How often do you want to have sex?

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this is a hard question for me. Realistically it happens 2-3 a week if time permits but what I want? Everyday godamned day. Lol. Not even crazy long or brutal just plain old huggin and snuggin slow soft kissing sex. I am def one of the type that needs emotion and kissing is my number 1 turn on. That and backrubs. Lol. ( And bjs but that is a diff subject) with the amount of changes and stress going on now I am just happy to hug her at the end of the night. Putting pressure to have sex kills both our libidos so we just take it easy.
 

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If eating, drinking and making a living didn't matter and the goodies could stand the wear and tear I'd be hard at it 24/7.

Possibly the reason why I think polyandry is such a good idea!
 

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If eating, drinking and making a living didn't matter and the goodies could stand the wear and tear I'd be hard at it 24/7.

Possibly the reason why I think polyandry is such a good idea!

Certainly would make it easier on the husbands, only having to do half as much work to keep the lady happy
 

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No apology necessary, RawDog. I Didn't consider your comment insensitive in any way.

Cool. I actually searched for a shirt this morning. Nada. May have to make or request one be made. Hmm

Everyday godamned day. Lol. Not even crazy long or brutal just plain old huggin and snuggin slow soft kissing sex.

See, yours is what I'd think as a healthy, very healthy, libido. Probably a 9.5 out of 10. I'd consider myself maybe a 30.

If eating, drinking and making a living didn't matter and the goodies could stand the wear and tear I'd be hard at it 24/7.

You, I'd consider a 30 as well.

Possibly the reason why I think polyandry is such a good idea!

Nah, you just need a clone of me and we'd be set. Of course, I'd have to send a clone to a few other women as well (subgirrl ... if she's still around).
 

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I am adamant about a romp routine of once in the AM, and once in the PM. It's hard to say for how long, since daily routines can limit things. I suppose 45 minutes to an hour in the morning, and an hour-until-mutual satisfaction at night (with foreplay in the mix for both).

I don't see a problem with getting up a bit earlier so we can both enjoy the morning before the work day begins.

i agree with this person
 

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When life is going well and I am not stressed out or constantly fatigued from working late hours and doing countless overtime, my sex drive is quite high, sex would be a daily event really especially in the mornings.

But, when stressed out and overworked and not getting nearly enough sleep like I am these days, its down to about 3-4 times a week at most, which fucking sucks.

I never realised how much of a libido killer stress is until the last few months, its scary to think how much my sex drive has suffered as a result and it bothers me a great deal, and sadly there is not much that can be done really to fix it.
 

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I never realised how much of a libido killer stress is until the last few months, its scary to think how much my sex drive has suffered as a result and it bothers me a great deal, and sadly there is not much that can be done really to fix it.

I've geared my life around killing stress. I get severe migraines.

I find boxing/sparring/bagwork/martial arts is the second best stress killer there is. Can't that work for you? I assume from your username you box.
 

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I've geared my life around killing stress. I get severe migraines.

I find boxing/sparring/bagwork/martial arts is the second best stress killer there is. Can't that work for you? I assume from your username you box.

I used to regularly when I was younger and still living in the city near my gym, but living in the suburbs the last 6 years there ain`t any boxing gyms close by so I pretty much stopped altogether and started working out instead.

That does help somewhat but its nothing like the adrenaline rush of the ring itself, the feeling of alertness and the competitive instinct that takes hold of me when in the ring against an opponent, god I miss having some rough and rowdy sparring sessions.

But what would really help is is certain things in my life changed, especially concerning work which is the biggest source of stress by far. Uncertainty and other things make it hard to be in a good mood and not in a constant state of worry and wondering wether your still gonna have your job in a month from now, and if you lose it how are you going to take of your family, provide for them while also trying to enjoy life and just plain survive.

Its not easy, and I can honestly say I do not know a single person in my immediate circle of friends and colleagues who is happy, they are all stressed the fuck out and or constantly worrying about what is going to happen next or how to pay for this and that while the govnt keeps robbing us blind thru taxes and letting the cost of living go up to ridiculous levels.

I`ll stop now before I really go off on a rant but the point is, with so many negative thoughts clouding ones mind it makes it difficult to relax and think of getting off and having sex, especially when you have people who depend on you for everything and all the pressure is on you to provide.
 

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Would it be unethical to spike his coffee with Cialis? :biggrin1:

Rawdog,
Hell he already takes a Cialis 2.5 mg pill every darn day at the age of 39 soon to be 40 this August. How at this age can he not want sex....

