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Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by B_lrgeggs, Dec 11, 2010.
Here we pretty much put our sex life out there. But outside of here how private is your sex life?
Well the reason it's secret is it's non existent! I wish i could be more open like my buddy Mike and his wife......swingers and proud of it...
It's supposed to be secret?!? My whole family knows when I get sex. It's too exciting, I can't keep it to myself.
Zero privacy here. Invisible people have been accessing my bedroom for years.
my sex life has always been private except for whoever I'm having sex with. been married for 32 yrs, together for 34 yrs. we have kept our sex lives private even thru the bouts of curious females, and swinger couples. my wife was once asked by her gfs if she ever had thoughts of fucking another man with a big cock. she answered them by saying she doubted if she could find a guy with a bigger cock than me. this caused unwanted attention turned my way. so, she declines to answer any questons. and if I am asked, I say that I am blessed and that is all.
I think everyone knows I have no sex life.
That cuz you never visit :tongue:
Outside of here, my sex life is very private, but really only because my friends are'nt the type to talk sex.
Actually even in here, my sex life has become more private since I'm involved with another member here. That limits what I can talk about as it would compromise their privacy at the same time.
There are aspects of it that are private, and there are aspects that are discussed in the open with friends as well. It really all depends on the person a) that I'm with (or was with) at the time, and b) the friend I'm talking to.
I am an adult. The sex I have is my own business. I don't share it, and especially if it involves someone else I do not tell it without permission given. In fact there are things I have been sworn to secrecy about.
I've always been pretty infamous for sharing the details of my (occasionally outrageous) sex life, though I rarely name names. People have been living vicariously off my adventures in hedonism and libertinage for over thirty years. And due to the nature of my sexual practices, there's no need to embroider details; truth is, at least in my case, much more challenging than fiction.
Throughout my teens, 20s, and 30s, the vast majority of my friends started off either as casual sexual encounters (eventually mellowing into something platonic) or close friends of theirs, so I was always comfortable bridging the gap between NSA sex pals and confidants. Until recently (the last 5-6 years), the tone of these discussions was more comic than revelatory. It was only since I started posting explicit sexual stories on my blog, The Spin Cycle, that I could no longer gauge and filter what I discussed to fit the individual recipient of such yarns.
The result of consciously sex-blogging is that I've been able to reach a much larger and more diverse audience, which is overall a very positive advance. I rarely discussed the particulars with women, for instance, except for my sister (who shares my habit of discussing sex and both the strengths and negatives of various partners); now I am both amused and flattered to learn that a substantial minority of my total readership is female. The same goes for straight guys, who also seem to find some universal truths regarding human sexuality in my work, though they come either from here or another online community that trades in the coin of positive expressions of sex in their myriad forms, so they're hardly your garden-variety straight dudes
I think this comes from the way I was raised. My mother had been raised in an environment of repressed sexualuality, with no discussion of anything sexual (not even the rudamentaries of intimacy or any kind of sexual education except for the physical changes to expect during adolescence) which she found unhealthy. She over-compensated early on for this by encouraging complete and open discussions about all matters sexual, frequently in embarrassingly explicit detail from her (what 15-year old wants to hear about his mom's peccadilloes?). I never felt the need to hide anything, in fact, both my younger sister and I were expected to disclose. For all her faults, this abolition of sex-shaming was one of the very few net-positive contributions she made to my post-childhood development.
I don't see this as exhibitionism or bragging (the stories are not tales of conquest) nor self-aggrandizement (there is often an ambivalence in their tone). And, of course, there's no wish to expose anyone to material they'd find unwelcome in their lives. I do, however, find it strange that, in a series that might run into thousands of words over several chapters, the hundred or so devoted to explicit depiction of sex allow some to label the entire work as pornographic, a label I reject.
In a recently-written serial of e-mails and PMs describing a failed attempt at a relationship, 90% of which involves my emotional responses to various events involved, the 10% that described sex (not all of which was especially positive) were enough to have at least one recipient describe the entire 4000+ words as "scorching...over-the-top" and definitely NSFW by someone whose sex-life probably comes the closest to my own (and he's a generational peer, to boot: he's not the least bit prudish). In light of our frequent verbal discussions of our sex lives, I found it especially disconcerting that he managed to miss the forest only to focus on one little cluster of trees
As Louise Brooks once wrote: "I do not bring up sex in my articles unless it has a direct bearing on relationships- and it always does."
it depends on the woman i was with...if they tell details(and they mostly do)of the sex,and if people ask me about it,i don't deny it.
but if a woman i was with doesn't say anything,then i won't.
Very private except if we're fucking in public or if I have to sexile my roommate.
So private that i've recently figured out its been dead for years :frown1:
I even missed the funeral
Known only to the other person.
My sex life is pretty public. It's a small town so word travels fast about anything...or in my case the fact that I'm a virgin. I've run into people I didn't really know that nonetheless were aware of my virgin status.
More or less what he said. Everyone knows about my sex life. They ask me. I'm known for sex. I can live with that. Can't think about much I wouldn't discuss. Some have said I should/could write a book. But no one would believe it. I wont discuss my finances. Sex yes.
Family doesn't know, straight friends don't know, gay friends, LPSG friends, and my boyfirend pretty much.
The older I get the less I discuss it....which there isn't much to discuss now anyway. :frown1:
Is it supposed to be private?? Whenever I get laid I email out the details to my best friend and then we discuss it during the day. Don't other people do this?? I even email or picture text photos of the penis to him so he knows for sure what I had. Oh well, I guess I follow that old saying about how ladies don't kiss and tell.....