How To Approach Him? Advice

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Hello everyone
i'd like to read your opinions on this issue.

A week ago, I met this guy at a local pharmacy store where he works, and i can not stop thinking about him. He was really cute, exactly my type of guy. There was a woman who helped me find what i was looking for but i noticed him looking at me while she was helping me. Nothing else happened, as it was quite crowded that moment, i payed and left the store.

I did try finding him on facebook and just my luck, i did. Apparently, we have a lot of common friends, even though i had never seen him before. I was also able to find out his is 2 years older than me and lives 15 minutes away to a town close to my town, probably went to a different school. This is why i had never seen him before.

Anyway, stalking his facebook page i realised he hasn't posted any ''girlfriend'' photos, and there is no ''relationship status'' showing, most of his posts, are photos with a big group of friends he has, both guys and girls. The rest of his photos are about football and general ''guy'' stuff that commonly str8 guys upload. I can't be sure if he's str8 or gay or curious by these findings, but if he was gay and since we live close, i think i'd find him on grindr or planetromeo or tinder all these years. Or maybe he is a type of guy who is gay but doesn't like these dating apps? who knows?

I find it weird that he's 30, really cute and a pharmacist, but single. I was thinking about making a move, trying to approach him but i have no idea how. Yesterday, while i was in the town centre with my friends, i run into him again, even though i had never seen this guy in my life before, in a week i bumped into him twice, is this karma or something? I did look at him and i noticed him looking at me again, but he was like 20 meters away, with his friends and i didn't do anything else.

Do you think i should friend request him on facebook? This is the only way i can think of approaching him but still i find it kinda weird. He has seen me twice, won't it be kinda awkward to randomly friend request him? Say i do friend request him and he accepts me, what do i do next?
 

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Stop stalking him on silly facebook, go back to the pharmacy when it is not busy, pick up some condoms and lube and make sure he serves you! then ask him for some 'advice'. Say you have a headache, ask what he would recommend and then add, 'not sure why I'm buying the condoms I would much rather have a scalp massage' and open the door for him to offer a scalp massage.

BUT, be prepared to be disappointed, just because he has no pics on silly facebook of a girl or boyfriend pic does not mean he does not have one, some people just don't post their personal life online for the whole world to see, some people (myself included) have nothing online about their personal and private life.

Or just ask him out for a coffee be gay up about it. Well you can be straight up about it can you!!

If it all backfires, you'll just have to use a different pharmacy!! Jump on the Grind and try someone else, it'll soon be tourist season and your choices will go up up up ;)
 

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How to approach him?

Approach him. Something like, "if you aren't in a relationship and you're interested, I'd like to meet you for coffee this evening". It leaves him an easy out if he's either not into guys, not into you, or not available. And an easy "yes", if he's all of the above.
 
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Hello everyone
i'd like to read your opinions on this issue.

A week ago, I met this guy at a local pharmacy store where he works, and i can not stop thinking about him. He was really cute, exactly my type of guy. There was a woman who helped me find what i was looking for but i noticed him looking at me while she was helping me. Nothing else happened, as it was quite crowded that moment, i payed and left the store.

I did try finding him on facebook and just my luck, i did. Apparently, we have a lot of common friends, even though i had never seen him before. I was also able to find out his is 2 years older than me and lives 15 minutes away to a town close to my town, probably went to a different school. This is why i had never seen him before.

Anyway, stalking his facebook page i realised he hasn't posted any ''girlfriend'' photos, and there is no ''relationship status'' showing, most of his posts, are photos with a big group of friends he has, both guys and girls. The rest of his photos are about football and general ''guy'' stuff that commonly str8 guys upload. I can't be sure if he's str8 or gay or curious by these findings, but if he was gay and since we live close, i think i'd find him on grindr or planetromeo or tinder all these years. Or maybe he is a type of guy who is gay but doesn't like these dating apps? who knows?

I find it weird that he's 30, really cute and a pharmacist, but single. I was thinking about making a move, trying to approach him but i have no idea how. Yesterday, while i was in the town centre with my friends, i run into him again, even though i had never seen this guy in my life before, in a week i bumped into him twice, is this karma or something? I did look at him and i noticed him looking at me again, but he was like 20 meters away, with his friends and i didn't do anything else.

Do you think i should friend request him on facebook? This is the only way i can think of approaching him but still i find it kinda weird. He has seen me twice, won't it be kinda awkward to randomly friend request him? Say i do friend request him and he accepts me, what do i do next?

Stalking people online because of a crush is childish. Try talking to the guy face to face like humans are supposed to do. Lol
 

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how do you all find it so easy to approach a random guy to ask him out? are people so open minded where you live? i live in Greece and not even Athens, in a small town in northern Greece, homosexuality is not something widely accepted. i am not openly gay, judging from his fb page neither he is. He works with other people in this pharmacy store, don't you think it would be kinda embarrassing asking him out while he's working and his co workers listening what we are talking about?

if it was that simple to go talk to him in person, ask him out, i'd just go do it, i would ask for your advice now. stop judging people before thinking. the ''childish way'' of stalking his facebook profile, was the only safe way not to make him feel awkward and still find out something about him. thanks
 

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I agree with a lot of posts above, just asked him out for a cup of coffee or a drink, do it when you see him out of the pharmacy, please don't do that in front of his co-workers!
Tell him you've seen him around town and you have some mutual friends.
As for being on social media, no big deal. I doubt he's trying to hide anything, one of my roommates years ago, a pharmacist, he worked on average 14 hours a day so there's little time for social activities and dating.

