How many men, do you think, believe they are "small" ?

lttle1

Worshipped Member
Verified
Gold
Joined
May 16, 2004
Posts
1,650
Media
9
Likes
24,057
Points
868
Location
Philadelphia (Pennsylvania, United States)
Verification
View
Sexuality
100% Gay, 0% Straight
Gender
Male
Oddly, I had the opposite experience to the one the OP describes: I used to assume I was average, despite being only 4.5" x 4.5" hard, and tiny when soft. I just sort of divided the penis world into hung guy and everyone else and thought of myself as one of the everyone else. It took a period of repeatedly being smaller than sex partners and seeing size discussions online to realize that there was an average size and that it was bigger than mine.
 

Jjdov27_2

Superior Member
Joined
Jun 11, 2018
Posts
1,064
Media
26
Likes
6,264
Points
333
Location
Charlotte, NC, USA
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Male
Oddly, I had the opposite experience to the one the OP describes: I used to assume I was average, despite being only 4.5" x 4.5" hard, and tiny when soft. I just sort of divided the penis world into hung guy and everyone else and thought of myself as one of the everyone else. It took a period of repeatedly being smaller than sex partners and seeing size discussions online to realize that there was an average size and that it was bigger than mine.
I think this is how a lot of average guys see things. In the conversations about size I had back in college or with college friends, where it’s assumed they were size obsessed guys like on this site, their attitude was pretty much there “hung” guys and “regular” guys.

small was a factor too, but it was assumed that “regular” was the vast majority. And that “if you’re at least regular” you had nothing to worry about. And if you were hung, you were blessed.
 
D

deleted13716601

Guest
i think most men would be bigger if they were given the chance, and most men have believed they were small at some point in their lives.
I realized the true extent of my endowment only recently.
For the longest time, I thought my partner(s) told me I was huge only to counter my insecurities.
 
  • Like
Reactions: Murphys

vita2016

Cherished Member
Verified
Gold
Joined
Nov 4, 2016
Posts
154
Media
1
Likes
485
Points
283
Location
London (Greater London, England)
Verification
View
Sexuality
100% Gay, 0% Straight
Gender
Male
I'm 5.5" in length and it's pretty thin. Every guy I have been with has been bigger than me. I'm a bottom so it doesn't bother me that much but sometimes I do wish I could just be a bit bigger.
 

littleguy2

Superior Member
Verified
Gold
Joined
Jul 26, 2007
Posts
3,088
Media
26
Likes
8,907
Points
518
Location
Raleigh (North Carolina, United States)
Verification
View
Sexuality
80% Straight, 20% Gay
Gender
Male
I know I'm above average but I really didn't realize it until i saw a lot more naked cocks. I know some dudes think they're too small, but many more are simply obsessed with size: they can be 7 or 8 inches hard and still think it's not enough. Porn, both straight and gay, can be very misleading. All I can say is that I've had very hot sex where the dude only has about 5 inches
Always good to hear that my 5 incher can satisfy
 

reges198

Legendary Member
Joined
Oct 13, 2019
Posts
562
Media
0
Likes
1,170
Points
388
Location
Washington DC (Washington, D.C., United States)
Sexuality
69% Gay, 31% Straight
Gender
Male
I think this is how a lot of average guys see things. In the conversations about size I had back in college or with college friends, where it’s assumed they were size obsessed guys like on this site, their attitude was pretty much there “hung” guys and “regular” guys.

small was a factor too, but it was assumed that “regular” was the vast majority. And that “if you’re at least regular” you had nothing to worry about. And if you were hung, you were blessed.
So true. The college friends and other guys I’ve spoken with all assume they are “small.” When I, as the resident gay, tell that just what average is they are shocked. And usually thank me profusely because they have a 6incher and suddenly go from feeling insecure to confident. All their gfs and wives should thank me haha.
 

