How open are you?

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  1. B_lrgeggs

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    In your real life, meaning not here , from a range from 1 to 10, 1 meaning to very few people and 10 meaning to pretty much everyone, how open to others are you about your sexuality?
     
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    I'm heterosexual, so being fully open about my sexual orientation is easy. What I'm less open about (ironically) is being in an open relationship. Most of the time it's not relevant to the conversation or the company, and other times it's something I tell only to new partners.
     
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    1 - I've never given my family and friends/co-workers any indication of my sexuality but at the same time, I've never pretended to be someone/something I'm not. I always keep my interests and feelings to myself. I think I probably come across as 'asexual'.

    I don't buy into the whole concept of 'coming out' - I think you can be free and open without having to 'explain' who you are.
     
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    7-8... i always talk cock, j/o, and sex to my buddies. even when i meet someone new, thats one great way to build a nice and strong friendship. and i always make jokes, insinuations with girls. so maybe a 9 after all :)
     
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    I am a very proud very open straight twoman.
     
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    learnt thru lpsg, to be about 7/10 re sexuality openness, would have been maybe 3 previously

    in that respect it has given to me, and only wish i had utilized this site, prior to my 30s, doubt it existed then tho
    youngsters these days do have an advantage, if they choose to learn the good things from a site like lpsg, i feel...
    tolerating / surviving the superficial shit talk, could build there character...............
     
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    same here,

    I don't apreciate hearing about other peoples business as I'm mostly visualing images and I don't want to see my friends or relatives or whomever having sex in my mind unless I choose so.

    Same story as when you go to the bathroom, I don't need to know if you did a number 1 or 2.

    So unless it actually serves a purpose like getting laid I tend to keep things for myself.
     
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    I'm a huge perv, if someone asks or shows interest as one then I'm open, but with some people, can't joke about it. Some gay people think I might judge them because first impression I serious. But I don't judge at all, have friends on both sides of both sexes, doesn't bother me as long as they are themselves
     
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    7 - I am fairly open, to the extent that I talk about my bf/partner to everyone, and they all know we live together. But to say that I am an out and proud gay man would be wrong. I do not wave a pride flag or talk about legal issues etc. I was taught as a child, right or wrong, that to win support one has to blend into the community and make yourself known as a person of good moral fiber.
     
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    I like a 7 or and 8.

    my friends know.
    acquaintance might know.
    Strangers will not.

    I don't go around talking about my sexuality but I don't hide it either.

    i could be really "straight" but once I'm with my friends I'm so queer I can redecorate a room by just looking at it. I don't do it on purpose either.
     
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    That's a very interesting response, VernalTiger. Thanks.

    I'm about a 10. It would be hard for me to be more out. I would have to go around telling people who I don't know, bank tellers, homeless guys, random people walking down the street.

    That being said, I'm usually read as straight until I come out (by queer people and straight people alike), and I will absolutely stay closeted if I feel my safety is at stake. But I wouldn't count either of those as points off the OP's scale.
     
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    10. I want to see every man's dick to find out if he has the big one. LMAO !!!!
     
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    I am fairly open if the topic of sex comes up. I have a rep as being hung, but I'm not the one to openly begin a conversation about sex. I find other males that do that are annoying. the gals check your bulge/package out anyway, so no amount talk will make up what you're lacking.
     
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    I'm fairly closed about it. Probably around a 5, but some people I can get to 8-9 with.
     
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    I am selectively very open. With family or people who I know don't want to hear anything about it, 0. To those who I'm close friends with/who I know through various kinky things, 10 :tongue:
     
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    Rather damn open. Maybe a 7-8. I don't like to hold back when the topic arises about sex or sexuality. I enjoy hearing people's interest. Pretty much all my friends know about my sexuality despite a lot of them being surprised and sometimes initially thinking I'm joking. But being bi is important to me, so I don't see the need to hide it especially as I struggled in accepting and denying myself previously. Most of my family are homophobic, so I mostly hide it as respect for my parents, mostly. I could really care less if my family finds out and decide to drop me do to it, unless they're my parents. My parents know, aren't too happy with it and don't want me out with it. But some of my siblings, cousins, god siblings know. Mostly people from my step mom's side knows, none of my dad's (except his best friend) and my mom and aunt and her daughter.
     
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    As a heterosexual I am open about my sexuality. What is a closed book to almost everyone I know is my sexual history.
     
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    If sex comes up, I am open and honest. I don't volunteer information though. I am what is known as a "good girl" and nobody ever suspects I am into being a hard core sub. It is quite funny when people find out to try to guage their reactions.
     
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    sorta shy but as open as i need to be
     
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    Extremely open. Once the subject is broached (I never bring it up) I seize upon the opportunity, and have a frank discussion.
     
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