How the do you find a buddy?

[Nectarseeker69]

Try AdultFriendFinder. Post that you are bi and not looking for couples/guys that are not serious. I had a lot of guys express interest and then disappear into thin air. And use the same name on AFF as you do here or other sites.
Hope this helps and good luck.

 

[CollStorm]

I'm officially calling it quits. I'll be deleting my account here soon. It might be just a break or it might be for the long hall, but I've been ignoring other aspects of my life to figure out this one and it's just not working.

Thanks for all the information guys/gals.

 

[deleted858776]

I'm officially calling it quits. I'll be deleting my account here soon. It might be just a break or it might be for the long hall, but I've been ignoring other aspects of my life to figure out this one and it's just not working.

Thanks for all the information guys/gals.

You'll be back. Lol good luck

 

[TallNHguy]

wishing you sincere best wishes that you find the balance in your life that you seek.

I'm officially calling it quits. I'll be deleting my account here soon. It might be just a break or it might be for the long hall, but I've been ignoring other aspects of my life to figure out this one and it's just not working.

Thanks for all the information guys/gals.

 

[CollStorm]

My account hasn't been deleted yet. I'm probably just going to start with a new name and go from there. I just haven't had any luck and don't see that changing anytime soon.

 

[CollStorm]

I never thought of using the term "blow buddy" but that might be a good idea.

I put up an ad on craigslist awhile back and actually went to the guys apartment, but I realized, when I got there he wasn't who he described himself as, was mentally challenged (there was something wrong with him) and he insisted I give him a blowjob right away.

We went into the bedroom, he unzipped his pants and then said for me to suck him. I told him it would be best if we started out slowly, so he then yelled at me to suck him. As he had his pants around his ankles, I told him this wasn't working and then headed to the exit.

He was screaming "AWWW COME ON... COME ON... AWWW.... COME BACK".

I texted him later that how he acted sent up a red flag and thought it was best for me to leave.

Better safe, then sorry.

 

[Bigbozak66]

Wow Bro...same issue here. I have been searching for a "buddy" for 4 years now. Men on-line (most of the sites you named) are Gay Men looking for Love & Romance. I like you am only seeking a sane MAN who wants to enjoy a casual masculine encounter, perhaps even a regular meeting if that is, he doesn't suffer with guilt and other emotional issues.

Personally...stopped visiting Porn Shops or Book Stores (major hangouts for other closeted men) because I don't like the type of "Gay Men" that frequent those places looking for dudes like us (low hanging fruit) and spreading diseases. These establishments now just creep me out!

Next Step / I have found Hotel Bars a good source for meeting other Bi-Sexual Men. I do occasionally travel for business so I am in this situation legitimately and not only trolling for sex.

Write to me direct... and I will share what I have found to be my "favored site" for making legitimate Bi-Male Friends and hopefully soon a casual encounter.

Guy - Bigbozak66@yahoo.com

 

[CollStorm]

Placed a ad about a month ago on a site and got a response from a dude moving to the area.

We talked for over a month. He couldn't wait to meet. Two weeks after he moved in, I thought this was the weekend.

Friday night: Out with his mother, "text you later". He never sent it.

Saturday morning: I have errands, but free this afternoon, I'll text you.

Again, he never sent anything, so I text him. Out with my dad car shopping, but will text when I get home. (This is around 3pm) Again, don't hear back, so I text him at 9pm and hear back about 30 minutes later. "Be home soon, I'll text you."

This time he did text around 10:45pm. "Home in fifteen" the finally "home, but a little drunk".

He decides that it has to be a blow n' go and the decides he is too tired. Perhaps we can meet in the am? "Text me at 7:30am".

Mind you, I usually don't wake up that early on a Sunday, but will for sex.

I wake up and text him on and off for about an hour, but never hear back. I roll over and sleep until 10.

I wake up and send a quick "what's up" and he responds "just woke up, but have to get ready, because I'm headed to the airport."

I basically thank him for making me wake up that early for no reason and for the game playing.

This is how it goes, rinse and repeat.

 

[CollStorm]

Sorry for the typos. On my mobile and it's not user friendly to type with.

 

[notN2pussy]

Damn, sorry to hear! It can happen, the flaky on show up/ replies. I did have some luck with CL and Adam, but not quickly,took some chatting as I wanted more than stranger sex. Good luck.

 

[CollStorm]

Yep, same here.

Really think I just need to stop trying for a bit.

 

[notN2pussy]

Perhaps, everyone is different, figure out what works best for you.

 

[Mister2101]

The absolute best way is to find a spa in your area.. It's not only a great place to relax nude but you get to show off and check out other guys.. There are plenty of guys cruising for action there.. Of course, I'm in Orange County Cali where I have to Korean spas within a few blocks of me.. I get plenty of action.. If you're good looking and in shape then you'll score and possibly meet a regular bud.. If there are no spas then hit the gym that has a steam room or hot pool.. Be naked in the locker room and steam room and see what you attract.. Spas are the best because the have saunas and hot pools.. You could also try coffee shops.. Not my thing but seems like a more likely place to meet bi guys then bars.. Spas bro!

I may have already provided a similar comment, but I agree whole-heartedly. My gym has a steam room and sauna...and there is always action. Always, assuming you are looking for it. Just hang around, stay naked, and eventually interested men will let you know that they are interested. I often shower
Went to my gym Saturday morning and met yet another guy in the steam room, interested (and horny) as hell. The sauna was empty, so we ended up having a hot conversation and jacking off together. Took our time and had a nice, relaxing stroke together. We exchanged phone numbers and will most likely hook up again. Very informal....

 

[CollStorm]

That's just not something I would do or be interested in doing.

 

[CollStorm]

Try AdultFriendFinder. Post that you are bi and not looking for couples/guys that are not serious. I had a lot of guys express interest and then disappear into thin air. And use the same name on AFF as you do here or other sites.
Hope this helps and good luck.

I tried it, but it's to expensive.

 

[CollStorm]

I'm fucking done!!!!

 

[ActionBuddy]

K.

 

[starfly]

I've had a similar problem and I solved it by going to gay saunas... discreetly during the afternoon or evening... I can relax.. enjoy the sauna steam and other facilities...there are guys there that are into similar stuff... we can connect in private rooms.. and before I go home to my wife and family, I can enjoy a drink, a smoke.. then shower and be home clean relaxed and happy.. not sure where you live.. but there will be a place not too far from you I'm sure

 

[1g5463]

I go on the usual like grindr, scruff and adam4Adam. Granted many are looking for long term relationships, a few want to hook up.

 

[demedja]

@ the OP, I think that you give up too easily. What you find depends a whole lot on exactly what you're looking for. You say that you're not looking for romance, but a bisexual fuck buddy that you hook up with on a routine basis is still an emotional investment. Depending on what you're saying in your ad, most guys won't bite. Most gay/bi guys are on the hookup sites looking only to get off now because they're horny now. That's it! Many will even overlook it if you're ugly as long as you have a big dick and can fuck them they want to get fucked in the moment.

Putting an ad for a bi fuck buddy is like putting an ad for a boyfriend. You have to get real with it. You have to make them feel as though you're totally worth their while. If you come across as too desperate or two clingy you'll scare them off, and I suspect that that's what's happening in your situation.