How safe are you?

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    I mean, when you meet someone for the first time - a random hook up or even a date. How safe are you? Do you swallow? Bareback him? Be barebacked?

    I'm curious because I met a guy and he sucks me completely off (and swallows) and he expects the same in return but I don't. I never did unless I was with someone longer term. I'm curious what other guys are doing. What are your limits?
     
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    I am married, but, in a first encounter and until I had time to get to know an individual it would be 100% safe sex. Bare-backing would only take place in an exclusive marriage with valid HIV tests before the fact. I am a top and sadly I can't stand the taste of cum so that is a non issue for me anyway, but mouth to mouth is OK, but that would be it.
     
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    You sound like the desire is for an LTR, if that's the case you know how and why to be careful. BTW how's the PA healing?
     
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    Perfectly happy to suck strange guys off, but i wouldn't fuck one without a condom. I have fucked women I've just picked up bareback, probably illogical, but it seemd safer.
     
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    I assume everyone is HIV+ so I wear condoms for insertive intercourse, but illogically not for oral (but after all - a condom makes oral sex not that much fun).

    I don't like the taste of cum either so I never swallow, and I don't want partners to either generally.

    "I assume everyone is HIV+" sounds horrible when I put it that way...what I mean is, look, you can assume everyone you meet for sex is negative, but that's naive and probably inaccurate. Or you can ask everyone their status, but some people honestly won't know and some people will actually lie. So, like health care professionals, I just take universal precautions - which essentially means assuming everyone is positive.

    Now after being in a monogamous relationship for a while I have had the discussion with the partner, and sometimes that has resulted in not using condoms anymore and sometimes it has resulted in continuing to use them.

    But your question is about when you meet someone for the first time, and my answer is, condoms for anal, not for oral (but no swallowing).
     
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    But even "not swallowing" is not good. I mean, if you have any tears in your mouth you run the risk of infection. As a matter of fact, I read that swallowing is the least dangerous; just having it your mouth is. Going straight down and having your stomach acids attacking it, breaking it down, is better. Someone even told me that drinking a Coke right after is good - ever seen what Coke does to a cars battery terminals?
     
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    Well, yes, HIV can be transmitted through oral sex, but again I say, tell me the last time you, or anyone you know, or any porn you see, uses a condom for oral sex. The risk is much lower in oral - but much lower does not mean zero. And, the risk is much lower if he doesn't cum in your mouth.

    On spit or swallow, try

    Forum on Safe Sex and HIV Prevention: To swallow or not to swallow
     
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    I swallow, and that is a huge number of men over a number years and still negative. Yes it is not completely safe, but the chances of contracting HIV through oral sex is very slim, and I don't suck rubber. I try to be safe with any anal sex; I admit not 100%, but I really do try!

    You have to make the decision yourself, and know that you live with the consequences of those decisions. So inform yourself, decide on what you are comfortable with, and do that. Otherwise sex will not be enjoyable for you.
     
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