Jjdov27_2

Superior Member
Joined
Jun 11, 2018
Posts
1,064
Media
26
Likes
6,264
Points
333
Location
Charlotte, NC, USA
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Male
So true. The college friends and other guys I’ve spoken with all assume they are “small.” When I, as the resident gay, tell that just what average is they are shocked. And usually thank me profusely because they have a 6incher and suddenly go from feeling insecure to confident. All their gfs and wives should thank me haha.
I’m actually happy that you could get my meaning from my message. Reading over it in your quote, I garbled a lot of it.

I meant to say that I assumed that my friends weren’t size obsessed, not that they were.

I also remember when they put out the study saying that the average was actually 5.5”, instead of 6 or 6.25, which had been the supposed scientific average before that. My college roommate and I jokingly high fived, saying “fuck yeah, we’re above average now.”

his girlfriend thought it was hilarious. And I of course didn’t let on that my boner wasn’t really above average, even with the new stats. Lol

in the end, most guys that can’t be classified as “hung” start out wishing they were bigger. There is a period of glancing and hoping things you beat the other men. But it eventually settles down into “as long as you get the job done, don’t worry about it.”

NOT that it doesn’t matter… but, don’t worry about it.
 

reges198

Legendary Member
Joined
Oct 13, 2019
Posts
562
Media
0
Likes
1,170
Points
388
Location
Washington DC (Washington, D.C., United States)
Sexuality
69% Gay, 31% Straight
Gender
Male
I’m actually happy that you could get my meaning from my message. Reading over it in your quote, I garbled a lot of it.

I meant to say that I assumed that my friends weren’t size obsessed, not that they were.

I also remember when they put out the study saying that the average was actually 5.5”, instead of 6 or 6.25, which had been the supposed scientific average before that. My college roommate and I jokingly high fived, saying “fuck yeah, we’re above average now.”

his girlfriend thought it was hilarious. And I of course didn’t let on that my boner wasn’t really above average, even with the new stats. Lol

in the end, most guys that can’t be classified as “hung” start out wishing they were bigger. There is a period of glancing and hoping things you beat the other men. But it eventually settles down into “as long as you get the job done, don’t worry about it.”

NOT that it doesn’t matter… but, don’t worry about it.
I don’t care about size. If you’re hot, that’s all that matters to me!
 

Sagittarius84

Legendary Member
Joined
May 16, 2018
Posts
2,197
Media
0
Likes
2,282
Points
158
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Male
NOT that it doesn’t matter… but, don’t worry about it.
This is it in a nutshell. As men it would be foolish and naive to think our penis size, our height, our income or socioeconomic status aren't subject to hierarchical selectivity, but it serves us better to invest in things we may be superior at, than to worry about where we are not.
 
  • Like
  • Love
Reactions: nhguy78 and Murphys

Anton565

Superior Member
Joined
Apr 15, 2016
Posts
2,726
Media
145
Likes
5,305
Points
158
Location
New York (United States)
Sexuality
100% Gay, 0% Straight
Gender
Male
Exactly, you nailed it :emoji_thumbsup::emoji_clap:

That's an interesting self selection bias. If we go with the premise that most guys aren't as small as they think they are and then we assume that most guys who aren't shy are guys who're confident they're at least a little bit above average...

Then we could be looking at 75th percentile and up. That's hardly average.... so we have a self fullfilling prophesy here... maybe?
 
  • Like
Reactions: Murphys

Oldtimer6

Loved Member
Account Deletion Pending
Joined
Nov 12, 2019
Posts
158
Media
0
Likes
619
Points
188
Location
Huntsville (Alabama, United States)
Sexuality
90% Straight, 10% Gay
I have never seen it happen. It was a place with a purpose to shower/bath/relax. That's not to say it never did. It goes that with age and maturity that kind of behavior doesn't happen.
I was in lots of locker rooms in the 70s, ballplayer. I can’t remember anyone talking about another guys dick.
 
  • Like
Reactions: nhguy78

Kleine1948

Expert Member
Joined
May 24, 2022
Posts
119
Media
0
Likes
185
Points
63
Location
Edmonton, Alberta, Canada
Sexuality
99% Gay, 1% Straight
I like this post. Thank you for it.

