How often do you call your SO by their first name?

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  1. Ramsey

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    How often do you call your partner by their first name as opposed to affectionate names or calling them "honey" "sweetheart" "babe" "bitch" "asshole" or whatever. I see many couples I know that almost never call each other by their first name unless it's something serious, or they are upset about something.
     
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    Hardly ever. It actually sounds odd when I use his name. Usually only when others are around and I need to call him to help in the kitchen or something. Usually I just start talking or call him by a term of endearment.
     
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    Rarely. I probably use my parents' first names more often.
     
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    When speaking to her, never. And only rarely when speaking of her to strangers.
     
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    Probably 90% of the time I call him by his given name. Just feels closer.
    I do use cutesy names names at times, but not often.
    I'd say he does the same. We just never got into pet names.

    It is an interesting subject tho, we have friends ( only married about 4 years) who both call each other hun; probably more than they use each others names.

    Now, when you have kids, there is that " mom", don't you agree it's just about bedtime?"
    When kids are really young, parents can forget their own name !
     
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    since we are around the public most of the time, I would say 80% of the time we use our given names. We like each others names have for over 30 years.

    The rest of the time it is usually a shortened form of the given name or as a leftover from the kids (like mumzi above) it is likely
    dad, daddy, mom, mother. However, when initiating privately or getting intimate or in the midst of sex the nicknames appear.
     
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    Do NOT call me baby, honey, sugar, sweety or fucktard.

    I use first names, always have always will, so you had better do the same.
     
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    I rarely do know that you mention it. I will say it when discussing Tyrone but rarely say it to him.
     
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    I don't use his first name ever - but then neither does he or anyone else who knows him - he's know by a diminutive of his 2nd name - I use that name at least as often as a term of endearment, if not more so. That's face to face.

    As we're still LDRing a lot of our daily coms is written - I don't believe I use his name much at all in writing, I usually opt for 'babe' or 'sweetheart', sometimes 'my love'.

    When talking about him I use his name, or if here his handle.
     
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    Hardly ever
     
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    I use asshole a lot haha! But then I usually call him dude, really only use Billy when talking to others. And most others know him as my favoirte nickname for him-fuckwad!
     
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    Heh. You're going to have my handle all up in you a week from this very moment.
     
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    Every day. Most of the time. I like her name.
     
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    all the time. she wants me to use her new nickname that's come up in the last few years and I still just call her by her name.

    not that fond of the nickname anyway
     
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    I don't have a SO, but when I am in a relationship I actually prefer to use first names but will on occasion use terms of endearment if the mood calls for it, or a nickname if teasing.
     
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    Depends on the relationship. Last one, I was his baby and he was mine. It felt good, where it wouldn't with anyone else.
     
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    Frequently, but not always.
     
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    I get in trouble if I call him by his name, He won't answer if I do. He says it sounds weird, and I would have to agree, tons of names but 2 really stick out and we use them all the time even in public. I love being in love and feel that I am the luckiest guy on the planet.
     
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    When we are alone, I call him Sir.

    When speaking to people I know are kink-friendly, I call him Sir.

    When speaking to my family and friends I call him HisFirstName-Sir. I manage to get away with it because of a joke I made to my mum early in our relationship. He's even on our PS3 system as HisFirstName-Sir.

    When speaking to HIS friends I try to avoid calling him anything at all as I can't use Sir. On those occasions when I MUST use his first name (without the Sir) I have to concentrate to do so.

    He doesn't use my first name much either.
     
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    Other than you biatch, I can't think of anything. ;-)
     
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