B_Nicodemous
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Bumping it cuz I can! will write more later:smile:
What! it took a while to respond again to RD's thread! :redface:
What! it took a while to respond again to RD's thread! :redface:
Shortened your post for length's sake. Hope you don't mind.
Your experience I find interesting because of the changing libido, but also because of the periods of low libido.
Can you pinpoint any reason you felt depleted after a period of time with a high libido? Do you think anything specific could have changed how you were feeling at those times?
I definitely understand this part. I've had sexual relationships where things seem to have fallen into a repetitive rut. It's especially frustrating if you once had a brilliant sexual relationship with that person. Makes you wonder where all the potential went.
Very much so... but also just her general outlook and joy. She is delightful to look upon, fun, intelligent, and, most importantly, able to laugh at herself. She Loves to be touched, and I am a man who loves to touch.So the key factor in your libido remaining high in this case is her sexual personality?
I've never met anyone who has said they have a season pattern! Do you feel more energised in general during those months?
At least one solid, comprehensive and completed session every day
When I said middle of the night, I meant as in we both can't sleep. I've had times when she couldn't sleep and just started sucking my cock. I was more than happy to wake up to that, although I would be happier if I woke up to being inside her. As far as entering her while she was asleep, that would be the worse crime I could commit. There's so much of build up we have to go through to penetrate her, I wouldn't dream of doing it without her knowledge first. A lesser crime would be to wake her up to fuck.
Time inside is such a big factor in the how often do you want to have sex question. I have a friend who's almost always horny, but says she needs a lot of short breaks between. She loves a lot of quickies. <-- That would drive me up the wall. Yes definitely time floating. The minute I touch her cul-de-sac is when it starts for us and just gets deeper and deeper from there.
Twice a day would be ideal for me, but speaking pragmatically, I would be very happy with 3-4 times a week. We're getting there.
Actually, we just got done. I kinda want more, but he has homework, and the house is a mess, and I need to make dinner, and go to the gym, and get some groceries. . .
What he said! My feelings exactly on this matter.
I feel as though i have some serious catching up to do. I've only ever found one guy who had a libido that matched mine. We were perfectly compatible in the sex department. I've thought about what could have made it so good, snd him so much different, and believe that it was our comfort level with each other. I wanted him to be happy and content, and I'm sure he wanted the same for me. Interestingly, none of the other relationships I've had were anywhere close to my frequency level of expectation sexually speaking.
More than twice a year...
Bumping it cuz I can! will write more later:smile:
What! it took a while to respond again to RD's thread! :redface:
Well, being a guy... my libido is closely tied to simple liquidity. Sex several times in a day for any stretch of time leaves one with no real bodily fluids. You can outstrip your bodies' ability to produce seminal fluid and sperm, and that can make orgasm difficult, impossible or even painful for some men.
In my experience, sex is generally far more aerobic for the male than the female... If she is exhausted, she can still lie back and enjoy a solid pounding... but doing the pounding takes some significant verve...
All this has little to do with my INTEREST in sex... it does have to do with my confidence that I will be able to adequately entertain and please my partner... and I would rather go without than show my partner a dull time in the sack.
Yes... a key influence on my libido definitely centers around pure boredom...
Not boredom over the familiarity of my partner ( I am not looking for variety with another person) but boredom over something that has become routine, with no spark or fire... no play, no inventive variation that makes things fun..
In particular... something I have noticed thru two long term relationships that ultimately failed... is when my partner seems to cop the attitude that I should be grateful she is willing to have sex.
When a woman starts making a man feel she is doing him a favor by bedding him... that makes sex with her worse than beating off alone on the dark.
Very much so... but also just her general outlook and joy. She is delightful to look upon, fun, intelligent, and, most importantly, able to laugh at herself. She Loves to be touched, and I am a man who loves to touch.
With her, eating breakfast becomes foreplay... a walk thru the park, or just driving in the car together, is all part of the dance of attraction... she is astonishingly expressive in her kiss and her embrace, and freely gives voice to how attractive she finds me. She never fails to show her appreciation for my devotion and my attention...
We both have been thru previous relationships with difficult partners, and I guess a big part is that we both understand how those prior relationships failed and how important it is to keep each other in high regard, and appreciate the wonderful traits that we each see in the other.
And, of course, in bed she is a dynamo of delight... always willing to explore, without the encumbrances of "shouldn'ts" or "Ought Nots"
All of this I find terrifically sexy... and I can not get my mind off of her.
Not sure... I do produce a prodigious amount of semen in those months...
Whereas other times of the year two ejaculations within a few hours will leave me bone dry, during fall, I seem to be able to orgasm 4 or 6 times a day without running out.
The additional pressure of that fluid seems to create a similar increase in interest and energy in sex.
I always assumed it was an evolutionary thing... increasing the likelihood that babies would be born in summer... that pregnancies would be in the cold months when women's own bodies provide developing babies with the best shelter from the elements...
but maybe its just me.
Realistically speaking probably once every two weeks. That sounds like I must not have much of a sex drive but the truth is I work so many hours and have so much stuff going on, the mood doesn't strike me until my need for release reaches a full boil. It takes about two weeks.
When I was a little younger I wanted to have sex more often than that but that's kind of where this frame of mind was born; sex is a lot of work. I can't just /do it/. A mood has to be created, the environment has to be appropriate, there's the hours of foreplay and dirty talk, and then there's the actual sex itself, and there has to be time after it to cuddle and eat and such. In order for me to really enjoy it, it's a production. That's time I just don't have. I don't three hours with nothing going on very often.
