How should I cope with the fact that I will never get laid or find love?

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I am ridiculously hideous. And short. I made a post in the ask a woman thread on what I could possibly do to look more attractive, and they told me that there's really nothing I can do unless I get plastic surgery, and even then, it's hopeless because I look like a hobbit. They then removed my post. I just wish they would give me some advice. I didn't think it would even be possible to be so ugly that there isn't SOMETHING non surgical that I can do to be more attractive, but here I am.

I really have been in denial for so long, hoping that SOMEONE would eventually find me attractive. But, that will never happen.
 

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I am ridiculously hideous. And short. I made a post in the ask a woman thread on what I could possibly do to look more attractive, and they told me that there's really nothing I can do unless I get plastic surgery, and even then, it's hopeless because I look like a hobbit. They then removed my post. I just wish they would give me some advice. I didn't think it would even be possible to be so ugly that there isn't SOMETHING non surgical that I can do to be more attractive, but here I am.

I really have been in denial for so long, hoping that SOMEONE would eventually find me attractive. But, that will never happen.

Hello,

Physical attraction is only a small part of any relationship, and it grows in many ways. Being a provider, doing what needs to be done, doing good by the younger generations etc are all respectable forms of behaviour, and you will see that showing good qualities will breed the physical attraction necessary to have a relationship.

First and foremost tho, the love of yourself is necessary for any relationship. Come to terms with who you are, and then work at expanding the positive things you have.

Best of luck in your journey!

PS: I have seen some very physically attractive people say much the same things about themselves.
 
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To the OP, If a person leaves home with a pre conceived notion of failure, then he / she may very well succeed in causing their own demise

Why do women love to see short men fail?

I read a few of the postings in Ask a Woman ( Now Locked ) . Sadly many of the postings from the OP were defeatist in nature, as well as being critical / disparaging of the same women he covets.

I do not know what you loo like, I do not want to know. I do not know how long / thick your penis is, I do not want to know. I do know that I have personally witnessed well above average / hott women with men who are less attractive. I figure that they can not all be rich guys, so there must be something else. The saying goes that nice guys finish last, sometimes this is true. I have found in life that often women date the bad boy / pretty boy / rich boy. Yes, some of these relationships work out. But after no real connection is made, they women may want to settle for a listener, a talker , a human being more than a pretty face and a big penis.

Good Luck


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Hello,

Physical attraction is only a small part of any relationship, and it grows in many ways. Being a provider, doing what needs to be done, doing good by the younger generations etc are all respectable forms of behaviour, and you will see that showing good qualities will breed the physical attraction necessary to have a relationship.

First and foremost tho, the love of yourself is necessary for any relationship. Come to terms with who you are, and then work at expanding the positive things you have.

Best of luck in your journey!

PS: I have seen some very physically attractive people say much the same things about themselves.have
I do have a good paying job and can provide if needed. I am not sure where to start as far as doing good deeds, etc.
 

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I am ridiculously hideous. And short. I made a post in the ask a woman thread on what I could possibly do to look more attractive, and they told me that there's really nothing I can do unless I get plastic surgery, and even then, it's hopeless because I look like a hobbit. They then removed my post. I just wish they would give me some advice. I didn't think it would even be possible to be so ugly that there isn't SOMETHING non surgical that I can do to be more attractive, but here I am.

I really have been in denial for so long, hoping that SOMEONE would eventually find me attractive. But, that will never happen.
Ridiculously ugly is a good thing you stand up from the crowd. No physical parameter helps on getting a significant other, be clean be groomed and appropriate clothing. It's all on your behavior be brave and receptive and a good listener especially when you get a no.
Hobbits are great just be careful if someone invites you on a trip carrying somebody's else packages. You know that the change on the world comes from the small hands turning the wheels. But the most important thing is that the sun is now up and you forgot to go back to your cave and you became stone.
 

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1) change you attitude (be friendly/positive)
2) you are what you thing you are, love yourself
3) go back to school, learn something that give you value in the eye of women.
4) socializes, if when you speak you are interesting, you will catch the interests of women.
5) be a good person. Stop trolling, Only you can do something about your situation, life is unfair
 

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To the OP, If a person leaves home with a pre conceived notion of failure, then he / she may very well succeed in causing their own demise

Why do women love to see short men fail?

I read a few of the postings in Ask a Woman ( Now Locked ) . Sadly many of the postings from the OP were defeatist in nature, as well as being critical / disparaging of the same women he covets.

