How many responsible adults do you know?

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  1. Principessa

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    Here's the problem, I have to have another hysteroscopic myomectomy on 8/25/09. Whenever you have a surgical procedure, not matter how minor they say, "Make sure you have a responsible adult who can drive you home." Sadly, I no longer have a responsible adult in my life, whom I can trust to do this. :frown1: I have no idea how I got to this point in my life. :boggled: :confused:

    When I had the hysteroscopic myomectomy in May 2009 my mom drove me to and from the hospital. The problem with this is that the hospital is 46 miles away in Atlanta; and mom hates city driving. Mom is also 79 and has cataracts. Apparently while I was in surgery my mom slipped and fell in the waiting room . . . face first. She ended up with a big goose egg on her forehead and her right eyelid was bruised various shades of black, purple, and blue for about 2 weeks. So there I am in recovery worried sick about my mom and how we are gonna get home.:mad::frown1: Fortunately she was able to drive us home; but when she stopped at Walmart to get the prescription for my painkillers filled she decided to do some shopping and was annoyed that I didn't then want to go to Target which is another 20 minutes away. :261: "Earth to mom, HELLO MOM! Just had fibroids yanked out of my uterus, I need to lie down and take drugs." She then told me she did not like my disrespectful tone. :rolleyes: This is why I no longer feel I can trust her to be my responsible adult, in these situations. I don't mind having her along, but I need someone else to drive me.

    Oddly this is not the first time something like this has happend to me. In 2006 when I had the surgery that determined my vulvar cancer was benign, I had my best friend since high school drive me. Lora was valedectorian of her class, a National Merit Scholar, and came in 2nd place on Jeopardy. Yet even though I told her on the way out of the hospital that the anesthesia was wearing off and I was in major pain and just wanted to get my Rx filled. This dear, sweet, otherwise intelligent friend, decided she needed to stop at a Walmart for a freakin' oil change on the way home! :261: She literally dropped me off at the front door and then drove around back, to the auto bays. :boggled::grumpy::sigh: Fortunately the were all booked up.


    I need to make some new friends that live nearby. The kind of friends that can be responsible adults. It's not like I'm an antisocial hermit. Although I have many good friends there are only 4 I would consider responsible adults. Of the four, the one that lives the closest is about 90 miles away :irked: and she works as a teacher so it's not like she can just take off work to chauffer me around.
    • How do you define a responsible adult?
    • How many responsible adults do you know?
    • If you had to go to the hospital for surgery, who could you trust to pick you up from the hospital, get your painkiller prescription filled, and take you home?
     
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    I guess you could take a taxi, but it would be expensive. Don't you know any neighbors? I feel sorry for you not knowing many people in Georgia. Where's the dude with the big rig?

    Anyone over 18 who isn't a complete idiot or too infirm due to age or illness. Driving a friend home is not a big challenge.

    To take me home? Dozens. Oh.... you mean from the hospital! :biggrin:
    Able to drive 46 miles and stop at a drug store? In the situation I live in right now, there are easily over 50.

    About a dozen in my best friend group, three of my neighbors, the guys who run the market down the street, a couple of cops I know, any of the 32 people that work for me. Lots of others.

    Funny, but in Canada there are only about 20 people I could call on and I lived there most of my adult life. In the States there'd be 10 or so.
     
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    Wow, that is sooooo funny. (In a bittersweet kind of way) You could write a book about "surviving" your life, QT.

    You really, really should think about that. And I'd connect you if you did put a book together. (Forget about that CHicken Soup for the Soul shit, let's get REAL stories about what REALLY goes on in life.)

    PS: That was a great thread you pm'ed me about -- sorry for not answering yet. Haven't been here much lately. But the puns absolutely brightened an otherwise dim day!
     
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    NJ, I don't know how long it would take you to recover, but do you think after the surgery you could take a taxi to a hotel and stay there until you feel comfortable driving back home??
     
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    I am friends with the lady across the street. I know she would be there for me in a minute; but my mom would be incredibly pissed off and make my life a living hell if I did that. Mom doesn't like having the neighbors know all her business and so consequently doesn't know many people. :irked: :rolleyes: It's not like I drive thru the neighborhood with a megaphone dispersing family secrets. :tongue:
     
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    Course not. A microphone and loudspeakers works much better.:tongue:
     
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    No. I don't think Americans are stand-offish. They are really friendly. It's just that I haven't lived there in 20 years!
     
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    NJ, I'm sorry about the whole hospital drama past and present. Honestly I know about 10 or 12 people I could call that I consider responsible. In that they can drive, have no physical or metal issues that would impede them from being of assistance (that's how I define it). That and they know where to be and be on time.
    I'm lucky because I am a couple so if I needed something of this nature I know I could count on him.
    However when I was single and had an appendectomy and did not want to bother anyone, I called a car service for the hospital pick up and they stopped and picked up the meds too. Maybe there is a service like that in your area. If not, when you recover maybe you should start your own business "Responsible Adults Inc!"
     
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    The most responsible person I know is a fifty-one year old single woman who's always done everything according to the prescribed plan. She never indulged in recreational drugs, never had but one glass of wine, and kept her weight in check at all times. She's led a responsible existence on every level.

    She recently been diagnosed with a terminal illness.

    All bets are off people.
     
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    DAMN! That totally sucks! I am so sorry to hear your friend has a terminal illness. :frown1:
     
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    Thanks njqt466. That was very kind.

    My heart is breaking by the day. I'm learning by the week what it means to truly love another human being without reservation and in a nonsexual way. I can learn much through the pain.
     
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    here hospitals usually have volunteer drivers who help ferry people to & from hospital if they have transport issues.
    you could ask if they have anything like that.
     
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    actually, i vote you stand up to your mother.
    it's not her business, it's yours.
    and the thing that matters is that you get home safe.
     
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