Okay... reveal the secrets here. Pass along tips. Tell me your first time experiences, and how you grew into it if you didn't love it right from the start. Because, I just don't get it. I want to, but I seem to be without the gift. I've tried massaging my prostate with my finger about half a dozen times. The last few I sat there and did it for up to 30 minutes. Nothing... not a slight added sensation. I would even slowly jerk myself so I'd be hard to enlarge my prostate in hopes that would help... it didn't. But still, I see posts all the time about how great it is, or how great anal sex is. So I figured "Maybe I just have to up the ante." So I bought a prostate massager. A bit intimidating to me, but I worked it in. And no, that wasn't it at all. I was completely relaxed. Still, there was no pleasure and the feeling like I needed to take a crap would not go away. Please... educate me! And serious advice only. I want to understand what you guys are doing that I just don't grasp. A girl I know is dying to "explore me" one day. But I just don't see how I'd get anything out of it.