have to sneak around your spouse's backs to jerk off to threads of other people who are getting the "sexy-sex" that you want.
JUST SAYIN'!
Okay, I will go ahead and embrace my sluttiness on this topic- and I must say, I think it's total bullshit. Every guy would get laid as much as possible- either it be with the same person or a different one. If a hot guy or girl came up to you, dropped their pants and said "lets do this," you and your friends would call you fucking stupid for not jumping on that! And I find it very sexist and hypocritical to hold women to that standard. A dude's a playa if he fucks like 4 different girls or more in a month, but a girl is easy and slutty? I don't think so. Girls like to get their groove on, just like us. And I tell you what- a good number of you are dumb as hell for holding such a ridiculous standard close to your hearts. Because had you married these freaky and "slutty" girls, then you wouldn't have shacked up with the prude who will never give you the threesomes you've fantasized about. And some of you probably wouldn't have to sneak around your spouse's backs to jerk off to threads of other people who are getting the "sexy-sex" that you want.
JUST SAYIN'!
while i agree that the double standard is a bit unfair, i do understand where it comes from, because it is a lot easier for a average hetero girl to get dick than it is for an average hetero guy to get pussy ... thats probably where the term "easy" comes from b/c guys tend to be more willing to have sex with a girl he has no idea about if she just went up to him and asked "wanna fuck"? whereas an average looking girl is more likely to have more options
How is it logical to call a sexual woman a slut because men have less options? Is it a woman's fault if a man has no game, personality, job, etc? Remember, women wouldn't have all these options if there weren't a wealth of guys so willing to stick it in anything with two tits, a hole and a heartbeat. Sounds like a classic case of projection if you ask me.
To DrDante and Supersized - :07:
while i agree that the double standard is a bit unfair, i do understand where it comes from, because it is a lot easier for a average hetero girl to get dick than it is for an average hetero guy to get pussy ... thats probably where the term "easy" comes from b/c guys tend to be more willing to have sex with a girl he has no idea about if she just went up to him and asked "wanna fuck"? whereas an average looking girl is more likely to have more options
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Having sex 10,000 times with one person tells us two things. She likes sex and she likes being in a relationship (you can't do it 10,000 times in a ONS). That's good for a man interested in sex and a relationship.
Having sex once with ten different people raises the issue of whether she's really interested in you for a relationship or just a short term fling. Plus, ten times isn't that many. Maybe she doesn't really like sex either.
Whoa, it's not that simple! If she's only had sex with one guy 10,000 times then that could mean that she's recently left a LTR and she wants to experience the freedom of being a single woman for a while and so she's only interested in flings (I know so many women who have done this!), and a person who has had sex with 10 different people might be looking for a relationship because she's reached a point in her life where she's ready to settle down. Or maybe she's very picky, like me, and she has very high standards, so she doesn't want to marry until she's met the right guy, no matter how long that takes. You can't tell by just looking at the numbers because there are a lot of things that could be going on there.
Aren't things like whether she's interested in a relationship or a short fling better determined by talking to her than by analyzing how many people she's had sex with?
The answer is, "Yes."
pretty much my feeling ... a girl who has had sex with 1 guy on numerous occasions just shows that she is willing to have a healthy sex life in a relationship ... but a girl getting laid by a bunch of different guys with numerous ONS is a red flag when entering a relationship
while i agree with you that you need to figure out what she wants by asking her before hopping in a relationship, words dont hardly mean anything ... going by a someones past actions coupled with what comes out of their mouth is usually the best way to determine whether or not they are a worthy partner
Sorry Miss Petite. I think we're talking across the gender divide on this one.
I've learned to trust (or distrust) what a woman does, not what she says.