In my 20's it was at least once a day. I was busy working a lot, and didn't always have time for two, but I would if I could manage it. It was always in the evening before bed. I went through a period of time in my 30's where it seemed like my sex drive was higher and it was 2 or more times a day. Things slowed back down in my early 40's, and not at almost 50, it's usually once a day. I work from home, so I can take my time with it. I can spend some time getting worked up, and then if work gets busy, I can take care of that, and go back to my own enjoyment. If I've spend the day working on it, then I may not be in the mood the next day, or if I am, the load is really small. When my husband is home and we're busy, I don't have time for it and sometimes go 3 or 4 days without. When that happens, I'm guaranteed 2 nice loads come Monday when the week starts. When we go visit family, it's horrible because I have no privacy. I come home feeling uncomfortable like I've been wearing a pair of really tight pants for a few days.