Tbh, not great. I have seen vulnerable sides of the males in my family. But when it comes to partners and sex, it looked like they only gave them the surface level stuff. They would keep on hurting them until eventually there was one woman left around who battled through all of their bs to stay and take care of them. I don't trust men really as partners. I think they respected and loved their partners for doing what they did for them. But in the end, their love was never equal to what the women gave, and it was never unconditional. There was always a selfish reason behind their actions. Always telling them what they wanted to hear. What's annoying is that I love being around men because I'm attracted to them. I hate that I'm attracted to them. I hate that any part of a man I could see some attraction in. Shoulders and backs are
. Desire and attraction are weird things.
My dad was Norman Bates. My gran, who is his mother, raised me. He only saw me as a sister but one whom he hated. He would say things like "why does she get so many things at Xmas and I only get aftershave". Or he would make up lies and tell his friends I was stealing from my gran, etc. He was a functioning addict and it was him who really did all those things. He just hid who he was really well. I have PTSD from the last 3 months of my grans life 5 years ago. He really went in hard on me when she wasn't there to protect me and ended up stealing all her money. I haven't seen him since and I am so glad.
I will say this. I don't know why, but if something bad ever happens to a guy and then the same thing happens to a girl, I will always feel more sorry for the boy. I think I always have the thought process of "pull yourself together and get over it" just because I've seen women get over worse. Men, I just want to mother BUT ONLY to a certain extent and take care of them. There's always one who will take a mile when you give them an inch, though.
In a nutshell..
Men + partners = untrustworthy and always waiting for the shoe to drop for whatever selfish need they have used a woman for.
Men as men = I want to take care of you and be around you.
It has caused me to seek men who are stable and don't play games. Although this site would have you believing no such straight man exists when you look at their past activities. I think women can be really naive to men and how much say sexual activity really has in men's lives. We grow up on Disney and romance. So many women who have not had any hard knock life experiences still romanticise every moment with men. Maybe I'm just too pessimistic now, after seeing inside Pandoras Box.
