How Often Do You And Your Partner Have Sex?

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How often do you and your partner have sex? My partner and I have been together 2 years and it’s slowed down to once every few weeks. Is that normal?
 

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There's no magic number. Every relationship is different.
My wife and I have been married for 36 years and we have sex 1 or 2 times a week. Some weeks not at all. Sex for us is still awesome and that's more important than how often, IMO.
 

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We've been together over 30 and the average is about twice a week for P-in-V with sometimes a third day of just oral every 1 or 2 weeks. Though to a lesser degree it might only be once a week if we've got a lot going on.

This is satisfactory to us as we no longer feel the need to fuck like rabbits like when we were younger, if only because just being together and doing non-sexual things has become more desirable. So I believe overall the longer people are together the less constant sex becomes a priority as other life events take over and although after 2 years we still were doing it several times a week, but everyone is different and there's no right or wrong answer.

The only thing that causes any issues is when one of the partners is not on the same page and desires it more or less than the other which sounds like might be where your question is headed. If that is the case, the best thing one can do is be open with their partner and discuss it and hopefully that helps.
 

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For our first 15 years or so together, my wife and I fucked literally about every single day. If were sick we didn't do it. If we were apart out of town of course we couldn't but we made up for it big time when we got back together. Maybe occasionally there would be a day here and there we didn't do it, but 5 times a week was the norm for years and years. Health changed majorly and there were times when we couldn't do it at all for months sometimes. She's in menopause now and we did it 6 times total in 2020 and half of those times weren't so great and quite painful. But thanks to medication, she's more willing and able than she's been in a long time and the last 3 months we've been doing it on average every other day. We just have always loved sex together so so much and she loves it like crazy so we do it ;)

To OP I'd say I don't think that's slowing down after 2 years considering most couples my wife and I have known through all the years, it seems they are hot for a year or two and then really slow down. If anything our heat turned up and we did it more and more and more. Its all subjective though. How good is the sex when you both are together? Sometimes quality beats quantity!
 
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The pattern basically follows her ovulation schedule, whether she is aware or willing to admit to it. Essentially a 2.5-3 wk period of no sex, with pms week getting 1-2x...that is until I bring up the frequency issue, or she's hit with some competitive or jealous anxiety, and I get sex bombed for a couple weeks until she regresses back.
Guaranteed if she were asked she'd percieve a totally different schedule..lol
 
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different people have very different sexual drives, add to that normal life pressures and commitments and i'm sure every single person could give you a different number.

A former bf of mine had a low sex drive and would've been very happy not ever having sex, my current bf enjoys having sex pretty much every day - like the OP we've been together a little over 2 years now and, for us, whilst the sex has changed, we still pretty much have sex every day.

The other thing to consider is what do we mean by 'sex'?? I guess most people take it to mean full penetration? But sex is a lot more than that and some people (some gays) aren't into penetrative sex but still have fulfilling sex lives.

I think a lot of the time we ignore those other aspects of intimacy that make up part of the whole 'sex' repertoire and which can be just as enjoyable as full penetration.
 

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How often do you and your partner have sex? My partner and I have been together 2 years and it’s slowed down to once every few weeks. Is that normal?
Been married over 30 years, it’s been a gradual decline. Used to be once a week, then once a month or so. Now it’s been over three years
 

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My gf and I usually have sex of some kind at least twice a day, more on weekends. The number can increase if we're in an extended session of some kind. If I'm with a dude, it may vary. I have an awesome bottom buddy and the last time I was with him, I shot three loads into him in just a couple of hours
 
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How often do you and your partner have sex? My partner and I have been together 2 years and it’s slowed down to once every few weeks. Is that normal?

Nothing is normal. Just so you know. Now give it 30 years...