Like yelling, name calling, cussing that type of stuff. How often is that?
I forgot to put it in the other thread but if you don't fight at all/ever I'm also interested in hearing about that.
I want to add that in the nearly 30 years of marriage between my parents before my mother died, I can tell you that I only witnessed two fights ever. In talking with my father after her death, I didn't miss any. They pretty much never argued or fought. They knew how to communicate with each other and how to disagree about things in a civil and peaceful manner. I try to follow that example.
We disagree about things sometimes. We may argue on occasion, but yelling and name calling? Never. Even when it's not someone I love, I don't yell at people or name call. I may say I find a particular behavior objectionable. I may say I find a behavior stupid (especially with some people on this site, good grief). I endeavor to not personally insult or name call in general, though. I have called people out for behaving in racist, sexist, etc ways, but them getting offended at being called out for saying sexist stuff is on them. Yelling and name calling just tends to seem fucking childish and a sign of poor self-control.
Cussing? We both swear a lot in general, in the privacy of our own home. It's just our natural way of speaking. I know some people aren't comfortable with swearing, and in many environments it isn't appropriate so I do not cuss in those scenarios. Among friends and around him, it's free game. He's a former Marine for goodness sake. If I couldn't swear around him, I couldn't swear around anyone. As far as frequency, disagreements and arguments happen fairly rarely since we learned each other's communication styles and just generally got better at communicating.
Do you just talk over disagreements at lengths? How do you personally handle them when no agreement can be reached or seems as though cannot be reached (like on bigger things rather than silly things like which actor is best or who is best girl)
Like yelling, name calling, cussing that type of stuff. How often is that?
I forgot to put it in the other thread but if you don't fight at all/ever I'm also interested in hearing about that.
We have knock down drag outs, but we've never ever devolved into name-calling.
I've never had arguments like I've had with him. I think it's being married to a creative type. Also, I'm a Type A and he's a Type B, but he plays a Type A on stage. It's his easy going manner that sometimes drives me crazy.
Also, he doesn't like to argue, so I have to drag it out of him! I'm serious about that! We have issues that need to be aired, and he doesn't always want to address them. That's when we have an argument.
Our most recent one was over a month ago, and that was probably the most serious one we've ever had. You know that bullshit about not going to bed angry with each other? Who in the hell wrote that?
We slept in the same bed to spite each other!
So, you may ask, because we argue so much why do we even stay together?
For me it's simple. If I were ever to leave him I know my friends would ask "why did you ever leave him?" And I would think to myself "I don't know." All of his wonderful characteristic, actions, emotions, and just plain love for me, and I would leave him because of something, that in the grand scheme of things, is trivial by comparison?
I would really have to be a complete idiot to even ponder the thought.
I did ask him the other night why he stays with me. He answered that I'm great arm candy.
That was our last argument.
Musicians... saying dumb things for song fodder.
He owes you writing credit and royalties.Have you been eavesdropping? OMG! He's turned some of our best fights into lyrics!
I remember the first time I realized that this song could be about me! No, it didn't start another argument, because I wouldn't give him the satisfaction of my anger giving him a hit.