I mean why the heck can guys get it up daily while dating and as soon as you say "I do" then they "do not"?

I am the one who chases and invents projects/crafts all day long for our 5 and 6 yr olds plus I do every single bit of house work. On top of that I run my own business and I take care of both saint bernard dogs (should be counted as children as they are more work).

I want it two times if not more daily and I am 43!

Rawdog I say please clone yourself or start a husband training school!!! I will gladly pay for either!:wink:

Sweet
 

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I'm an afternoon and evening guy. And while I may want sex a lot or not a lot at all, I last forever when I'm doing it and have a long reload time because of it so I can only ever really have sex 3 times a day max. :p Not that I ever have by any means.
 

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Rawdog,
Hell he already takes a Cialis 2.5 mg pill every darn day at the age of 39 soon to be 40 this August. How at this age can he not want sex....

I mean why the heck can guys get it up daily while dating and as soon as you say "I do" then they "do not"?

I am the one who chases and invents projects/crafts all day long for our 5 and 6 yr olds plus I do every single bit of house work. On top of that I run my own business and I take care of both saint bernard dogs (should be counted as children as they are more work).

I want it two times if not more daily and I am 43!

Rawdog I say please clone yourself or start a husband training school!!! I will gladly pay for either!:wink:

Sweet

It's simple. If he has high blood pressure, blood sugar or cholesterol, low adrenal function, low testosterone or a host of other medical conditions, his sex drive could be impaired. Some men have reduced libido from taking medication like Tagamet or Prilosec for indigestion.

Does he exercise regularly, not smoke and get enough vitamin D?

I'd get him to a really good doctor for a full workup.

Usually it's the woman that loses her sex drive after marriage...
 

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Sex twice a day with my partner; have to have own-hand long-edging j.o. at least once in addition to that. By the way, I am 65
 

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I used to regularly when I was younger and still living in the city near my gym, but living in the suburbs the last 6 years there ain`t any boxing gyms close by so I pretty much stopped altogether and started working out instead.

It's easy when you live in a small town where the gym is about a 20 minute drive all the way across town. I tried it with a heavy bag and that lasted about 2 days. I agree, nothing compares to hard contact.

My running joke when we were told to "ease up to light contact" was, "Light contact meaning you see that flash of light when you get hit, right?"

But what would really help is is certain things in my life changed, especially concerning work which is the biggest source of stress by far. Uncertainty and other things make it hard to be in a good mood and not in a constant state of worry and wondering wether your still gonna have your job in a month from now, and if you lose it how are you going to take of your family, provide for them while also trying to enjoy life and just plain survive.

Ugh. I was laid off back in February and scrambled like hell to set up my own business. Luckily, or maybe unluckily, I didn't have to stress too long. I got a job offer a week later. I have no sagely advice. The more you tense up, the less power you have.

I`ll stop now before I really go off on a rant but the point is, with so many negative thoughts clouding ones mind it makes it difficult to relax and think of getting off and having sex, especially when you have people who depend on you for everything and all the pressure is on you to provide.

I wanted to start a new thread on stress reduction strategies lpsg'ers use in these stressful times, but I think one was started recently and fizzled quick.

Rawdog,
Hell he already takes a Cialis 2.5 mg pill every darn day at the age of 39 soon to be 40 this August. How at this age can he not want sex....

Any health or emotional issues bring this on? Has he had his testosterone level checked?

I mean why the heck can guys get it up daily while dating and as soon as you say "I do" then they "do not"?

I've noticed that with women too. Some people just live for the chase and then get complacent., lazy, and unappreciative, I guess.

I am the one who chases and invents projects/crafts all day long for our 5 and 6 yr olds plus I do every single bit of house work. On top of that I run my own business and I take care of both saint bernard dogs (should be counted as children as they are more work).

So, you pretty much have 5 full time responsibilities, and still have the same libido you had when you were dating and he doesn't.

Seems you have your shit together and he's coping.

I want it two times if not more daily and I am 43!

I find myself, at 46, hornier than I was at 19. I'm not sure people like us (that includes whoever's reading this) are on the "normal" scale.

Rawdog I say please clone yourself or start a husband training school!!! I will gladly pay for either!:wink:

Cloning humans probably won't happen in our lifetime, and I'm the last person you want giving relationship advice. Two ex-wives and all.

Only thing I can say is you need to be the change you seek. Look out for your own happiness and it'll find you. Gawd, that sounded new-agey, but I'm a true believer of whatever energy you put forth to the universe comes right back tenfold.