How often do you have spontaneous sex in a gay relationship?

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Usually when I have spontaneous sex with my boyfriend it’s oral or a hj etc. I do love just randomly getting my ass ate or my dick sucked but sometimes I just really wanna pull his shorts down and fuck him on the couch.

I understand why it’s not always possible with douching etc or if he ate something but I just wonder how other guys deal with this in long term relationships?

We both take fibre supplements to douche less lol but sometimes it’s still just not possible.
 
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Personally, I would more concerned with preparation if I was eating someone's ass than I would be with fucking.

A thought - just be ready to go most of the time. Be sure to clean up really well after using the toilet. If possible get on a schedule of doing your business in the morning, then showering. Things should stay clean for many hours to all day. On the days when your tummy is rumbling more or maybe feels more active or unstable you can sort of tell that is happening and be more cautious/limit activity that day.

Keep some hand towels, baby wipes, lube, etc. in easy reach of places where spontaneity is likely so if you end up needing a quick cleanup it won't be a big deal to grab what you need. Stick a couple towels under the couch cushions, etc.

In a long term situation it is pretty likely you will encounter at least a small mess or odor while fucking from time to time - you just need to roll with it (and use the hidden towels). Even douching right before is not a 100% guarantee and over the long haul the odds will be against you once in a while.
 

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Personally, I would more concerned with preparation if I was eating someone's ass than I would be with fucking.

A thought - just be ready to go most of the time. Be sure to clean up really well after using the toilet. If possible get on a schedule of doing your business in the morning, then showering. Things should stay clean for many hours to all day. On the days when your tummy is rumbling more or maybe feels more active or unstable you can sort of tell that is happening and be more cautious/limit activity that day.

Keep some hand towels, baby wipes, lube, etc. in easy reach of places where spontaneity is likely so if you end up needing a quick cleanup it won't be a big deal to grab what you need. Stick a couple towels under the couch cushions, etc.

In a long term situation it is pretty likely you will encounter at least a small mess or odor while fucking from time to time - you just need to roll with it (and use the hidden towels). Even douching right before is not a 100% guarantee and over the long haul the odds will be against you once in a while.

I came here to say pretty much everything you did, but probably wouldn't have been as succinct as you were. Thank you.
 

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Usually when I have spontaneous sex with my boyfriend it’s oral or a hj etc. I do love just randomly getting my ass ate or my dick sucked but sometimes I just really wanna pull his shorts down and fuck him on the couch.

I understand why it’s not always possible with douching etc or if he ate something but I just wonder how other guys deal with this in long term relationships?

We both take fibre supplements to douche less lol but sometimes it’s still just not possible.
What fibre supplements do you take? I have a meta mucil powder thing that turns into a drink but it is absolutely vile
 

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I guess it depends on the relationship. I have had really good ones, and some bad ones. My best boyfriend loved to get fucked and was obsessed with his shower shot. So I fucked him at least when we woke up and before we went to bed. Sometimes he even woke me up in the middle of the night. I realize not everyone is that horny or obsessed with sex. I have also had a relationship where we never had sex. He was a lovely person but asexual. So in my experience it varied greatly.
 

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Personally, I would more concerned with preparation if I was eating someone's ass than I would be with fucking.

A thought - just be ready to go most of the time. Be sure to clean up really well after using the toilet. If possible get on a schedule of doing your business in the morning, then showering. Things should stay clean for many hours to all day. On the days when your tummy is rumbling more or maybe feels more active or unstable you can sort of tell that is happening and be more cautious/limit activity that day.

Keep some hand towels, baby wipes, lube, etc. in easy reach of places where spontaneity is likely so if you end up needing a quick cleanup it won't be a big deal to grab what you need. Stick a couple towels under the couch cushions, etc.

In a long term situation it is pretty likely you will encounter at least a small mess or odor while fucking from time to time - you just need to roll with it (and use the hidden towels). Even douching right before is not a 100% guarantee and over the long haul the odds will be against you once in a while.
So, where is the spontaneity?
The joy of spontaneous sex is just that, you want it, you do it. I hate to think of the number of times I've been rogered over the sink at all times of the day, the number of times he's had his shorts ripped off while doing stuff to the motor or the blow jobs in the study.

The thought of having to "prepare", make sure things are in place in case, be clinically clean at all times sounds like a dip in disinfectant still wouldn't be good enough for some not to mention the crapper being empty at all times..
 

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So, where is the spontaneity?
The joy of spontaneous sex is just that, you want it, you do it. I hate to think of the number of times I've been rogered over the sink at all times of the day, the number of times he's had his shorts ripped off while doing stuff to the motor or the blow jobs in the study.

The thought of having to "prepare", make sure things are in place in case, be clinically clean at all times sounds like a dip in disinfectant still wouldn't be good enough for some not to mention the crapper being empty at all times..
Hmm, I see your point for 100% total spontaneity.

My idea here is for a long term relationship, having a few things prepared in advance allows for spontaneous activity with the mind eased of any concerns that could inhibit it. Having a few items stashed in strategic places mean there is no "hold on a sec." to run grab something. If you know your normal routine gives you confidence you are good enough to go then you won't be thinking about that killing the mood.

The ultimate is just don't worry about it, just go for it regardless.
 

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When I was in a relationship at first it was at least everyday (he really loved to have me giving him bj, especially when waking up in the morning); after that it was more like twice a weeek
 
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