Hells, Nick, Bbucko...thanks for sharing your stories.
I'm young enough to have missed everything you described, but old enough to remember the early days of the AIDS crisis. As I've said elsewhere, I hit puberty in 1984, so I was becoming aware of my sexuality about the same time AIDS was getting a lot of attention on TV. It seems like it was a frequent topic on the late afternoon talk shows (Oprah, Donahue) and made for TV movies (An Early Frost). As badly as I wanted sex, as much as I fantasized about it and longed for it, ached for it, I was too terrified to actually have it.
These may be the stupidest words I've ever written (can I get away with blaming the martini?), but in a way, I envy you guys. I envy you because you have lived.
I've never really lived, and I feel like it's too late to start. I can't be 20 again. I can't even be 30 again.
I can't agree with you more...because that is the life I have lived and its the only future I see.
I am reminded of a poem I wrote in college. Please forgive the digression.
Fairies dancing pretty and quick
They delight in innocent obscenity.
I am but a man
And my life is dull and frigid.
I'm not sure this post is a worthwhile contribution to this thread, so I'll shut up now, and close with a quote that I think you might like.
"Do you want me to tell you something really subversive? Love is
everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical
about it. It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking
everything for. And the trouble is, if you don't risk anything, you
risk even more." --Erica Jong