how much is to much

Discussion in 'Women's Issues' started by D_Ed69s girl, Dec 29, 2007.

  1. D_Ed69s girl

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    Okay due to a recent response my husband got on another thread I choose to start this thread.

    Understand that I have a 15 old year daughter and a 10 old year son. Ed69 and I have been very positive about sexuality when it comes our children. We have always answered every question (age appopriate) about sex when ever they asked. Trust me it was a little awkward when your three year old walks in on you while your having sex and then later ask what were you and daddy doing. Only to hear her tell your grandpa later "Oh their in the bedroom playing mommy and daddy games." My dad found that very amusing but was proud of us for not making up stories or not saying a word to her when she asked. We have always made it our top priority for our children to be able to come to us with any question sexual or other. So yes our daughter is fifteen now and she hears dad say you gotta be kidding me. Naturally she ask whats up. So we allow her to read the post and she tells us what she thinks. We have had some really hard but honest discussion doing this. I find that a many people make the subject of sex is taboo. And then wonder why is teen pregnancy so high in the USA. Could it be that we aren't open and honest about sex?

    So I ask you How much do you share with your children? Do you make Sex a taboo subject in your house or do you answer you kids questions open and honest?
     
  2. Principessa

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    Whoa! I can't wait to see how and where this goes. :rolleyes::smile: I'm guessing 50%/50% conservative vs. liberal.
     
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    your technicolor panties gave me a seizure nj...
     
  4. Not_Punny

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    I have three teen kids, and I have a policy of...

    -- Always being truthful regarding sex
    -- Providing information when requested

    Birth control, however, is a subject that I ORIGINATE when I see certain indicators.

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    My middle kid knows a LITTLE bit about LPSG (believe it or not, she's a girl), but I wouldn't voluntarily sit down any of my kids to read LPSG stuff.

    Why? Because I wouldn't be able to post openly (!) if my kids were on LPSG. I consider LPSG to be an area of adult entertainment!
     
  5. ManlyBanisters

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    I don't have the slightest problem with the idea of your 15 yo daughter looking over dad's shoulder while he's reading stuff here if he and she (and you) are OK with that. I guess you have to be careful about clicking on attachments and certainly with the galleries because, regardless of age, I don't think any parent and child want to look at porn together. Anyway - it doesn't sound like surfing LPSG with dad is a regular activity, but he showed her one thread because it amused him and he thought the content would amuse her.

    My parents were always very open and honest with me about sex (and pretty much everything else too) - it has given me a relaxed and confident attitude and allows me to deal with the practicalities of sex and the medical side of the reproductive system without the embarasment or awkwardness I see others having to suffer through. Definitely the best policy.
     
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    hey , if they ask be honest ... at 15 they probably know whats going on anyways
     
  7. D_Ed69s girl

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    Your kidding yourself if you think the subject of birth control is an indicator most kids don't bring that up unless they want to be sexual active. AND I Never said we allowed our daughter the freedom of surfing the site. We just shared something we thought she might have some insight on.
    I agree but don't you think that when you see a topic that has impact on todays teens, shouldn't it be shared with them to help educate them??
     
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    Your husband not only had your daughter reading the thread,which I don't care about,but he let her post under his name. He continued to let her post,for sole purpose of gettion a reaction,"from you uptight old broads". That has nothing to do with giving them information.
    I can't say I'm surprised by her profanity, and usage of the word, dildo.
    Was that something she needs to know about too?
    cigarbabe:saevil:
     
  9. D_Ed69s girl

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    Truthfully we allowed her to read the thread not for informations but for clarification of what they hell it was talking about. I have never watched the show they talked about and since she knew of it. She had to help us understand the knew slang of the day.
    FYI I proudly have already educated her about them. I feel she should be exploring her body before anyone else does!!
     
  10. Ed69

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    There was only one post by my daughter,how you missed that I can only guess. #23 (permalink) cigarbabe
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    Geez Ed,you need to use your 15 yr old to get your kicks?
    I don't think I need to add to how sad that is.


    You started the insults,now explaine your self.:wink:
     
  11. ManlyBanisters

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    Hey - I have no problem with M reading the thread - but I hardly consider my va-jayjay rant and subsequent responses a topic that impacts teens or particularly educational for that matter.

    She and her dad were having a giggle - nothing wrong with that either - I made my comments on her actual post in the thread itself, so I won't rehash.
     
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    MB in all due respect I do believe that I already address that matter earlier in the thread. and yeah I will say your rant about the va-jayjay was a huge what the F*ck. We had our daughter read it and exlpain to us what the hell it was all about. Then it turn sour after that reread both thread and do it carefully and you will see all will be answered.
     
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    According to my 15 year old daughter says and I quote "the kids in my high school are more comfortable whith their own sexuality and the idea of sex than you people who are much older and should be ok with it."

    a reminder we feel our children should speak freely and yes even my mother hates the fact that I allow my children to speak their minds to adults. I don't sensor them.
     
  14. goodwood

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    Oh Dear.
    I think it would be wondeful for children to be accepted and understood as they are regarding sex. We were all there once and where I was from I figured it out on my own and such a topic was verbotten in discussion with my parents.
    I hope to never be the kind of parents mine were. Not haveing had the privildge of having children yet, I plan to be very open about sex. I think there is no other weay to be and that it is very healthy for parents to be honest and open and healthy with their children about sex.
    Discussion about sexual matters strikes me as a good thing with one's children.
     
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    If more kids were educated about sex by anyone, there'd be less teen pregnancies and so forth. By all means, talk with your kids about it and be open enough to know when they're having sex with someone.
     
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    Hello

    I have 2 girls and 5 boys and honestly the girls are more open to asking and talking about sex then the boys ever would be, if they ask i will tell then the truth, now the older one of the 2 girls in her late 20's talks quite a bit, we have been to sex shops and so on together seen some porn, asks every now and again if she can "borrow" the porn dvd's, though sometimes i do have to draw the line and say "kido i just don't want to know", but for the most we except that she is a girl that likes sex and will get if she wants it.

    Now my other "little girl" is some what younger and i would not let her on a site like this until she is older,but when she is older then fine.

    I think we need to be open but kids need to be kids too,for the younger ones i will only answer there questions they have to be 18 before i will go any further, i don't want my kids to grow up be fore there time.

    Thank You.
     
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    Thank you goodwood, guy-jin and jack65 I appreciate your honest opinion about the Sex ed for children. I must admit kids do have alot more information at hand then we did when we were kids.
     
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    Hello

    Do other places have sex ed in there schools like we do? grade 7 they have the full on talk but you can have your kids not take that class if you want,

    some parents called me and the wife and told us how there kids came home and just started talking about it all, there were some very uncomfortable parents that day lol.

    Our kids new most of it as we have all ways told them what they wanted to know - at there level of understanding of course.

    We also have talks about stranger danger in our schools, and touching talks that is to say, what is ok and what needs to be told to your parents, they stress to kids that they have the right to say no in that regard which is a great idea but can back fire some times.

    The stranger danger and touching talks happen around year 1.

    Thank You.
     
  19. D_Ed69s girl

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    yes we do have sex ed here too but I feel it is to clinical and leaves alot of question. The stranger danger happen for most here at preschool.
     
  20. antonio

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    There is a difference between being honest/candid about sex and actually cruising the internet together.

    The internet as a whole creates a dishonest view of sexuality. Sure on LPSG forums people try to be truthful. But look at what gets linked to: monsterocks, girlsloveblackcocks, biggest bukkake - whatever the hell it is it often ends up being some huge distortion that ends up being confusing for a 15 year old.
     
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