I'd like it 2-3 times a day but it doesn't have to be full on sex and l often don't feel like cumming each time either, l love pleasuring any lass that l'm with as often as poss and l also enjoy quick hard sessions as well as long languid sessions.
My ideal would probably be one good slow sensuous session (cumming optional), a quickie (preferably in a risky place where we could get caught) & plenty of pussy & cock teasing. This doesn't happen very often but when it has l'm a very happy man!!
I was completely unaware that it could be painful!
In my experience, sex is generally far more aerobic for the male than the female... If she is exhausted, she can still lie back and enjoy a solid pounding... but doing the pounding takes some significant verve...
*IF* I'm trying to cum when I know my body doesn't have the ejaculate behind it, it is very painful for me. My asshole literally cramps up. I've never written this, but it really hurts. Which is why I know my body well enough that if I'm fucking right after I cum, I ain't cumming.
What about fucking without trying to cum? That doesn't hurt too does it?
I can't believe I've never had a guy say anything to me before this.
Ok forgot to include the things like exhustion, illness, grief and such i my answer sub. I have mentioned before that these things throw my libido for a wonky loop.Well, being a guy... my libido is closely tied to simple liquidity. Sex several times in a day for any stretch of time leaves one with no real bodily fluids. You can outstrip your bodies' ability to produce seminal fluid and sperm, and that can make orgasm difficult, impossible or even painful for some men.
Most tellingly, Libido declines with exhaustion... not necessarily from sex, but from other factors; working long hours on stressful projects, coupled with family life, child rearing, daily chores... can simply leave one intellectually willing but physically spent...
In my experience, sex is generally far more aerobic for the male than the female... If she is exhausted, she can still lie back and enjoy a solid pounding... but doing the pounding takes some significant verve...
Also, illness, even a simple cold, can make things not work like they ought to, especially as one ages...
All this has little to do with my INTEREST in sex... it does have to do with my confidence that I will be able to adequately entertain and please my partner... and I would rather go without than show my partner a dull time in the sack.
Yes... a key influence on my libido definitely centers around pure boredom...
Not boredom over the familiarity of my partner ( I am not looking for variety with another person) but boredom over something that has become routine, with no spark or fire... no play, no inventive variation that makes things fun..
In particular... something I have noticed thru two long term relationships that ultimately failed... is when my partner seems to cop the attitude that I should be grateful she is willing to have sex.
When a woman starts making a man feel she is doing him a favor by bedding him... that makes sex with her worse than beating off alone on the dark.
Very much so... but also just her general outlook and joy. She is delightful to look upon, fun, intelligent, and, most importantly, able to laugh at herself. She Loves to be touched, and I am a man who loves to touch.
With her, eating breakfast becomes foreplay... a walk thru the park, or just driving in the car together, is all part of the dance of attraction... she is astonishingly expressive in her kiss and her embrace, and freely gives voice to how attractive she finds me. She never fails to show her appreciation for my devotion and my attention...
We both have been thru previous relationships with difficult partners, and I guess a big part is that we both understand how those prior relationships failed and how important it is to keep each other in high regard, and appreciate the wonderful traits that we each see in the other.
And, of course, in bed she is a dynamo of delight... always willing to explore, without the encumbrances of "shouldn'ts" or "Ought Nots"
All of this I find terrifically sexy... and I can not get my mind off of her.
Not sure... I do produce a prodigious amount of semen in those months...
Whereas other times of the year two ejaculations within a few hours will leave me bone dry, during fall, I seem to be able to orgasm 4 or 6 times a day without running out.
The additional pressure of that fluid seems to create a similar increase in interest and energy in sex.
I always assumed it was an evolutionary thing... increasing the likelihood that babies would be born in summer... that pregnancies would be in the cold months when women's own bodies provide developing babies with the best shelter from the elements...
but maybe its just me.
I always feel it deep in the center of my cock, towards the base. Its a straining feeling, like when your pucking and it turns into dry heaves.(I'm on my way out the door when SG posted her post, so that's why my reply will be brief)
*IF* I'm trying to cum when I know my body doesn't have the ejaculate behind it, it is very painful for me. My asshole literally cramps up. I've never written this, but it really hurts. Which is why I know my body well enough that if I'm fucking right after I cum, I ain't cumming.
Which is why I so love our swing. Gravity and leverage make it totally effortless. Especially getting all the angles. I puss the back of the chair forward, rest on my heels, I get to rub her anterior wall. Pull the back towards me and straighten my legs, her posterior wall gets a good rubbing.
Ooohhh I like the desciption! Though Again I feel it not so much in my balls butat the center base of my cock. Huh. Three different places we are feeling it then. Maybe a new thread on that is needed :redface:Well, just because its painful doesn't always mean we aren't enjoying ourselves.
But you know that sound a milkshake makes when there is almost nothing left and the straw starts sucking air?
That's kinda what it FEELS like, except your testicles are trying to turn inside out.
But generally speaking... guys don't usually admit to minor pains... its unmanly.
that's why we drop dead without warning so often.
Well, just because its painful doesn't always mean we aren't enjoying ourselves.
But you know that sound a milkshake makes when there is almost nothing left and the straw starts sucking air?
That's kinda what it FEELS like, except your testicles are trying to turn inside out.
But generally speaking... guys don't usually admit to minor pains... its unmanly.
that's why we drop dead without warning so often.
What about fucking without trying to cum? That doesn't hurt too does it?
I can't believe I've never had a guy say anything to me before this.