How much do you share with your friends about your BF/Husband?

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I can always tell exactly how much the person I am dating has shared about me with her friends when I meet them. Most of the time it is fine, I sometimes catch them staring at my crotch area or some bring up my size in conversation in an offhanded way (i.e. last night I used the word long to describe something and her friend said "you are lucky that (gf's name) likes long things too"). But sometimes one the friends goes too far especially when alcohol is involved. Last night as a Christmas party one of my gf's friends (since college 10+ years) gave me her number and let it be known that she would be up for anything with me. My dilemma is not to call her but should I tell my GF about it? In the past this has gone either way for me. Meaning I have told my gf at the time and she blew up on me and other times I kept it to myself and it came out later (I still didn't do anything with the friend) with bad results. Like most things in life there isn't an answer for all situations but would you want to know? or is it enough for your man not to take action?
 

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That is a tough question. I don't know if I would want to know. First off, I don't share sexy times info with my friends. You might want to sit down and have a talk with your gf and if this relationship doesn't work out then the next gf too. Tell them about previous experiences and that you would prefer that they keep mum about your penis and the intimate details of your relationship.

What I would tell the current gf, if I were you, is that she might want to stop telling all her friends about your penis because one of them propositioned you and gave you her number. I wouldn't tell her who no matter what. I'd just let her know that she might want to keep somethings about your relationship private.

Sheesh! My mother told me that before I started menstruating. What happens between you and your man regarding sex stays between you two.
 

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I see two problems here. Your girlfriend's talking out of turn and the woman coming on to you.

I would definitely tell your gf about the incident. If she freaks out at you, time to evaluate why? You should be able to discuss anything with her.

It's not clear to me, is this just one girlfriend? Or has it pretty much been a trend with all of them?

I agree with Fluffy. Private matters between lovers stay private. I honestly can't say that I know anything really personal about any of my friends' love lives, even in high school. But maybe things have changed. We do seem to live in a time of serious over-share.

If it is just this one girl, you need to have a come to Jesus talk with her. She needs to know it stops now. It frankly sounds very immature.
 

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*Laughing at Redds "come to Jesus talk" LMAO!*

Fluffy is soooo right though....sharing what goes on in the bedroom as well as info about your mans dick to the next woman is inviting trouble. That's something immature high school girls do *UGH*
Of COURSE her 'friends' are gonna be curious and size you up if she's running her mouth. Not cool at all.... Let your girlfriend know, since she obviously played a part in this as well.
I don't share my sex life with my friends, BUT if either one of them came on to my bf, I would DEFINATELY want to know...

That is a tough question. I don't know if I would want to know. First off, I don't share sexy times info with my friends. You might want to sit down and have a talk with your gf and if this relationship doesn't work out then the next gf too. Tell them about previous experiences and that you would prefer that they keep mum about your penis and the intimate details of your relationship.

What I would tell the current gf, if I were you, is that she might want to stop telling all her friends about your penis because one of them propositioned you and gave you her number. I wouldn't tell her who no matter what. I'd just let her know that she might want to keep somethings about your relationship private.

Sheesh! My mother told me that before I started menstruating. What happens between you and your man regarding sex stays between you two.
 
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My coworkers and friends know that my husband is a smart, generous and helpful man who can be so damn picky about his things, stinky in the bathroom, forgetful about certain things. In other words, a real regular man.

They know when he brings me flowers. They know when I'm so mad at him I could poke him with a sharp stick. They know when I'm sad that he's on tour. But they don't know and will never know what happens behind closed doors. That's not information I even share with my closest friend. People in this forum know more about that than she does!
 

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All of this.

My coworkers and friends know that my husband is a smart, generous and helpful man who can be so damn picky about his things, stinky in the bathroom, forgetful about certain things. In other words, a real regular man.

They know when he brings me flowers. They know when I'm so mad at him I could poke him with a sharp stick. They know when I'm sad that he's on tour. But they don't know and will never know what happens behind closed doors. That's not information I even share with my closest friend. People in this forum know more about that than she does!
 

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In my experience, the only guys I can ever recall my friends talking about like this were flings. But real intimacies in real relationships? Never.

Well... Once. My mother once shared a detail with me about her husband, my step-father. It was really inappropriate. But then my mom can be a self-centered nutjob.
 

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Aside from the normal day to day stuff, I share nothing. I have always been a firm believer of the expression, "it's nobody's business but our own".
 

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In terms of sharing things that are not generally public knowledge, I would only do that with my 1 or 2 closest friends. And even then it's not like I file a report, it's just that with my closest friends it's possible that personal things like that might come up, in confidence. If I ever felt like someone was not a safe place to share that (like your scenario where their behavior changes to let on that they know something) that would be a quick way to make that person no longer a close trusted friend. Some things are personal and some info is not public property.
The other thing to remember is it's a really different situation if I'm in a relationship vs something more casual. If I'm in a relationship with a guy I think I treat the bedroom as a private place that should be kept between us. This is NOT to say that I go blabbing freely in other situations, far, far from it. But I do think it's different in a relationship.
In general I think women share less information, with fewer people, in a less gossippy way, than many guys assume.
 
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Share quite a lot of note comparing about size of past guys and guy's I've seen or currently dating. Also about how guys perform when discussing our sex lives, mostly with about 3-4 close friends but sometimes just with other women when we've had a few cock-tails! :tongue:
 

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Zero chance of me ever sharing intimate info instead just boring general stuff. I have two close female friends I really trust, besides some family, but beyond that I'm really not a trusting person. Been burned before. Something as ridiculous as telling other women that your bf has a big cock is just foolhardy in my book, apart from being crude.
 

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Nothing about HIM specifically.
With my best friend, I might feel the need to discuss how to handle certain situations. But that would come down to relationship issues or emotionally difficult situations, or things that have to do with ME, not him directly.

I would definitely tell her that you think she stepped out of line and that you don't appreciate her sharing that information with her friends, because it brings on annoying situations. If she asks for the situation, I would explain, but say you think she was joking about it.

How much of a "friend" is that friend to your gf?
 

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I can always tell exactly how much the person I am dating has shared about me with her friends when I meet them. Most of the time it is fine, I sometimes catch them staring at my crotch area or some bring up my size in conversation in an offhanded way (i.e. last night I used the word long to describe something and her friend said "you are lucky that (gf's name) likes long things too"). But sometimes one the friends goes too far especially when alcohol is involved. Last night as a Christmas party one of my gf's friends (since college 10+ years) gave me her number and let it be known that she would be up for anything with me. My dilemma is not to call her but should I tell my GF about it? In the past this has gone either way for me. Meaning I have told my gf at the time and she blew up on me and other times I kept it to myself and it came out later (I still didn't do anything with the friend) with bad results. Like most things in life there isn't an answer for all situations but would you want to know? or is it enough for your man not to take action?


Well, there are friends and then there are FRIENDS. I have some friends at work and from college that I share ALMOST everything with EXCEPT things of a sexual nature. On the other hand, I've met some ladies at this site (along with a couple of guys) that I share nothing EXCEPT things of a sexual nature. I'm VERY particular about keeping those things separate. I don't think it's particulary smart to do otherwise.....:wink: