I'd say 4 to 6. my wife had 6 lovers before me. most gals that I know are somewhere in that range, their guys too. personally, I "had" about 50 women before I met her. in those 50, I know that I was the 2nd man several times, I was also the 20th or 30th. I was also the 5th guy and the 40th guy to one gal. I slept with women and 10 bfs later they were back in my bed. one lady friend saved herself for marriage, she married a good guy, who made the rounds as they say. so he was her first. they had kids and were happily married it seemed, but one day he cheated, moved out, divorce took a couple yrs. after it was all over, she told she should have fucked more guys, become a better lover, become good in bed. I laughed cuz I tried to bed her several times when we were young and single, she always refused. lol. it's a crazy world. you'd be surprised how much changes in 20 -30 yrs.