I know I am one of those guys who fell into the camp about misconceptions about size. My own cock is the only one I’ve seen. I didn’t play team sports growing up, and even now as an adult, I get in and out of the locker room as fast as I can. So my “seeing” other guys in real life has been very limited.

The only other cocks I’d seen were those in porn. And not knowing the “tricks” used with angles and lenses, I thought the cock sizes I saw in porn were the norm, and what were needed and desired. I know now how skewed that view was, but it was my reality for a long time.

Until I found this site.

I am really glad I found this site. The opportunity to see other men has been extremely beneficial to me. And not seeing men in a sexual way but as they are. It’s helped me be not as self conscious about my body and cock.
By my Gay nudist friends I can clearly say they like my solid 8 inch cock and my friend when he comes over always mentioned my size a mouthful. I the past my Gay acquaintance had a dinner party at his place and we all are naked and so many of them made comment about my size and so many hands had to hold and feel my cock of course so many guys in no time I was up had hard as a rock and all I could hear wow. wow.
 
  • Like
Reactions: lttle1

cockboiii

Legendary Member
Joined
Oct 24, 2014
Posts
603
Media
12
Likes
1,779
Points
163
Location
Washington (Washington, D.C., United States)
I’m actually happy that you could get my meaning from my message. Reading over it in your quote, I garbled a lot of it.

I meant to say that I assumed that my friends weren’t size obsessed, not that they were.

I also remember when they put out the study saying that the average was actually 5.5”, instead of 6 or 6.25, which had been the supposed scientific average before that. My college roommate and I jokingly high fived, saying “fuck yeah, we’re above average now.”

his girlfriend thought it was hilarious. And I of course didn’t let on that my boner wasn’t really above average, even with the new stats. Lol

in the end, most guys that can’t be classified as “hung” start out wishing they were bigger. There is a period of glancing and hoping things you beat the other men. But it eventually settles down into “as long as you get the job done, don’t worry about it.”

NOT that it doesn’t matter… but, don’t worry about it.
This is a great example of why the 5.2 or 5.3 number is completely wrong. ALMOST EVERYBODY is bigger!! Now all the guys can say they are above average because the average is more like 6 or 6.5. Possibly bigger honestly.
 
  • Like
Reactions: good96 and VIIby5

nhguy78

Superior Member
Verified
Gold
Joined
Mar 14, 2010
Posts
1,026
Media
50
Likes
4,404
Points
543
Age
45
Location
Boston, New Hampshire, US
Verification
View
Sexuality
Asexual
Gender
Male
This is a great example of why the 5.2 or 5.3 number is completely wrong. ALMOST EVERYBODY is bigger!! Now all the guys can say they are above average because the average is more like 6 or 6.5. Possibly bigger honestly.
Realize the sampling bias might be towards those that are confident enough to exhibit. Those that are ashamed of their size and have size anxiety are not going to readily share or even be on websites like this. They might not even be visible in society.
 
  • Like
Reactions: good96 and lttle1

cockboiii

Legendary Member
Joined
Oct 24, 2014
Posts
603
Media
12
Likes
1,779
Points
163
Location
Washington (Washington, D.C., United States)
Realize the sampling bias might be towards those that are confident enough to exhibit. Those that are ashamed of their size and have size anxiety are not going to readily share or even be on websites like this. They might not even be visible in society.
I hear excuse after excuse about how the average just MUST be that small, even though almost any gay man will tell you that just isn't true. Guys want to grasp on to the small number so they can say they are above average, when in fact, they are likely average. There is no reason to think smaller guys don't have sex. The guy who has been with 600 guys and less than 10% were less than 6 inches just shows how completely wrong these stats are. I haven 't been with that many guys but I'd agree with the 10% less than 6 inches - if that TBH.
 
  • Like
Reactions: good96 and VIIby5