Take me for example, I have an active social life, I do it a little differently.
I actually talk to people in person or text. I don't do any social media just because nobody needs to know who I am, what I do, how I'm doing it or when I'm doing it every moment of the day.

Those who complain that I have no social media activities history anywhere, that I'm hiding something, I just walk away because I don't need those type of people in my life.

Also if you have some mutual friends together why not ask those friends what his status is and they might give you some insight.
 

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how do you all find it so easy to approach a random guy to ask him out? are people so open minded where you live? i live in Greece and not even Athens, in a small town in northern Greece, homosexuality is not something widely accepted. i am not openly gay, judging from his fb page neither he is. He works with other people in this pharmacy store, don't you think it would be kinda embarrassing asking him out while he's working and his co workers listening what we are talking about?

if it was that simple to go talk to him in person, ask him out, i'd just go do it, i would ask for your advice now. stop judging people before thinking. the ''childish way'' of stalking his facebook profile, was the only safe way not to make him feel awkward and still find out something about him. thanks

I don't think anyone even implied it was "so easy". There isn't some magic solution to the first contact with someone, which we know and are withholding from you. It's more than obvious that discretion is important in ANY situation where personal business is initiated in someone's place of business, regardless of the orientation of those involved, and again, nobody implied you should be speaking within earshot of others. But it's a pharmacy. Here in the US most pharmacies have a more private counter area away from the rest, where a customer can have a discrete discussion with the pharmacist. Even lacking this, you could ask him if you can discuss a matter with him quietly and away from others. It'll seem to any other worker that it's a pharmacy matter.

If for some reason this isn't possible, it's far less creepy than silently Fbook stalking if you simply send a friend request along with a message that makes it clear you saw him at the pharmacy and then while out, and that you're interested. It's to the point, and how mature adults interact.
 

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Are you out to any of your friends? If you are, there's a reasonable chance that you may have friends in common (one of the advantages of living in a small town) . That could work nicely as you could then find out more about him before trying the direct approach.

If you can't get any information about him, just crack jokes with him when you're at the pharmacy, build some rapport slowly and tell him where you like to go out, and that he's welcome to join when you're next out.
 

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Hello everyone
i'd like to read your opinions on this issue.

A week ago, I met this guy at a local pharmacy store where he works, and i can not stop thinking about him. He was really cute, exactly my type of guy. There was a woman who helped me find what i was looking for but i noticed him looking at me while she was helping me. Nothing else happened, as it was quite crowded that moment, i payed and left the store.

I did try finding him on facebook and just my luck, i did. Apparently, we have a lot of common friends, even though i had never seen him before. I was also able to find out his is 2 years older than me and lives 15 minutes away to a town close to my town, probably went to a different school. This is why i had never seen him before.

Anyway, stalking his facebook page i realised he hasn't posted any ''girlfriend'' photos, and there is no ''relationship status'' showing, most of his posts, are photos with a big group of friends he has, both guys and girls. The rest of his photos are about football and general ''guy'' stuff that commonly str8 guys upload. I can't be sure if he's str8 or gay or curious by these findings, but if he was gay and since we live close, i think i'd find him on grindr or planetromeo or tinder all these years. Or maybe he is a type of guy who is gay but doesn't like these dating apps? who knows?

I find it weird that he's 30, really cute and a pharmacist, but single. I was thinking about making a move, trying to approach him but i have no idea how. Yesterday, while i was in the town centre with my friends, i run into him again, even though i had never seen this guy in my life before, in a week i bumped into him twice, is this karma or something? I did look at him and i noticed him looking at me again, but he was like 20 meters away, with his friends and i didn't do anything else.

Do you think i should friend request him on facebook? This is the only way i can think of approaching him but still i find it kinda weird. He has seen me twice, won't it be kinda awkward to randomly friend request him? Say i do friend request him and he accepts me, what do i do next?

Contact him of Facebook. In your message point out that you've been seeing him around and you checked him on FB because he looked "familiar" to you. When you did that, you saw that you have many common friends and interests. Based on that, would he like to get together for a drink sometime SOON to meet.

If he is interested at all, he'll go for it, if he's not he can turn you down without any drama. Your meeting should give you an idea if he is gay or not - go from there. Good luck!
 

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i have friend requested him and i am expecting a reaction. OMG i'm so excited and scared now. thinking about taking back my request but he might have seen it and won't respond... i'm so nervous

You've made the plunge. Plenty more fish in the sea if it doesn't work out.
 

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it's been 6 hours since i friend requested him, he has not responded, i feel kinda embarrassed already
Not every one is glued to FB! I have quite a few friends who might only check like once a week. Stop worrying just for now!
 
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