How much has jealousy affected you?

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by Daydream, Oct 21, 2010.

  1. Daydream

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    If you were jealous and you really had a feeling that tells you "He/She is cheating on me", how far would you go to get evidence?

    Would you look through his/her cellphone?
    Hire a detective?
    Hack into his/her FB account?
    Ask him or her directly?


    I'm usually not the jealous type but I must admit I have felt temped to hack into someone's account but I end up not doing it. What's your jealousy story?
     
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    First of all, it is NEVER ok to snoop or invade someone's privacy. However, by the time a person is driven to the point of snooping, there are usually enough other indicators present that leads one to invade another person's privacy in an attempt to appease a suspicion or feeling of infidelity.

    My story:

    I got a job transfer and had to move to another city. I was gone for a week to find a place to live and to take care of a few other work-related items. My boyfriend stayed at home due to not being able to take off from work. I was unable to get a hold of him for a couple of days. I didn't think too much of it, as he worked the evening shift and I didn't go out of my way to track him down, because I trusted him (that was a BIG mistake). Fast forward two weeks. I'm back home, life is good. Or so it appears to be. I open our cell phone bill and found it to be $70 higher than it should have been. His phone had an extremely high multi-media (picture) messaging charge. I logged into the picture messaging portion of my cell phone account and found several cock pics that he'd sent to some random guy. I actually called the guy, and got the story. As it turned out, my (now ex) boyfriend had been creeping around with this guy, and had actually went on a trip to a city 3 hours away with him on the days that I could not get a hold of him. I'm sure you can tell what happened in the hotel.

    I printed this information out and confronted him on it when he got home from work that night. I also threw him out immediately upon completion of my confronting of him.

    I don't know if this was really jealousy, now that I think about it. It was more like suspicion. Either way, I DID invade his privacy in order to confirm my suspicions. I still don't feel right about doing so, but in the grand scheme of things, my life is definitely for the better because of it.
     
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