Yes there are romantic people left in the world but you have to be paitient if you want to find them, remember that old song , looking for love in all the wrong places, it`s true. Also you can`t go on appearences alone, some of the best bullshit artist and con men are the best dressed men you`ll ever lay your eyes on, they get you with their bling. And yes their is hippie bling, goth bling, prep bling, stoner bling etc., etc., etc., believe it.
It`s just like plumage on a wild bird and only the ones with the best show and plumage trick the females of the species into mating. Well guess what, us guys can be the same way with some flowers, don`t be so easily wooed into courtship, or tricked into false romance. To find a real romantic, the first clue is that they`re not in a hury. The second clue is that even after they get some p****y they still do all the same romantic stuff they did to get sex the first time. If you go from a fancy resturant to mcdonalds that is usually a pretty good clue as what their true intentions are and will continue to be if you alow it.
The gamers figure once they`ve wowed you then they can play your feelings with shit like; What? McDonalds aint good enough for you, and try to say your a gold digger when in fact their the ones who invited you to a fancy resturant or showered you with kindness as a deception to get what they wanted. They`ll turn it aroung on you and make you feel like a heel when their the real bastards.
This is an interesting topic, i`ve noticed that some women will base all their romances on an old relationship that didn`t work out but was fantastic in the beginning. So everything that old boyfriend did to get some p***y all the boyfriends that come after have to compete with his fake charms and imitation love and romance. I`ll get crap from women like, john doe used to do this and that, and i`ll respond, if john doe was so fricken awsome where is he now.
The majority of men will tell a women anything she wants to hear, or they`ll shower them with cheap knockoff gifts, and then once they get what they want they move on to the the next victom. After awhile these women who fall for the same crap over and over are no longer victoms they`re volenteers, trying to relive an old memory. They`ll try desperatly to relive the one good memory and forget about the 999 shitty ones they had with an old loser just to have the one good memory. The sad truth is if you do what you always did you`ll get what you always got.
So your probly wondering how does one break this vicious cycle, it starts with not falling for every guy who buys you flowers. After you`ve been with a guy for awhile just because he buys you flowers doesn`t always mean he loves you, he could be trying to cover up some guilt.
I`ll get my girlfriend flowers but thats not all, they`ll come with a card, a special bag with fluffed colored tissue and some chocolats along with a nice gift, preferably something that costs atleast $50 bucks or more. Then i`ll cook her a meal fit for a queen. If a man really loves you he`ll take the time to put a package of sorts together, and prepare for the evening days or weeks in advance, that shows that he took the time and didn`t just grab some flowers while he was buying condoms and beer at the check out line.
Also i can`t always shower her with gifts so i`ll take her out for nature walks and we`ll put a blanket out and enjoy a nice day out. There is no substitution for taking time out of ones life to show how much you care, those moments are priceless.
lafever
p.s. This might not have helped you at all and some times i`m embarasse to be a male as so many are assholes. so just remember you can`t always judge a book by its cover, time is the true test of love and romance. If i was a women i`d take true love over flowers that could have been picked from the neighbors yard on the way to my door anyday, the first clue is that there`s no vase. lol