How the internet has ruined Etiquette

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  1. SoLowHung

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    My biggest pet peeve - People that feel like disappearing is a way to end a conversation. It's very easy to type "goodbye" or "I need to head out" or "TTL" or whatever. If you were talking to someone on the street you wouldn't just turn around an leave in mid sentence, would you?

    Second pet peeve - Ignoring someone as a way to say you are not interested. If you're not interested just say so; especially if you have been talking to them and then decide you don't want to anymore. I don't know when it became accepted to ignore someone when you don't want to converse with them anymore but it falls right in line with the way this memememe world is headed. Yes, I understand some of you get inundated with "offers"...tuff shit, if you don't like it then don't put yourself out there or initiate conversation.

    Third pet peeve - You don't even know me so don't get pissed off if I won't show you my cock right away. Okay now dissapear and ignore me because you didn't get what you want right away.

    Sorry for the rant but it seems to me like these actions have been bleeding over into the outernet as well so, I just wonder if anybody else has some etiquette peeves they've run across lately.
     
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    There is NOTHING worse than this.
     
  3. rawbone8

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    First of all, you might remember where we are. Good reasons might justify that behaviour. There must be people who are on here secretly and just vanish without a goodbye because their parent, co-worker, room mate, spouse, or child entered the room. They don't all live alone or make it an open activity. :eek:

    Good topic, though.

    It would be interesting to see people post here about how forms of technology open the doors to annoying and obnoxious behaviour.

    Home telephone answering / recording devices were a source of novelty at first in the 80s, then became a screening mechanism. Messages are left, and then no call back response is given. Voice mail &#8212; same thing.

    Home video seemed to encourage families to talk during the movie or entertainment they viewed in their own living rooms. The same behaviour in a public cinema then occurs as they repeat their learned habit, annoying the hell out of everyone.

    Mobile phone use in restaurants or on public transit, taking calls during meetings, cinema showings, theatre, all tend to be pretty boorish displays of selfishness.

    Internet message boards and the anonymity attached pretty much allows any form of approach, attack, teasing, jest, facetious character roleplay etc. It's no wonder that you encounter some disappointment. It goes with the territory. Important relationships tend to be more attentive to that kind of detail.

    Call people on it if it bothers you. They may be unaware.
     
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  5. IntoxicatingToxin

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    When guys IM me and their first questions is, "Can I see your tits?" I say to them... "Look... I know this is the internet but it doesn't mean you have a right to be an asshole. If you saw me sitting in a bar, would you walk up to me and ask me this question?? Didn't think so."
     
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    General rudeness. People can say things while on the internet that they'd never dare say in person. And so, they do.
     
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    Hey, Rob!
    Nice tits, wanna fuck?

    I knew a guy who couldn't say goodbye. If we spoke by phone and had basically concluded the purpose of the phone call I'd get the snap of the clamshell cell phone closing. This was a source of constant irritation. I chided him on it and managed to coax him to the point where he would end the call with an, "Ok" or a "talk to you later" before I heard the snap. Still not the expected "bye". That's just the sound I associate with the end of a conversation, maybe I was asking too much, I dunno, but I wanted a definitive cue to pull my phone from my ear before that "Snap!"

    The irony of this is that online he lingerd forever with the 'ttyl", "XOXO", "see you soon" before I could hope for a "bye".
     
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    Some folks see the internet as a whole different ball game to real life and that etiquette plays no part in the former. Sad but a fact of life.
     
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    Ultimately, your time is indeed your time to enjoy. This site offers a great PM tool, but using and/or ignoring it when one feels fit is well within the rights of the user. It's not always as simple as saying "Sorry, not interested", as the next step is to suffer through the obligatory "Well why not?" response. A chain of events normally follows that can waste 20 minutes of personal time while you joust back and forth trying to justify that you're either not in the mood or not interested period.

    Having said that, I do find that once you take the time to develop a rapport in the public area of the site, people are generally more willing to take chatting to a more personal level.
     
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    Some of us really are assholes in real life.
     
  11. Quite Irate

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    :redface: Doesn't sound like me AT ALL.
     
  12. earllogjam

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    For the most part I find LPSG'ers I've encountered here to be above board in the etiquiette department. Even when they are exchanging heated words they don't ignore each other. It's like a cocktail party here - you can join different conversations mingle around, go in and out of different topics, slip out to get a drink and come back. I do ignore PM's that start out "I'm 18 do you want to trade pixx?". I don't get much others probably because I haven't posted any pixs of myself - maybe that's a good thing. I have gotten a few flattering PM's that I always respond to.

    I think the more people who practice good etiquiette here the more it will become the norm and set the tone for the site. So practice good etiquiette even if others don't.

    This is like real life in that if you are rude to enough people you will be ostracized and no one will want to play with you anymore - I know Mme. Zora publicly outs rude people here - Maybe you should do the same.
     
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    If a guy hasn't asked in the room to pm me I feel perfectly justified in ignoring his pm, he's not used netiquette so I don't feel any obligation to answer him, however, if what he's said is interesting I usually do.
     
  14. Duality

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    I'm totally guilty of having bad 'netiquette' nowadays. But that wasn't always the case. I posted here a lot for a while, a while ago. I put (way too much of) my life right out in the open, on this site. I had a bunch of pictures up. And you know what? I got used, a shitload of times. And it felt shitty, every time.

    I was lied to over and over. I was stalked. I didn't stand up for myself and got sucked into conversations with sick, rude, insecure fucks the world over. Fuck you people, I don't owe anybody anything, and based on how so many people have treated me online, that includes the time of day.

    And then one day I pulled the ultimate #2 (see the original post in this thread). I left this site and completely ignored everyone from it. Best thing I could've done, and I don't regret my decision one bit. Sure, there were some nice people that probably got hurt (which sucks), but I'd bet there were ten times as many who, upon realizing I was gone, didn't even flinch. And there's no point in me feeling hurt over any of this, because it's only the internet, and in the end, none of this really matters.

    Am I an asshole? Yeah, but only because I need to be, to protect myself. As to why I came back... who the fuck knows. Maybe I'm lonely. :rolleyes:
     
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