I do not know what you loo like, I do not want to know. I do not know how long / thick your penis is, I do not want to know. I do know that I have personally witnessed well above average / hott women with men who are less attractive. I figure that they can not all be rich guys, so there must be something else. The saying goes that nice guys finish last, sometimes this is true. I have found in life that often women date the bad boy / pretty boy / rich boy. Yes, some of these relationships work out. But after no real connection is made, they women may want to settle for a listener, a talker , a human being more than a pretty face and a big penis.

Good Luck


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Ok, let’s just say for argument sake that there isn’t a single woman on the planet that finds you attractive, at all. You would also have to make the huge leap that says all women are so shallow they couldn’t ever see other possible positive personality traits you may have. I have a very hard time trying to imagine that there aren’t several intelligent and caring women that might be interested in you.

It’s pretty easy to get down on yourself and feel hopeless today but now you’ve also belittled an entire gender on your way down.

Yep, the media and a goodly part of society is hung up to the gills on appearances but not everyone. Find someone you can have something more and be something more with. I will never argue a point that suggests sex isn’t an amazing gift but for anyone that doesn’t have to sound out all the entrees on a restaurant menu, it’s not the greatest gift in a relationship.

It’s been eight years since my wife and I have had a consistent intimacy because of life changes. Thing is I’ll never fuck around on her because I miss the intimacy. I know we have so much more than just that.

If being sexless burns you that much then dedicate yourself to becoming a captain of industry and rich. Money and power have a way of giving shallow people corrective lenses for unsightly spouses.

But if you can see yourself for all your collective attractive qualities be patient and or find something in life that fulfills your passions in another way.

good luck ole pilgrim.
 

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I am ridiculously hideous. And short. I made a post in the ask a woman thread on what I could possibly do to look more attractive, and they told me that there's really nothing I can do unless I get plastic surgery, and even then, it's hopeless because I look like a hobbit. They then removed my post. I just wish they would give me some advice. I didn't think it would even be possible to be so ugly that there isn't SOMETHING non surgical that I can do to be more attractive, but here I am.

I really have been in denial for so long, hoping that SOMEONE would eventually find me attractive. But, that will never happen.
Self deprecation is only a successful attraction tactic for the obviously attractive, and the advice you seek from women should stem more from what they do as opposed to what they say.

1st and foremost, you need to develop something about yourself you like before expecting a woman to like you. No you can't control your facial features/symmetry, or your height, but you can take your ass to the/a gym and groom what you can grow. Many a bearded jawline and muscular forearm has overcome "ugly".
2nd check what you're seeking...I do believe there is a huge disparity in attraction between men and women; one that leaves most men by the wayside when it comes to catching any significant portion of womens' eyes...but for all the knowledge I have of incels and hypergamy, what almost never fails when you talk to these men is too many have the nerve to be picky as to what type of women they'll try for...preference is a privilege of opportunity, and if you are self sabotaging by discriminating based upon race, height, weight, etc then I feel little to no pity for your sexless situation.

Everything else, (income, status, hobbies, etc) may get you settled for, and a relationship, but if you're trying to be found specifically physically attractive, and you weren't blessed with the genetics to naturally pull it off, you're going to have to work...
Now if you come back months later having gained 5-10 lbs in muscle and with nicely contoured facial hair and still aren't catching eyes, then you, or some aspect of your personality are acting as a repellant, and it's time for therapy.
 

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The OP has been asking the same question of both Men & Women, Straight and Gay for at least SIX years.
Just take a look at the posting history.
Every couple of years he asks the same question, his last thread was blocked on the Ask a Woman forum because he blamed them for being short, it was their fault he is ugly, he laid the blame at their door because he could not get laid.
All those who are giving him really good advice are wasting their time.
I suggest members no longer give him the great advice as he is clearly ignoring it, he is a sexist, self pitying, attention seeking, trolling misogynist.
Don't waste your time with him.
 

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The OP has been asking the same question of both Men & Women, Straight and Gay for at least SIX years.
Just take a look at the posting history.
Every couple of years he asks the same question, his last thread was blocked on the Ask a Woman forum because he blamed them for being short, it was their fault he is ugly, he laid the blame at their door because he could not get laid.
All those who are giving him really good advice are wasting their time.
I suggest members no longer give him the great advice as he is clearly ignoring it, he is a sexist, self pitying, attention seeking, trolling misogynist.
Don't waste your time with him.

