How the heck do men enjoy anal sex?!? What's the secret?

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  1. mistahonest

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    Okay... reveal the secrets here. Pass along tips. Tell me your first time experiences, and how you grew into it if you didn't love it right from the start. :D

    Because, I just don't get it.
    I want to, but I seem to be without the gift.

    I've tried massaging my prostate with my finger about half a dozen times.
    The last few I sat there and did it for up to 30 minutes.
    Nothing... not a slight added sensation.
    I would even slowly jerk myself so I'd be hard to enlarge my prostate in hopes that would help... it didn't.

    But still, I see posts all the time about how great it is,
    or how great anal sex is.

    So I figured "Maybe I just have to up the ante."
    So I bought a prostate massager.
    A bit intimidating to me, but I worked it in.
    And no, that wasn't it at all.
    I was completely relaxed. Still, there was no pleasure and the feeling like I needed to take a crap would not go away.

    Please... educate me! :)
    And serious advice only.
    I want to understand what you guys are doing that I just don't grasp.
    A girl I know is dying to "explore me" one day. But I just don't see how I'd get anything out of it.
     
  2. zacr9

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    Hey there, Firstly one of the secrets is to angle your finger or dildo towards the prostate....not just straight in....So press in & upwards towards the prostate, at first u may just feel a small tingle & that is the spot, just keep working that area & feel around till the pleasure grows. Also, wank at the same time as it helps. Also, try being fucked lying face down in the ebd as it creates a nice angle that feels good. let me know how it goes.

    Zac
     
  3. mistahonest

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    That's how I did it. :)
    It was a big zero.
     
  4. MarkLondon

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    Not all men enjoy anal stimulation. I'm gay and I don't like it.

    However, the main issue is learning to relax and allow penetration. Sounds like you've done that. So the next stage is to let the g/f have a go. I'd say you're ready for that now.

    If she's had some previous experience she might have learned a trick or two and maybe she can give you one of those legendary prostate orgasms.

    Plus, as in all sex, it's the interraction between the people involved. You may find that just the act of making yourself "vulnerable" to her is a huge turn-on. Or maybe you'll get nothing out of it yourself, but it will turn her on so much you'll reap the benefits in other ways!
     
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    Well guys, I never thought I would say this, but tried getting fucked for this first time tonight...and it was fucking great!!!! What really helped was liking the guy I was with and him going slow at first with lots of lube (hes 6.5 but very thick). On my back hurt if it was deep but with him on the floor and me riding fuck it was incredible. Im pretty damn sure I will be looking for some more with him....
     
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    Yeah i gotta say i love being fucked..... it takes time for some guys... the first 5-10 times i tried anal sex it was painful and uncomfortable..... but after you learn where your spot is and how to manipulate yourself to hit that spot then wholy mother of all thing great. I have to be careful not to touch myself while being fucked otherwise I usually come in about 1 minute flat
     
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    Angle is important but more so in lube. Starting small and working up in size and relax is important too.
     
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    I'm glad someone else posted this cuz I was thinking about it. Was talking to one of my friends and he suggested to just keep trying it, cuz the first few are kinda crappy. I like the feeling of something down there, but once it goes in it kind of just becomes strange, and like I need to go #2. Another question I have, sorry to take this over, It's ok for the first 5 inches or so. After that theres something in farther that starts to hurt. What is that? and what should i do?
     
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    all good stuff...more input from the expierenced players...???
     
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    For me it's not the stimulation to the prostate, it's the feel of being full and having something fucking me. I know, it feels like you are taking a dump, but I like to push out while I'm getting fucked and DAMN! All of the nerves in the area become alive. I don't cum from just anal, I need lots of other stimulation, but getting fucked feels so good.
     
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    all very true; from personal experience. while a small cock is great to start with [ and by small i mean 5" or less; yeah, I once met a 'top' who thought he was hung with 5" -- being a good host I didnt laugh and let him fuck me; easy. ] Also have had a 9 incher; easier than I thought it was going to be. For me, the worst is the in=between=size. Maybe 6 inches. not long enough to really hit all the spots for me but just long enough to be uncomfortable if the guy's got great girth. I usually top even those that say their a top; once we get our cocks out and compare.
     
  12. mistahonest

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    Awesome! thanks for the feedback everyone! :)

    So, is it like that for everyone?... the first few times are not that great?

    Also, should I do like jdoe86 says and push out?
    The only thing that's really bugging me is that constant feeling like I have to use the bathroom.
    If I could know the secret to getting around that, maybe I'd eventually find that "spot."
     
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    The secret?

    Hmmm! I dunno...agony and ecstasy?
     
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    right' "it hurts soooo good"
     
  15. D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah

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    That is the best tip you will get. As he is pushing in you push out and it will naturally open you up and be less painful then him pushing into a closed ass.

    At first it will feel like that but eventually you should be able to tell the difference in the sensations.
     
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    Remember that you have a secondary spincter about 4-5 inches inside beyond the rectum. That is where your colon attaches to you large intestines. To take more than 5 inches, you have to get that secondary spincter to relax and open. That is done by slow and repeated pressure on it (by your partner's penis). You will feel it when it relaxes and then more then 5 inches won't hurt. Remember also that length is one thing but it is often the girth of the penis that causes pain in the rectum.
     
  17. HellsKitchenmanNYC

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    I love to get fucked Sometimes it's awesome and sometimes not so great. Alot depends on how much you like it and relax...relax...relax. Nothing like having yr hands held down over your head as a guy bangs you good, his balls slapping your ass. It's great when the top guy goes slow at first and you can see in his eyes how he loves being inside you. There's a point past the prostate where a cock feels like it's going into a second 'room' and that is aweome!!
    Sometimes a certain position doesn't feel good w/all guys so you try it on yr back, side, stomach. I love it when a guys chest hair rubs on my back...it adds to the whole scene. Sometimes I wish I could do 5 gus at once! YUM! :D
     
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    Wrong. Read again and this time follow my drift. :biggrin1:
     
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    here's the secret...

    Trust and Allow.


    that's it.
     
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    I;m in no way advocating barebacking but this is one happy 6 load bottom! XTube Videos
     
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