how much would you put up with?

[dolfette]

i agree.i wanted to tell her this but my other friend who's closer to her than i am told me i'd be over-stepping the line by saying so.and that i don't understand. like i said before i'm dumbfounded,because she's dumped other guys for less.

i don't agree with your other friend.

 

[Gillette]

.she told my friend she can't back out now.it would make her look bad because she's 36 and she's the only one out of all her friends who's not married.plus he's successful,her parents love him,ect.
my question is how much is too much to put up with for you to stay in a relationship? i still can't wrap my mind around this when i heard about it.she's a very pretty girl with alot going for her.

You told her she can't back out of this relationship because she's 36?

No, he didn't.

Aren't you concerned about the likelihood that he'll continue to hurt her with his cheating in the future?

Yes, apparently, he is. Hence his question.

 

[petite]

Socially, this is dangerous. If you tell her you think she should leave him and she doesn't, then that'll negatively affect your relationship with her. possibly forever. I understand staying out of it.

However, you shouldn't have told her that she should stay with him because of her age or pride. That was the wrong thing to do!

I think they sound doomed. He's bound to hurt her by cheating and she'll eventually be publicly humiliated when his cheating become known by everyone.

Either choose to say nothing and be there if she wants to confide in you, or tell her that you think she needs to seriously reconsider this marriage to prevent a lot of future heartache.

 

[Gillette]

However, you shouldn't have told her that she should stay with him because of her age or pride. That was the wrong thing to do!

He didn't.
Read the fucking OP.

 

[dolfette]

He didn't.
Read the fucking OP.

tut tut!

she already accepted her mistake.

read the fucking thread! :tongue:

...i think i should throw chocolate & back away slowly.

 

[Gillette]

tut tut!

someone already pointed that out and she already accepted her mistake.

read the fucking thread! :tongue:

...i think i should throw chocolate & back away slowly.

No, you read the thread. The mistake she acknowledged earlier was assuming that the thing with the brother was current as opposed to being in the past.

What I quoted was from 8 minutes ago. If she'd already acknowledged it was an error why would she repeat the accusation?

 

[dolfette]

No, you read the thread. The mistake she acknowledged earlier was assuming that the thing with the brother was current as opposed to being in the past.

What I quoted was from 8 minutes ago. If she'd already acknowledged it was an error why would she repeat the accusation?

oh yeah...

i missed that.

mea culpa!

she's indeed being a bit fick today.

...you put no effort at all into telling me off :frown1:

 

[Gillette]

...you put no effort at all into telling me off :frown1:

I'll do better next time?

 

[dolfette]

I'll do better next time?

oh yes! i want the full monty.
like being spanked with vampire gloves.

http://www.la2day.com/images/page_image/stockroom-vampiregloves.jpg

...yeah, i'm a pervert.

 

[Lex]

People put up with as much as they feel they should, based on how worthy they think they are. Mileage seems to vary.

 

[Gillette]

And topping my list of what not to masturbate with...

http://www.la2day.com/images/page_image/stockroom-vampiregloves.jpg

Ouch!

 

[iluvbigheads]

alright well...from my own experience, a bi sexual man or any man for that matter who starts the messing around with other men sexually will not stop. The thirst never stops, it is only contained for a while...mix that with, you get what you settle for. I mean if she's 36, I wouldn't consider it a total loss for telling the guy, "hey, you like to fuck around with men, go be with men and leave me outta your fuckin mess..."...if she is willing to hang around and be the front and image of straight happy home life...well it will get worse. And I know because I'm one of those guys who has been the sucker for married men, they all operate the same way.

 

[petite]

the hook-ups with her brother was in the past.
but the blow job buddy thing still might be going on,from what my other friends have told me he's been known to jerk off/get naked for his male friends alot.her being with him suprised me because she's the first person to talk about how rude and unpolite it is to even discuss sex-related stuff.
and from what i was told this morning, the main friend of his went down on him twice three months into the relationship.

oh yeah...

i missed that.

mea culpa!

she's indeed being a bit fick today.

...you put no effort at all into telling me off :frown1:

I was responding to Dougie's most recent clarifications that the "blowjobs" may still be going on, which would be current cheating, would it not?

 

[Gillette]

I was responding to Dougie's most recent clarifications that the "blowjobs" may still be going on, which would be current cheating, would it not?

"Might" and "Is" are two different animals.

Regardless, what I took issue with in your post was you tsking Dougie for a) advising this woman to stay with the guy, b) because of her age. As neither of these things are attributable to Dougie you're tsking at something you've imagined.

You quoted Dolfette's post to clarify your position only you're clarifying the wrong point.


*Edit

*Sighs @ ML for deleting posts again. I don't know if a straight girl can write effective lesbian porn but I'll give it a go.

 

[petite]

Anyway, Dougie, it sounds like there really isn't enough information for to make a determination, because there's a lot that's confusing about everything you've described. You need to clarify a lot more things, and be sure of them.

There are just so many questions and speculations here. The condom/glove excuses, were they about being safe regarding disease or some sort of excuse to avoid admitting to homosexual acts? Is he actually cheating or did these things happen in the past? You need to be sure about whether he's still getting blowjobs from friends or if that's just speculation. I am still unclear on whether she believes he is currently cheating on her and if that was her issue with him, or if she is concerned by simply discovering he was bisexual, in which case she has issues.

You're obviously concerned about your friend and whether she should stay with this guy or not, and that's good of you to look out for her. That concern makes you a good friend. I thought I should tell you that.

 

[Gillette]

Too funny.

'I'm going to tell you that you were wrong for doing something that you didn't do. Ah, heck, I'll do it twice. Despite having this error pointed out (thrice) I'm going to ignore it while telling you to be more clear of the facts when posting, all the while hoping that people forget my false accusation (an imperfection I'm certainly not going to admit to) and take me seriously.'

HTTC

 

[nudeyorker]

Yes it would appear that ML gave the most sound advice possible.

 

[Gillette]

Otay

 

[petite]

Yes it would appear that ML gave the most sound advice possible.

I completely agree! MickeyLee's comment was priceless!

I wish she hadn't deleted it!

 

[dolfette]

dyke porn? woot!