I'm not sure if this is the right place to be posting this or not, but it seemed as good a place as any.
There's a local bar that I go to every saturday night for "Tawdry Team Trivia" night. I have a good friend named Wes, and he is the DJ that hosts this show. I've known him for about 4 years now. A couple months ago, I noticed a new server that they had on the staff named Chris. I thought he was cute, but never really put too much thought into him. Over the last several weeks, I've been getting to recognize his personality a little bit more, and I'm really into him. Two saturdays ago, I told Wes that I liked him. Chris and I talked a little bit throughout the night, and he's really a cool guy. He tried teaching me to liquid dance, but I'm physically unable to do that, I think. He was also teasing me a bit, and I caught him laughing at my jokes a few times. Later that night (10 minutes before the bar closed, I might add), Wes took it upon himself to tell Chris that I liked him. I was standing by my table talking to a friend, and Wes and Chris were talking. I noticed Wes look over at me, then Chris turned around and looked at me. I figured something was up. After a few minutes, Chris got called away to go clean up some puke that someone so kindly left in the entrance to the bar, so I walked over to Wes to see if he and Chris had been talking about me. He said that they were, and that he told Chris I was really into him. I asked him what Chris' reaction was, and he said he was just kinda surprised, and that he had no idea I was into him. But he never commented on whether or not he was into me. Then the bar closed, so I had to go home.
Then this past saturday rolls around, and I go to the bar with my two roommates. We are sitting at table in the center of the bar. Everytime Chris has a table to deliver food too, he walks right behind me. I kept noticing one of my roommates smiling everytime Chris walked by, and I asked him why he was doing it. He said he was smiling because Chris kept smiling when he walked by. I'm not sure why he was smiling of course, but whatever. I'm just giving you all the details. Chris stops by our table on a couple of occasions to help me with some trivia questions, but other than that, we didn't really talk. He was working, after all. My roommates leave, and I'm stuck doing trivia by myself. (Which really sucks, by the way.) Wes keeps trying to get Chris and I talking. Wes says that Chris is incredibly shy and would probably never ask me out on a date. Problem is, I'm way to shy to ask a guy out myself, unless I know that the guy is into me. Chris is always really friendly with me, verging on the side of being flirtatious, but I don't know him well enough to say whether he's being nice or flirty. So anywho.
I'm kinda stuck on what to do. Chris knows I like him, but he hasn't asked me out. Is he too shy? Is he trying to get to know me better first? Or is he just not interested at all? Should I ask him out myself? (I am terrified of rejection. It's actually gotten to the point of me thinking that I'd rather just be single than have to ask him out and run the risk of him turning me down.) He spent some time talking to me this past weekend, which makes me think that he's not UNinterested. I mean, if he knew I liked him but he wasn't interested, he could easily just avoid talking to me. I never sit in his section, and he's never been my server. But he didn't avoid me. So I'm not sure what to think. I know I'm reading way too much into this, but that's me. I over analyze everything. He's such a great guy, though! I mean, what are the odds of meeting a hot guy that is in a metal band AND went to culinary school?! So anyway... yeah. Comments or advice would be greatly appreciated. :biggrin: Thanks!
There's a local bar that I go to every saturday night for "Tawdry Team Trivia" night. I have a good friend named Wes, and he is the DJ that hosts this show. I've known him for about 4 years now. A couple months ago, I noticed a new server that they had on the staff named Chris. I thought he was cute, but never really put too much thought into him. Over the last several weeks, I've been getting to recognize his personality a little bit more, and I'm really into him. Two saturdays ago, I told Wes that I liked him. Chris and I talked a little bit throughout the night, and he's really a cool guy. He tried teaching me to liquid dance, but I'm physically unable to do that, I think. He was also teasing me a bit, and I caught him laughing at my jokes a few times. Later that night (10 minutes before the bar closed, I might add), Wes took it upon himself to tell Chris that I liked him. I was standing by my table talking to a friend, and Wes and Chris were talking. I noticed Wes look over at me, then Chris turned around and looked at me. I figured something was up. After a few minutes, Chris got called away to go clean up some puke that someone so kindly left in the entrance to the bar, so I walked over to Wes to see if he and Chris had been talking about me. He said that they were, and that he told Chris I was really into him. I asked him what Chris' reaction was, and he said he was just kinda surprised, and that he had no idea I was into him. But he never commented on whether or not he was into me. Then the bar closed, so I had to go home.
Then this past saturday rolls around, and I go to the bar with my two roommates. We are sitting at table in the center of the bar. Everytime Chris has a table to deliver food too, he walks right behind me. I kept noticing one of my roommates smiling everytime Chris walked by, and I asked him why he was doing it. He said he was smiling because Chris kept smiling when he walked by. I'm not sure why he was smiling of course, but whatever. I'm just giving you all the details. Chris stops by our table on a couple of occasions to help me with some trivia questions, but other than that, we didn't really talk. He was working, after all. My roommates leave, and I'm stuck doing trivia by myself. (Which really sucks, by the way.) Wes keeps trying to get Chris and I talking. Wes says that Chris is incredibly shy and would probably never ask me out on a date. Problem is, I'm way to shy to ask a guy out myself, unless I know that the guy is into me. Chris is always really friendly with me, verging on the side of being flirtatious, but I don't know him well enough to say whether he's being nice or flirty. So anywho.
I'm kinda stuck on what to do. Chris knows I like him, but he hasn't asked me out. Is he too shy? Is he trying to get to know me better first? Or is he just not interested at all? Should I ask him out myself? (I am terrified of rejection. It's actually gotten to the point of me thinking that I'd rather just be single than have to ask him out and run the risk of him turning me down.) He spent some time talking to me this past weekend, which makes me think that he's not UNinterested. I mean, if he knew I liked him but he wasn't interested, he could easily just avoid talking to me. I never sit in his section, and he's never been my server. But he didn't avoid me. So I'm not sure what to think. I know I'm reading way too much into this, but that's me. I over analyze everything. He's such a great guy, though! I mean, what are the odds of meeting a hot guy that is in a metal band AND went to culinary school?! So anyway... yeah. Comments or advice would be greatly appreciated. :biggrin: Thanks!