I am ridiculously hideous. And short. I made a post in the ask a woman thread on what I could possibly do to look more attractive, and they told me that there's really nothing I can do unless I get plastic surgery, and even then, it's hopeless because I look like a hobbit. They then removed my post. I just wish they would give me some advice. I didn't think it would even be possible to be so ugly that there isn't SOMETHING non surgical that I can do to be more attractive, but here I am.
I really have been in denial for so long, hoping that SOMEONE would eventually find me attractive. But, that will never happen.
Self deprecation is only a successful attraction tactic for the obviously attractive, and the advice you seek from women should stem more from what they do as opposed to what they say.
1st and foremost, you need to develop something about yourself you like before expecting a woman to like you. No you can't control your facial features/symmetry, or your height, but you can take your ass to the/a gym and groom what you can grow. Many a bearded jawline and muscular forearm has overcome "ugly".
2nd check what you're seeking...I do believe there is a huge disparity in attraction between men and women; one that leaves most men by the wayside when it comes to catching any significant portion of womens' eyes...but for all the knowledge I have of incels and hypergamy, what almost never fails when you talk to these men is too many have the nerve to be picky as to what type of women they'll try for...preference is a privilege of opportunity, and if you are self sabotaging by discriminating based upon race, height, weight, etc then I feel little to no pity for your sexless situation.
Everything else, (income, status, hobbies, etc) may get you settled for, and a relationship, but if you're trying to be found specifically physically attractive, and you weren't blessed with the genetics to naturally pull it off, you're going to have to work...
Now if you come back months later having gained 5-10 lbs in muscle and with nicely contoured facial hair and still aren't catching eyes, then you, or some aspect of your personality are acting as a repellant, and it's time for therapy.