And i was just about to tell this guy to try checking out sex workers, but nevermind. The last thing sex workers need is to deal with people like that.
 

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The OP has been asking the same question of both Men & Women, Straight and Gay for at least SIX years.
Just take a look at the posting history.
Every couple of years he asks the same question, his last thread was blocked on the Ask a Woman forum because he blamed them for being short, it was their fault he is ugly, he laid the blame at their door because he could not get laid.
All those who are giving him really good advice are wasting their time.
I suggest members no longer give him the great advice as he is clearly ignoring it, he is a sexist, self pitying, attention seeking, trolling misogynist.
Don't waste your time with him.
Be careful what you accuse him of since The Powers That Be here seem to be taking his side and we all know the same rules about trolls and those who shouldn't be answering in sections like Ask a Woman don't apply to Ask a Straight Man, and those same Powers have said they think this section should be open to anyone. He's apparently already reported me for calling him out and it earned me a deleted post and another permeant, arbitrary warning. That's one of the reasons I haven't been on the site lately and am pretty much done bothering with this section since I'm tired the double standard and lack of fair enforcement. Pretty sure this post will be deleted as well and maybe net me another warning, but I'm beyond caring.
 

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Be careful what you accuse him of since The Powers That Be here seem to be taking his side and we all know the same rules about trolls and those who shouldn't be answering in sections like Ask a Woman don't apply to Ask a Straight Man, and those same Powers have said they think this section should be open to anyone. He's apparently already reported me for calling him out and it earned me a deleted post and another permeant, arbitrary warning. That's one of the reasons I haven't been on the site lately and am pretty much done bothering with this section since I'm tired the double standard and lack of fair enforcement. Pretty sure this post will be deleted as well and maybe net me another warning, but I'm beyond caring.
Motion you are spot on. I won't say anymore in case I am accused of trolling and reported by the long time troll ( oh sorry, "respected member" ). The Powers That Be may delete my post & yours & warn us, one of my posts here was reported to them by the member & deleted by those Powers for being "cruel". I also received points but he/it is allowed to post the same old crapola time & again.
You are right they are defending him/it, whatever.
 
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Motion you are spot on. I won't say anymore in case I am accused of trolling and reported by the long time troll ( oh sorry, "respected member" ). The Powers That Be may delete my post & yours & warn us, one of my posts here was reported to them by the member & deleted by those Powers for being "cruel". I also received points but he/it is allowed to post the same old crapola time & again.
You are right they are defending him/it, whatever.
Also got this warning. I learned that rules are not equal on every section. So i changed my policy in how i react on anything. Just a thumbs up, a smiley and that's it. No pics, no written messages anymore.
 
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I am ridiculously hideous. And short. I made a post in the ask a woman thread on what I could possibly do to look more attractive, and they told me that there's really nothing I can do unless I get plastic surgery, and even then, it's hopeless because I look like a hobbit. They then removed my post. I just wish they would give me some advice. I didn't think it would even be possible to be so ugly that there isn't SOMETHING non surgical that I can do to be more attractive, but here I am.

I really have been in denial for so long, hoping that SOMEONE would eventually find me attractive. But, that will never happen.
Because of my upbringing i never saw myself handsome or attractive. I only saw mh flaws and minuses. Even though i am classically handsome male. It took me nearly 30 years to admit that and with that my self love journey started. Also my love life improved.
But because i did not see myself attractive (from others i knew i am and affection from girls and man later was obvious that my physics are way above avaredge) i focused on my personality and massively on spiritual growth. Some 10 years later i really love myself.
I can say only one thing about beauty or attractiveness of males. It is not important. It is important just for first 10 - 20 minutes. Rest is on charm, charisma and personality. And as much as i have noticed those who are not stereotypically handsome they have amazing charisma.
From spiritual perspective "Like attracts like" meaning if you think you are ugly and too short you only are going to attract people who will confirm it. Start to think opposite "I am attractive and handsome" and you will create environments where you are goings to experience that.
Everything is on our thoughts, ideas and beliefs as well as stories we tell ourselves and all of that can be changed.
So. Instead of going around and asking people their opinion about your looks next time ask "How are you and what are you up to?" and follow the thread and trust your intuition.
 
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Getting women is hard for all men unless you look like a marvel hero with 8-9 length and 6+ girth or rich.

I’m 6’3 230 athletic and it hard for me too. Find a chick that has the same stats as you or build wealth and go over seas and get chick ; that seems to be a big trend right now anyway.
 
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