How often does this happen?

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  1. Penis Aficionado

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    I'm seriously curious as to how often women find themselves in this situation: You meet a guy whom you find extremely attractive. Then you have spectacular, life-changing, soul-satisfying sex with him. But you know from the beginning that he is not going to be your "boyfriend," in the long-term, conventional sense of the word. Basically, he is a "Bad Boy."

    Then you meet another guy whom you find reasonably attractive, whom you like, and who does seem like boyfriend or even future-husband material. You have sex with him, and maybe it's OK, more or less, but it's nothing like sex with Bad Boy. Maybe Good Boy is just not as experienced or not as confident. Maybe his penis isn't as big, and that matters a lot to you. Whatever the reason, you enjoy dating Good Boy, but you just know that you're never going to have the same physical response to his penis inside you as you have to Bad Boy's.

    So what do you do? Cut things off with Bad Boy? Cut things off with Good Boy? Continue fucking Bad Boy and dating Good Boy, at least until things with Good Boy get more serious?
     
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    Do you have the open marriage just because you want to leave yourself open to potential new experiences? Or was there a guy that you wanted to continue having sex with when you met/married your husband?
     
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    Sorry to hear about your break-up, if that's what you call it ...

    By the way, you are really stunning. I just found myself staring at the picture of you with goth hair for several minutes, in a state of dumb enchantment.
     
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    Or you get lucky and find a Bad Boy who is a Good Boy at heart despite his image and for some reason or another relentlessly devoted to a relationship with you.

    Ours is an open relationship as well, and when we met we both had other partners. I really didn't think he was the settle-down type, at least not yet (he's only 24), but he's surprised me immensely. Both of our other relationships came to an end, and even though other partners are acceptable in our relationship, it hasn't really come up (except for an old girlfriend of mine who lives in another country but I still see occasionally).

    I find him very exciting and very dependable at the same time, what a lucky girl I am :smile:
     
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    Are you talking about my life??? :tongue::biggrin1:
     
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    This is very Send and the City honestly. Well weigh whats more important. If you think that being with good boy would blossom into a meaningful relationship then i say dump badboy joe and go for good guy. But if your just at it for the sex then fuck bad boy a couple of times while dating goodboy. In the end, sex wont really be an issue in a relationship. Its companionship or something.
     
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    Am I? What do you do in these situations, TP?
     
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    men do the same thing,.. A hot girl... but at the end it may be the worse wife ever.. get me
     
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    I'd break things off with both. Ultimately I want both in a partner: great sex and great (mutual) connection. I wouldn't want one without the other.
     
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    You're a toughie, Chrissy M. Green!:smile:
     
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    Yep guess I kinda am!


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    p.s. That emoticon almost looks like it has no eyes...kinda creepy!
     
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    I'd keep and enjoy them both and not marry either one.
     
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